need advises :( im very confused :( love issue

love is complicated - girl hugging guy
Portugal
September 1, 2010 3:49pm CST
hi guys^^ We all know that love is something we can't explain neither decide to delete from our hearts just because it makes us feel better. I will tell you my story. When i met this guy at first, John , i was in love with someone else. We talked much and he said he loves me. I asked him time to forget the other guy and with time it happened. Me and this guy started to share many things together. He sang to me, said I'm the only one and I was totally happy. Then suddenly, he started to act strange with me. I didn't know what was happening and asked him but he just said he was busy. Till one day, I went talk with him and he said that there was other girl he loved. He said that he met her after meet me and that he fell in love with her because I lived too far. He wanted to leave his job even to forget her. Some days later, we talked and he said he is sure he loves me and want to be with me. I didn't know if I should trust his word but i decided to. So we were together today, but I told him that there is a guy that really loves me, his name is Jonas , and that I need to talk with him first. I need tell him i choose John before tell it to everyone. John was sad with this but he said that he gives me time to think what I really want. Thinking about it, I see he is right. This other guy, he loves me too much and I know he wouldn't lie or cheat on me. I know he would do all to make me happy. This one i told you about first, he hurt me already saying he loves me and liked other girl too. I'm too confused right now. I know if I choose Jonas he will do all to make me happy but it was John that made me too sad when we were sad with each other and when he told me about that girl my heart was totally broken. Right now, I dont know what I should do. I want to be with John but if things don't work well Jonas won't be there anymore for me. He has the right to be happy with someone else and not wait me forever. I'm afraid to get hurt again. For those that are reading and have been in that situation too what did you guys do? :( im so confused :( is like im sure i want to be with john but what if i get too hurt :( i know i must choose by my heart but right now i dont know what to do :(
3 responses
@YazEid (1139)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Baby ,, your story is so complicated ,, maybe you have to wait for a period of time and re-evaluate your situation ,, maybe then u can think clearer ..
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• Portugal
2 Sep 10
thanks for worry^^ you are right i needed time but now im with John so i dont want to hurt him^^ i just wish that he really makes me happy :)
@shearry18 (118)
• Davao, Philippines
2 Sep 10
You are torn between two lovers my friend! yes it is really confusing. I've been with this kind of relationship before but what I did was I let go the two of them. I was too confused whom to pick. But it was a good decision for me because when I told them that they should look for someone else, a week after I saw them with other girls already. The reason why I did not choose whom to be with is because to test them if they can wait. If they can wait that long then that person really loves you. Do not panic with your decisions. It always takes time.=)
• Portugal
2 Sep 10
ohh so sad so they never even loved you :( so you made right decision^^ about me jonas is waiting me since so so long already i cant keep him waiting :( is like while i liked other guys he always been there waiting me to choose him :( thats why is so hard for me to hurt him :( bcs i know he loves me truly and would never hurt me. but i chose john and i need be happy with him now. i know i love him just im too confused right now bcs i hate to hurt someone that really do love me :(
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
follow what your heart desires. it doesn't mean being selfish. if you feel like giving John a chance, you have to give him 100% of your trust and forget all about Jonas. If you feel that you will be happier with Jonas, forget about John and your past. Forget all the hurt that might be a hinder to your wonderful relationship with Jonas. Did you know that of all the people you mentioned in the story, you are the luckiest? Their future and their happiness are on your hands, on your decision. I suggest, lift everything up to God and he will show you the way. I'm sure you don't need to rush on things and to decide asap. Weigh things because you might lost something forever. Hope this helps. :)
• Portugal
2 Sep 10
thanks for your advices^^ sure you are right if i choose one i need to forget all about the other :) im with John now and i need tell Jonas what i decided but im so afraid that i chose wrong :( i know that both love me but is like with John i dont know what will happen in future. with jonas i know he wouldnt cheat on me neither look to other girl even but john he looked to other girl while he was saying he loved me so thats why im so afraid :( thanks for support me^^ your advises me made me almost cry :( im so confused :(