Taking the Initiative
By dreemsofdark
@dreemsofdark (714)
United States
September 8, 2010 4:04pm CST
I am very shy in bed. Usually when I am feeling like I want to get frisky my self conciousness takes over and I freeze up, not knowing what to do! My boyfriend says that he feels like always having to take the initiative puts pressure on him and makes him sometimes feel like I am not interested in him, which is NOT the case at all!! I don't want him to feel pressured and I DO want to take initiative I am just unsure of how to do it. Ladies, advice?
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4 responses
@The_Mechanical_Turk (208)
• United States
8 Sep 10
I believe that a girl has a natural charm and I know that girls know the weaknesses and how to satisfy a guy. Theirs nothing wrong to take the initial move as long as you really love the guy, sometimes when you lessen your inhibition could really helps and have a open mind. Trust me for the perspective of a guy the more the girl that is open to him he will be open to her more! :P
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@dreemsofdark (714)
• United States
9 Sep 10
Thanks! The difference between us is that he has a lot of experience, and I have little experience. So I guess it's almost like a communication gap.
@wazzeh (17)
• Hungary
12 Sep 10
Girl you just make the solution yourself. If he is so far nore experienced than you just ask him to teach you. Its a bit fun and both of you will enjoy it. And you could get off the pressure as you will know what is he likes and what to do etc..
Give it a try! I made teaching and both of us loved it.
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
8 Sep 10
You can always make your man comfortable by saying some romantic stuff, or be like a little girl in desperate need of caring for the moment. Men would usually fall for it, and they would feel much comfortable if they tell them you want them such and such. It is your call that make them know that you want them.
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@dreemsofdark (714)
• United States
8 Sep 10
Thank you! I will let my boyfriend know how important he is to me. Telling him how wonderful and sexy I think he is shouldn't be hard, right? 
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
8 Sep 10
Well that is why he is a man. Men are the hunters and us women love to be hunted. That is natural. Believe you me, when he is good to you in more ways than one, you will take infinitive at your own time, in your own way. Your not pressuring him, he is pressuring you! Making you feel guilty. He should except you the way you are.
If he brings some more romance in your life, you will automatically start taking more initiative. He is suppose to build up your self confidence, not put you down.
So, be yourself and let things happen naturally.
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