A brother I have never Met.
@AmazedSweetie (63)
United States
September 9, 2010 1:02pm CST
Hello MyLotters!
Something has been bothering me for some time now. I found out a few years back that i have a half brother that lives in the same city I was born in and that I have family Living in. Long story short, my dad was engaged before he met my mom, and he had a son. He is a few years older then I am, and I have never met him.
When he turned 18, his mom gave him my dad's address and contact information. She felt that was best so he could decide what he wanted to do. He and my dad chatted and my dad went to his graduation and all that stuff. I still have not met him. I talk to his sister and she says that he is like my dad. Very shy not very talkative or anything. I gave her my information to give to him and it must have been a failed attempt because I haven't heard a word.
I don't know if I should keep pushing or just let it go. I would love to meet him! I would also like to meet him before I get married in 2012. I highly doubt that he would come to my wedding, if he has never met me.
Do you guys have any advice? Thanks!
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3 responses
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
12 Sep 10
Hi Amaazed,
I am so glad I came upon this topic...ok long story are you ready lol....when I was 19 I got married. while married my husband got engaged to another grrrrrr. I was pregnant and had a beautiful daughter who is 32 now. After our divorce he married the one he was cheating on me with and had 2 boys with her. They are now 30 and 25. My daughter has yet to set eyes on her sperm donor she likes to call him, and she is friends with her half brother now on facebook. she has attempted a couple times to get together with him and he always shows an interst but has yet to make contact with her...their father all these years has denied her as being his and my daughter just wants to prove otherwise. her and her brother does talk on fb and he just told my daughter the other day that he believes in his heart that they are related but still no contact...your brother knows how to get in contact with you so I would let him make the first move. like I tell my daughter if her brothers dont want to be in her life its their loss....maybe its not in the timing for your brother to meet you yet. I think there is a time and place for everything. if he never contacts you it will be his loss too but never say never its just all in the timing...am I making any sense here lol...congrat on your up coming wedding I wish you both a lifetime of happiness :)
@AmazedSweetie (63)
• United States
13 Sep 10
Thank you so much for responding! I was hoping I would run into someone on here that had a somewhat like experience! Yea, I tried emailing him a couple years ago. My mom said that it may have been too soon because he and my dad had just gotten back into contact. I'm just sitting back, and hoping for the best! :D
@Wordjunkie (435)
• Canada
11 Sep 10
Hi Amazed,
I think if I were you I would approach him through your Dad. His sister may have for some reason chosen not to forward the information to him. You never know she may resent the fact that he has half-siblings. If you approach him through your Dad you will at least know that it has been presented to him that you are interested in meeting him. Maybe he feels awkward or thinks perhaps that he will upset his Dad if he contacts you. And if he is approached through your Dad he will know that your dad is in favor of the meeting. Good Luck, hope it works out for you. :)
@AmazedSweetie (63)
• United States
12 Sep 10
I had asked my dad and he said that it was completely up to him. My dad says that he should be the one to say something because it is evident that I want to meet him. Dad says he knows how to contact him, at least, if he feels he wants to met.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
21 Dec 10
congrats on your future wedding
maybe try get his contact info and contact him instead?
you said he is shy, maybe it's not a bad idea to contact him first
I was told that I do have a sister here and I have never met
I mean this part of the world, not necessarily Canada
but whoever said it, never gave me any information and she doesn't seem like a nice person, interfering in our family matters too
my brother doesn't like her either, I guess I will never know whether it's true or not
