my partner dont want to marry and i love her soo much? tell me what i have to do

@barelal (111)
India
September 11, 2010 11:17am CST
i love her soo much but see said that she doesn't want to marry to anybody but i couldn't live without her.........
8 responses
• United States
11 Sep 10
How long have you two been together? Perhaps it is too soon in the relationship. There are probably several reasons why. Not ready, too soon, career aspirations. Have you asked her why not? From your discussion you say you love her so much you can't live without her. Give her time, to see that perhaps she too will not be able to live without you. Maybe it is too soon, too many lovers opt to marrying too soon in the relationship then it goes sour and regrets kick in. If her reasons are valid then give her some time, continue to be the wonderful person you are, however waiting forever will be difficult for you. So I suggest you give yourself some time as well. To think about how long is too long or whether you have a time frame in mind as to when you would like to be married. When it is true love there is no time frame. Discuss with her why she feels not to marry and why you would like to married. Sorry my friend this has to be disheartening. Have faith if it is true love it will come together. Be thankful, she is not saying I no longer want to be with you right. So when it is love it will come together. Have faith in the relationship and Be blessed.
• United States
12 Sep 10
Good luck with this all friend, wish you many blessing and good health.
@barelal (111)
• India
12 Sep 10
we are quarreling from two years on this matter... but she not replied me anything .. i know that this is a big responsibility... but i am able to handle it.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
you need to be patient until such time that she is ready to settle down in marriage. What matters most now is that you are still together and still able to show her your love and her love to you. Being in love does not need rushing into marriage. Sometimes it is enough for the meantime to prove to her that you are willing to marry her anytime when the time is right. Just treasure every moment that you have with her
@barelal (111)
• India
12 Sep 10
as i already wrote that i am in love with her from almost seven years. this is enough time to decide to start a life time relationship.
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
yes, but it seems like your girlfriend isn't ready yet. And you also have to consider her preparedness for that. You can't rush her into it..I wish you well...
• United States
11 Sep 10
You don't have to get married to be with someone. Just give her time if she loves you as much you love her then she will come around.
@sushie93 (1355)
• France
11 Sep 10
I think you should make a difference beetween mariage and living together, it's not the same thing. She doesn't want to marry but she will stay with you as long as she loves you. Marriage is nothing. It's not because she doesn't want to marry that she will abandon you!
@barelal (111)
• India
12 Sep 10
in our society this is not legal to live together without marriage ....it is compulsory to be husband and wife,,,,,without marriage living together is illegal in India........
@nophie (2336)
• Indonesia
11 Sep 10
ask her, convince her, give her time and appreciate what her mind and never push your wish to her...
@barelal (111)
• India
12 Sep 10
i had never force on her ...i don't know why she is not ready...
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
Just give her time to think about that because deciding to get married is not a joke it is a lifetime commitment for the two of you.
@barelal (111)
• India
12 Sep 10
i also agreed with you,. but our affair started on 24 oct 2003. not this is long long time to decide to marry. what can i do now??? we were fighting on this matter since two years..
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
11 Sep 10
Maybe she is not yet prepared to get married. Just remember getting married is not a big joke. It is really a serious thing that you have to handle responsibilities in life. It is not all about love! in the first place.
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
Give her some space so that she could think. Maybe she's not ready yet to get married. It's better if the both of you has a mutual understanding because if it's only one sided and you force her to do something that she doesn't like to do, the marriage will not work. In our country the elders always say "Marriage is not like eating rice that when your tongue gets burn you can easily spit it out". It means before getting married both of you should be prepared because it is a lifetime commitment. Especially now that the divorce rate is high, it really needs a lot of thinking on your part. When it's time she'll know.