Oh no! My friend is gay!

I think it is not fair to tell him that you read his messages and you found out the secret. Each person has his own way of style and we are not supposed to mess with that. We should let them go as they want to be be since he is your frined. So, I think it is better to wait for him to open it or pass it as if nothing has happened and make sure that it doesn't affect your friendship. I can understand that you got a shock. I don't have any gay friends.

I think you should allow him to come out of the closet in his time and in his own terms. It is for him to decide when and how to come out. And when he does, he expects his friends to accept him just as he is. ACCEPTANCE is one thing that a gay person always hopes for.

I don’t think that there is anything negative about your friend being gay. I would not disclose to him that you know his ‘secret’. My ex brother in law was gay and it was quite a complicated and traumatic time for him to decide to ‘come out ‘ and it took him a few years to feel completely at ease with the world knowing the details of his sexuality and about the man he was deeply in love with. It was tough to break it to his parents especially his dad who had very closed ideas. Keep it to yourself and let him come out when he’s ready.

Hello anne, i guess they're are people who are not ready to reveal themselves to the public yet. i wonder what is the reason since there are so many gay people already in the Philippines. let him be, you know, it's some ones freedom and happiness to keep their gender secret. some times, life gets too boring if the secret is not a secret anymore. don't let it get to your head. it's just part of life, sometimes, you just get lucky to know some one's secret with out his knowledge

Well I think You Should Wait for the right moment, but not for long and hopefully you should start looking for other options too, So That It Comes out to be true, You Should not get dishearted, The Other thing is that Why dont u asked him for a mateing date and be staright with him, This is the only way to know whether he is gay or Straight and also to come to a final conclusion. Have a nice day

Well, If you are sure that your friend is a guy, still dont ask him anything directly. Its personal matters. I understand you might have a curisity to know about it more or to make fun of it, still donot ask. It might be also a misunderstanding you face by reading that (sms) message. If you cannot resist to ask him about it, ask indirectly like " hey whats your girlfriend name?" Direct questioning to him is not a good idea. It might make trouble and uneasy for him. But by indirect question, you can see his facial expression. Hey let mylottors knows too what you find atlast. I have curisity to know about it too ;-)

Hi anneshirley, Some people have a difficult time coming out of the closet and your friend is one of them. There is nothing wrong with being gay but there are still many who don't understand that and make life difficult for them. I think you should allow your friend to keep his secret until he feels ready to admit it himself, just continue to be his friend. Blessings.

Hi there, well for me its better to keep quiet. I know in time he will tell you what he really is. Maybe at this point still he's not ready so just be quiet and as you said your friends so just support him nd everything. Well goodluck to you its nice to have gay friends they are really funny and talented person. Hope your friendship will not ends because of this,

For me the answer here is that you shouldn't tell him that you know something. Just let him open up. Because a man like him is not actually ready to reveal himself. Just understand it that it is not so easy to divulge about his true personality because there might be consequences that will happen if he reveal himself. You don't have to be confused and again wait for him to open up. Because if you will inform him that you knew something about himself then it might affect your friendship.

I think there must be a reason that he hasn't told you or anyone else about this, and as you found out by accident it is not your secret to tell to anyone...not even him. He will tell people if he wishes to, and he may not wish to do so ever...he is still exactly the same person he was before you knew this fact.