Why must every few months of my life be miserable??

Hi mrscallands22, I sense that you are at your wits end with the situation between you and your husband. It is clear that this is an ongoing problem between you two. If this marriage is to get back on track, you two must soon realize that you are losing ground because of this situation. You, also have realize that it is important to respect each other and be willing to listen to each others point of view. When disrespect in a relationship outweighs the love that you have for each other, the relationship will eventually end. If that is not what you both want, a failed marriage, then find a way (perhaps professionally)to fixed the problems. Talk to your husband when he is calm and not expecting it. Just ask him to listen to you without speaking, and then when you are finished, let him have his say. This way you both have heard what the other person had to say. Now you can decide where to go from there. Good Luck

cause life is a turd-fest and we get sh!t on all the time in one form or another...

My prayers are definitely with you. I know that I've been going through a difficult time of late with my husband because of the various medical issues that he has been going through and I've also had a hard time in the fact that I am very frugal with our money and he isn't that same way. It is really hard on me and I think that the only way that I've been able to get by here recently is because of the fact that I do a lot of praying and visualizing better days.

When life is as bad as that, it gets better.

mrscallands hi there... Sometimes in our lives we hit a bumpy road & feel like there is no light at the end of the road. Me to I can say that more than once I lost my faith even in God & no longer want to pray, but as we get older & wiser we change our outlook in our life. I am so sorry your going through a tough time in you life but all will turn out better in the end. I find myself praying daily because my heart feels better after I'm done & I know they say praying helps.. Talk with your husband when your both calm because I know he will listen better & not when your both yelling at each other. Maybe you both just need some alone time together because life does get hard when you have to work for the future of the family & probably that is what is constantly on his mind to support his family & to make sure your all content... Hope everything goes your way... Take care...

Wow! Sounds like you've tried everything and nothing is working. Maybe you need to talk to a counselor. I mean, I understand that husbands and wives get into it from time to time and that's normal but sometimes it all just goes TOO far. Is that where you're at? I will be praying for you mrs.callands22, don't give up on the strength that God is giving you. God is faithful and will see you through. You are not the bad guy, you are just trying to bring attention to a problem that your husband is not ready or willing to deal with at this present time. I hope you are soon able to communicate with your husband on a better level. Meanwhile, keep praying and keeping yourself at peace.

The way I have to look at my life more often than not is that when you are on the bottom, the only way to go is up...

..hi mrscallands.. I do comprehend with you.. I've been through that also for how many times already.. actually, only this time that I realized that I've been taken for granted by my husband for a long time already.. This is why I decided to focus my attention on my own happiness.. I realized that he doesn't hold my happiness.. After all, I'm not the one doing a big mistake, its him.. and if ever we separate, I didn't lose any, but he lost me.. he lost a very loving wife who is willing to give everything for him.. Its really hard but we have to look for something else whom we can draw strength.. What I do now is, I still try to be the good wife, but I don't expect him already to return the good things I'm doing to him.. Its up to him already if he wants our marriage to work out or he wants to ruin our home.. he's the padre de pamilya who is suppose to take good care of the family's welfare, however, he's not doing it.. so I might as well content myself of what he can give me and prioritize my baby..

It's okay, everybody gone through with lots of problems, me too, oftentimes I wondered why it seems my destiny sabotaged my happiness, but it all come to pass and tomorrow will be another day. Just pray hard, ask God for guidance and help, He never fails you, He will give you the strength and wisdom you needed at the moment. Just look on the brighter side of life. Good luck!

Hello MrsCallands, Well, you're frustration clearly speaks itself on your discussions. don't worry, we all feel that waY in some moments in our lives and you're not alone. i believe God has already given you the strength, it's how you manage to pull it off. despite of the conflicts you are still blessed to have some one in life. still, you gotta find a way to reach an agreement or compromise for the sake of your relationships, unless the guy isn't really doing anything though. Godbless you

It depends on how you would take things that are happening to you now. It depends on your perspective. There might be a lot of concerns now and instead of being miserable, try to ask question like "what's in it that you need to learn" and other positive thoughts. Maybe it will help.

you must be truly in a predicament to make you sound so..truly confused and depressed. i agree with you that it is truly frustrating to truly love a guy and yet still has to go through a lot of "?" in our lives. but that's part of life i guess, that we must learn to live with, or else we would lose ourselves in fending it off, trying to rationalize and understand something which is truly beyond rationalization and understanding most of the times. i hope and pray for you, that you'll have the strength to go on and fight off whatever it is bothering you. on the other hand, if you can't take it anymore, why not try to give it all up to HIM? maybe then everything will become clearer, and more lighter to bear.

Since you did not get into details, I can only assume your husband is doing something or not doing something that is making you miserable. The only thing you can do sometimes is change the way you react, if you can't change the situation. I am going to pray for you that this situations turns around soon.

I think it is best to do understand each other and be open on feelings in our heart. Sometimes, conflicts do happen, that is because your partner would not understand why you did certain things.... only by telling him/her your rational of doing the things you did and getting his support if possible , that misunderstanding will disappear. Don't keep things only to yourself, you should trust your partner and let him know your feeling.

I understand what you are saying. You are going through some very frustrating times. Do you believe in astrolgy, the movements of the planets ? Miserable every few months ? That sounds very much like due to the movements of the planets in the astrological system. These go by the time cycles. So, don't worry, more pleasant and amicable time cycle will be next ! Wish you happiness !

aww i see you really are upset :( but is there something wrong between you and your hubby? is ok if is too much for you to explain here^^ i really would like to help you^^ is ok if is a big topic^^ i love to help others and give comfort words^^ anyway try to cheer up ok? sometimes we think our problems dont have a solution and then we find it^^ if the prob is with your hubby why dont you talk with him and tell him how you feel? a relationship is about that also^^ anyway if you need advises just message me^^ for sure i will try to help you^^