Parents who find scapegoats for their bad parenting.
By megamatt
@megamatt (14290)
United States
September 9, 2010 8:55am CST
I feel rather blessed to have parents that are good parents and are actually sane. If they made mistakes with me, at least they blamed themselves and not some external force, like books, television, movies, video games or whatever. Yet, parents see their kids acting out and they obviously blame everything but themselves. It is rather annoying sometimes and this is what leads to the call of certain things to be banned, but really it's your fault. I can't be the only one who is annoyed by this.
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5 responses
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
12 Sep 10
Parents are responsible for the behavior of their children. Unfortunately, too many parents don't want that responsibility. Makes one wonder why they had their children in the first place if they're not going to do right by them.
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
12 Sep 10
That is the million dollar question in a lot of the case. I wonder where a lot of parents even bothered to have children. Of course, a lot of the times, it really was not intentional to begin with. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@qianyun6 (2066)
• China
10 Sep 10
OK, you have got the essence of the question! Always people like to find objective scapegoats for their subjective mistakes, I don't like it. One should be responsible for all his/her activities!
But I should say, sometimes it's the children themselves should be responsible for their faults, not their parents.
@megamatt (14290)
• United States
10 Sep 10
It can really go either way, depending on the situations. Many times the children are fault. However, when they are younger and quite naive, the parents should really carefully steer them, until they are ready to make smart situations. Thank you for your response. It is much appreciated and it contributed to the topic well. Have a nice day and thanks.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
23 Oct 10
Hi Megamatt,
Oh you aren't alone in this. I get irritated with it also. I grew up with the cartoons of the 60's like road runner, tom and Jerry etc. Pretty violent right? I'm not violent and neither are my brothers. My own kids grew up with the video games and tv shows that all these other kids blame their stupid actions on. Thing is, they need to be taught from early on to take responsibility for their own actions. That's on the parents as well as teaching them right from wrong and fact from fiction etc. I really don't understand why anyone would listen to the excuse that these kids "saw something in a game or show and thought it would be a good idea to try it." There's this old saying, If your friend jumped off a bridge..... They are not doing them any favors by letting them get away with these excuses.
@hvedra (1619)
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22 Oct 10
A lot of people who have kids can barely look after themselves. They won't be responsible or accountable for their own actions and are always looking for someone/thing to blame.
I do think that too much TV/gaming of the wrong type can be a bad influence on kids. The answer is not to scream about banning a game or show but to ban it yourself by not letting your kids have access to it. Simple really.
Of course that would mean the adults in the house taking an interest in what the kids are doing and being exposed to. The adults taking responsibility for what the kid is exposed to. The adult saying "no" to a child which some of them seem incapable of doing (of course, it might call into question some of their own viewing/gaming habits and that is something a lot of them cannot deal with).
I've seen THAT for real. Someone we know is a constant gamer who's kids are also constantly gaming. He tells them to stop but, of course, they point out how much time he spends gaming and it all kicks off with a huge argument and then the all go back to gaming and nothing is resolved.
@itsmamanen (423)
• Philippines
21 May 12
my parents doesn't blame objects for my bad attitude. they say its because i was misguided. i appreciate the way they brought me up. i grew up to be a god-fearing person. though some kids are influenced by television, movies, etc, it is the responsibility of the parents to guide the children in whatever they do or watch.
