Have you ever thought what now what do they want????

Canada
September 3, 2010 1:45pm CST
I have a good range of friends some I look forward to hearing from each day and have ausome conversations with and I text with alot too....But there are some of my friends like oh man what is the nothing we are going to talk about today??? I don't wanna answer this or I will call back later maybe??? I have a couple of friends like that I love them as my friends don't get me wrong but I just get tired of the same nothing chit chatter with one of them.....The other one likes to talk about drinking drinking and more drinking blah lol....And the other complains allll the time but also she is a fake friend lol so I do my best... Have you ever felt like that???
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10 responses
@laydee (12809)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
I know how you feel, I have different type of friends and most of them are the type of friends I'd love to talk to at least once or twice a year only. It doesn't mean that they're not real friends, it's just there isn't really anything that we need to talk about most of the time. Unless of course there are instances or situations that has happened and we need to bond up. I think when you grow older, your need to talk is not as much as when we're younger. You see, when we grow older we have other priorities in life, we no longer have time to just worry about ourselves we have other people who we worry about (children, spouse, work, etc.) Soon, we find ourselves not having much time to socialize with our friends but doesn't mean that the friendship is gone. It simply means that if we're really good friends or if they really are our friends they (and of course we) should understand that it doesn't take a lot of talk to keep the friendship growing. Even in silence, friendship will not fade.
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
I agree life can sometimes be hectic that you don't have the time to sit and chit chat....Thanks for your reponse HappyMylotting....
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• United States
3 Sep 10
I had a friend like that. I had to leave her alone and move on with my life. Not only was she fake but she told me everyones business to the point I could not trust her with mine.
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
That would be a good reason to let someone go.....I'm sorry to hear about that...
• Canada
4 Sep 10
I too had to do that giftsandbags. A so called "friend" of mine had such a boring life that she went to another friend of mine and told her a bunch of stuff that I never said. In fact it was things that she had said herself about that friend not me, and it made things very tense between the other friend and I. BUT I think in the end the friend realized that I never said that about her, but for other reasons it was too late!
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• United States
5 Sep 10
I don't blame you one bit. You did the right thing. Now life is better without her I am sure.
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@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
5 Sep 10
I used to have a couple of Friends like that but I slowly come away from those Friendship because the only time they contacted me was if they needed something or wanted a Favor or just to complain about things and to be honest at that time I had more then enough Problems on my Plate without having to deal with these 2 Friends
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• Canada
5 Sep 10
That is exactly how I feel somedays when I hear from these friends....They only text me or call me cuz they have nothing better to do or complain to me or talk about nothing....hugzzzz Sweetie
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
...i have experienced something like this...it's like they are your friends but you are not enjoying their company..somehow, your likes and preferences are not the same, but for the sake of the friendship, you still pretend that you are interested so that you won't be able to hurt their feeling...
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• Canada
5 Sep 10
True, I am interested most of the time just somedays I have to prepare myself...
@Hatley (164154)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Sep 10
blueangel two complainers have singled me out as a friend and I like one but dislike the other. The one complains a lot but she also has told me about her life and her childhood and she really did have it rough, I can empathize with her, but the other never stops complaining and whats worse she grabs my arm which I hate, only close friends do that with me, not people I barely know.I think I am normal as we all have comfort zones where we feel at ease with other people and closer zones really do bother us a lot.
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• Canada
4 Sep 10
Yes so true to that Hatley I don't mind talking to these friends most of the time just sometimes when I'm having a rough day such as today it gets to be too much for me if that makes sense?
@jugsjugs (13038)
3 Sep 10
One of my husbands friends i feel like this towards,like what is it this time.I also feel very uncomfortable when my husbands friend is here.My husband is also getting really fed up of his friend keep popping in aswell,as he even do it when we have company.
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• Canada
3 Sep 10
Oh wow that would get annoying at someone just popping in even when you already have company...
• United States
3 Sep 10
I really hate to answer this with a "yes" answer, but I'm afraid I have to... I've known a number of people over the years and I ended up with that "oh no, what do they want now?" thing going through my head when I saw an email or got a call. And I have to say that it's not a good feeling. I think a lot of it is because some people really don't contact their "friends" until they want something... so that's why we end up feeling this way. The complainer you mentioned... oh boy do I know people like that! It's like I cringe and try to think of a way to escape. :-) Of course if it's a real friend, I gladly listen... I'm talking about people who don't come around until they need something.
• Canada
3 Sep 10
I have good friends that I will gladly be there for them anytime as they are for me but one of my friends it seems it's one thing after another after another I'm like oh boy but yet I still listen....I try not to be rude and ignore her calls but I just need that space and time to prepare....I get a call every morning from another friend and I look forward to those calls....
• Canada
4 Sep 10
Yes, I have quite a range of friends too! For the most part I am delighted to hear from my friends and enjoy talking, texting, or even emailing or messaging on face book! I used to have some friends that made me feel like "Oh goodness what now?" but I got rid of those types of friends. It was hard enough to keep up with them wasting my time with useless chatter with one child, but now that I have two children I have a lot less time in the day to get the things done that I need to do so I'm not going to stop just to listen to someone bicker about something stupid or some useless chit chat. That is just my own personal experience anyhow. Plus I would rather spend a break on here then listen to someone yip yap about nothing!
• Canada
4 Sep 10
I just try not to let it bother me and sluff it off but for the most part I have a good range of friends that I look forward to hearing from....I think we all have run into this type of situation more then we like to admit lol....Thanks for your response hun have a great weekend...
• Canada
4 Sep 10
Thanks, hope you have a great weekend too!
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• Canada
5 Sep 10
Thanks hun....
@dawnald (84235)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Sep 10
It's not so much the phone, as chat. :D
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• Canada
8 Sep 10
I agree sometimes when I hear the phone it's great until I see the number lol..
@sender621 (14932)
• United States
4 Sep 10
Some friends just talk to you because they want to chitchat with you. It does have to be about anything else special. then there are those who only get in touch with you because they want something from you. These are the people i would often like to avoid. If i am your friend, i like to be just that. i don't want friendship that has to come at a price.
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• Canada
5 Sep 10
I agree to that sender, I don't mind chit chatting with my friends just somedays I'm not up for it....