Child in the office. Unprofessional?

@ddaguno (3107)
Philippines
September 7, 2010 4:26am CST
I like children but not when I am working. My boss' wife is a teacher and his older son has music lessons. So he has been bringing her 4 year old daughter to the office. She is not the type who will just sit in a corner and do her stuff. In contrary, she is a chatterbox that wouldn't stop talking even if you give her something to do. I understand that no one will take care of her taht's why he brought her.But i'm not sure if I would do the same if it was my child. Especially now that our office hours are cut short and we have to finish a lot. What do you think?
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@cikers (18)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Actually it was also happen to me since my wife has been to school also to fetch the eldest kids while the youngest one come with me at office because nobody's left at house. The experience is yet not normal, I had sacrifice the performance of my fellow workers but looks like they have no choice since I was the officers in-charge and part owner also. I am not taking it for granted since i was the OIC but there is no option since my wife did not want me to hire a nanny. of course I found my self Unprofessional of doing it but I'm still thinking of alternatives. any suggestion would be nice though.
• United States
8 Sep 10
You have several choices: Your wife takes the youngest child with her and if she wants a job, works from home. You stay with the child at home and if you want a job, work from home. Find a neighbor to help for as long as it takes for someone to get back to the house and your child. Or, get serious, and hire a nanny, so that both you and your wife can be professionals at work and parents at home. Bringing a child into any work environment to stay the whole day is miserable for the child, takes away productivity from the office and makes your employees resent you for placing them in a no-win situation.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
I agree. Both the work and the child suffer. I believe this practice should be avoided as much as possible.
@sinliong (88)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 10
I somehow agree with you. I mean, we shouldn't intentionally bring our child to our office. That would be disturbing. Most of the kids were unruly, they didn't know yet, when it's time to get serious and when to have a joke. How can we do our job properly if these kids continue to disturb our concentrations? In the case of your boss, he should have planned to resolve the problem about his daughter before hand. All of the activity of his family is a routine activity, so he should be able to arrange the schedule. It would be different if there is something unexpected happens. We don't know what will happen in the future, so sometimes we must take an instant decision like maybe taking our child to our office because his babysitter had an accident or else. Of course, we can't complaining for that kind of incident.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
He has no basby sitter and I was told that he has been doing this even before I came to the office and you are right, I definitely cannot complain.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Sep 10
i think it`s not good to bring a child in office...slow but sure, it can make problems for you and your officemate if you bring a child in office
@aurorastorm (1134)
• United States
7 Sep 10
I think if this was a one time occurrence, it would be okay. From your post it sounds like it is ongoing and it is causing all of you to much commotion in your office. I think that the fact that this is interrupting the work that needs to be done, this should not be allowed. Also would your boss be so gracious to let one of you bring your kid to work, most would not allow that.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
people in the office were saying that his daughter should also be part of the payroll since is always there. thankfully he didnt bring her today. school starts on sunday so we wont be seing her for some time.
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
This could really be an irritant particularly if you have things to finish and deadlines to meet. There are big companies who have day care centers for their employees children but not all companies can afford this. This thing happened in our workplace, too, where the son wandered off and practically wrecked a whole room (Lol) to the dismay of the occupants. The mother never brought the son to the office again. But, I suppose, these are exceptions rather than the rule. And they would not be in the office, I would suppose so, if it was not expedient on the case of the parent. It is the parent's responsibility to make sure child is not a bother.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
well, in fairness to my boss he tried to keep his daughter from disturbing somebody. but she cries very loudlu of nhe tries yo bring him in his office.
@mimining (203)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Tug along your sister too so your bosses' daughter can have someone to play with. Just kidding. If it's a family owned business, that is no surprise. If at all times, you ignore your bosses' daughter for disturbing you then your boss will have the impression that it is perfectly ok with you. Just be polite and let him know how you feel and am sure, the next time he brings along his daughter, he will keep that in mind and probably keep her in his office instead. Afterall, it's his deadline you will miss if he does not act on that.
@ddaguno (3107)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
Great idea! I should ask my boss a schedule for a play date And no it is not a family owned business. My boss is just an employee. He just gets special treatment because he brings in a lot of projects.
@jpso138 (7856)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I do agree with you that its not good to have children in the office most especially if they hamper your work. I think its rather unprofessional. The thing is, your boss wife may not have think of it and think that everything is okay. I do hope that your boss wife will be able to realized that such situation is not good for the employees and may affect the employees output and productivity.
@cream97 (29122)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Hi, ddaguno. I wonder if her daughter can be placed in a day care of some sort. That way her mom can get her things done without the child disturbing her while she is working on her job. I am very surprised that the boss over her mom has nothing to say about her child being brought into the workforce.
• Singapore
8 Sep 10
Hmm...Maybe you can consider talking to your boss about it. You can remind him that your office hours are cut short and about your work too. Otherwise you can also recommend a child care centre for his daughter.
@ip5217 (1655)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I don't think this is such a good idea, very unprofessional in fact. Your boss did not consider the welfare of his employees. He did not even bother to ask you guys if you are being bothered by his son. I think if you are already distracted by his son's presence, it's about time you bring this matter to his attention.
@MDG2211 (711)
• Argentina
13 Sep 10
well do not think this is permanent for the moment is that it has no one to leave his son, but surely it will solve, but if her behavior is not good, is actually an office is no place for kids . In addition to this criterion, all those working in the office, have the same right to bring their children, as her boss is doing, so if it does not solve this, will bring more complications later.
@GDTimothy (446)
• United States
9 Sep 10
I think that it's quite inappropriate to bring a child like that into the office and expect you employees to get their work done the same way. He really needs to find a babysitter. Or, he needs to take the "distraction" into consideration when he decides what work he should expect from you. I don't think it's fair to the child either. Just my 2 cents. :-)
@priyayogi (222)
• India
7 Sep 10
child in office is very difficult to manage the situation beacause the child having some habots to take some things ang they do some creativity in their style.so that is not work in office timings.so we avoid to go with ur child in ur office.
@boertji (17)
• South Africa
7 Sep 10
I agree 100%. You cant manage a child in the office. There is nothing for them to do, and you consistently need to after it. It is definitely unprofessional if you have to attend to a client, and every 5 minutes see to the child.
@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
7 Sep 10
Hi dear, I think your boss's wife is not bothered of the official matters. Your boss's wife is over estimating herself and thinking such practices can be considered as they are the part of the sole authority. I don't think getting children at office regularly are against professional ethics and is a kind of unwanted nuisances. Even I like children a lot. But if they are in the wrong place, it should not be recommended. Engine oil is good if it is placed in the proper place, but if it placed in our hands, we should wash it out. Here also, the same. If the child is of boss, upto a certain time, it is good and ok, and if continues, they what to do? Just get way from there. They will understand and next time they will take care of it, if they have a bit of common sense. Regards, Thank-s
@elquds (14)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 10
i thing that, because they are interfire with our activities