Dilemma...
By lptan_1225
@lptan_1225 (70)
Philippines
September 13, 2010 1:32am CST
Maybe I can let mylotters solve on this(hopefully with the best opinion)... =)
How would you convey to your bestfriend(as in childhood bestfriend) in an unoffensive manner that you don't like to have a date with her guy friend because your not just as to this kind of thing(because of busy schedules,new priorities and of course she knew for a fact that you're in a mutual relationship with someone=))???
Nota bene: She was so persistent and consistent on this almost everyday(..and I don't really know why=))
Decide...
4 responses
@mariposa_89 (113)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
A friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you anyway..
Simply tell her of what you truly feel regarding this matter. I always believe that clear communication is vital to making things work. You talk and listen to each other. In the process, you'll end up respecting each other's differences.
Anyways if you two are childhood bestfriends, I am pretty sure that your friendship has gone through ups and downs. And I know that this dillemma won't change the strong friendship that you guys were able to develop.
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
Why would your friend hook you up with someone when she knows that you already like someone else????? That's not very supportive at all. Hhhhmmm.... Anyway, just tell her you like someone else so there's really no point in going out with her friend. If she says you just try it, tell her flat out that you don't want to try at all. Then try to interrogate her why she's so persistent. Turn the tables around and question her motives. Then everytime she suggests you go out with the guy, always answer her with a question about her motives. She might get pissed, but she's pissing you off too anyway. Ask her if she could just be supportive about your chosen guy. Turn the conversation into the guy that you like. Eventually, she'll see that you are not interested in dating her guy friend because all you want to talk about is your guy friend.
@alma_vparas (98)
• Singapore
13 Sep 10
I think if you really knew each other that long it will not be difficult for you to say that to her and it for her to understand the situatiion. The fact that she already knew that you have a mutual realtionship with someone is a plus factor for her to understand. Things like this should never take long to solve because it's always good to tell someone honestly what you really feel.
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
you must first need to find out why she's so persistent about this date-my-guy-friend thing. did you already try to tell her no? if you are really best of friends since childhood then you must know better. For me it would be best if i'd be honest to her and tell her the reasons why i don't want to do it. She loves you for a fact that's why you are best buddies and so she should understand.
