Can a relationship recover completely Even after someone/partner has cheated?

India
September 14, 2010 10:03am CST
I don't know,but I know that some but not many people fully recover in a cheating relationship,and I know so many people don't last long after cheats...Even I hate this kind of people who cheat in relationships..I can give answer to my question because I don't know about it and never tried to recover relationship after this kind of situation...But one thing I always say to my friends that I hate cheaters, HIT ME..HATE ME but Never try to cheat me! otherwise they will get it back ten times worse....
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• United States
14 Sep 10
It can with time, but not really. You are going to have those doubts about him or her until they prove you wrong. You are going to have a very hard time trusting them. You are going to want to know what they are doing when your not around. You are going to want to know why they did it and if you are good enough for them. I know about this because I have seen both sides of it. I have seen the cheaters and the ones who have been cheated on. One of my friend's cheated on her ex-boyfriend with her current husband, and she told that she did it because she was beginning to hate her ex-boyfriend. She dumped him after she cheated on him, but she was sick of his games and she was sick of his attitude and she told me that she wanted more, and that her current husband offered that. Now, I knew both her ex-boyfriend and her current husband, and I clearly say "What a difference?" Her ex-boyfriend was lazy, treated my friend like trash, and didn't want anything out of life, but her husband is a military man, he is a go-getter, and he really knows what he wants in life. I can see why she did what did. I think that she should have broken if off with her ex-boyfriend before starting a true physical relationship with her current husband, but I guess you don't really think about those things when stuff like this starts up. I don't condone cheating, but I know many of the reasons why they do it.
• United States
16 Sep 10
I don't think it can work out. There are always going to be trust issues there. My thing is that if someone wants to be with you then they won't cheat. I never understood cheating and it drives me mad to think that some people think it's ok. It's sad really when you see someone you know is getting cheated on and they are constantly running back to the cheater. If you don't want to be with someone then let it go and move on.
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• United States
17 Sep 10
I believe that as well, that if you want to be with someone, then you won't cheat on them, but at the same time, there are just those people who cannot stay with one person. I don't think it's okay, if my boyfriend did it to me, I would want to leave him, and I would expect him to leave me if I ever cheated on him, which I wouldn't. As I have said before, I have known the cheaters and the ones that have been cheated, I don't condone it, but I understand it, I acknowledge that it's out there, and I am not the one to judge them because someone directly related to me was the lover in a cheating relationship. I didn't think it was right, and I don't think that it's right, but be it that this person is a direct blood relative of mine, I just can't judge them because I was a product of the relationship. It hard for people to understand, I know this, and it's not right, but if you think about it, many people on this planet wouldn't be alive if it weren't for cheaters. My brother and I wouldn't have been alive if our parents hadn't of done what they did, no it wasn't right, but we are products of those relationships.
@angela018 (143)
• Philippines
1 Nov 10
well, for me.. it's all about acceptance. if you really love that person you would accept it what he/she has done to you. but for me, same as you, cheaters, trash them on. it's like a mirror once it is heated, it will be forever broken.. ;) and well, there are so many people around the world.. who knows. heheh :) just move on and be happy again
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
i think it could heal after some time or after a long time. depends on a person actually and on the gravity of a situation.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
16 Sep 10
I think that it is possible for a relationship to go on after one of the partners in the relationship has cheated. However, I don't think that the relationship can ever completely recover. I think that the relationship that you are left with after there has been a partner that cheated is a completely different relationship than what you started with. Where there once was trust, after someone has cheated, I don't think that is there anymore.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 Sep 10
When the bonds of trust are severed and broken in a relationship, it can be hard to find the way back. If there is still love and commitment in the relationship, i believe that complete healing will come in time.
@gjax57 (897)
• United States
29 Sep 10
sorry once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat and I couldnt/wouldnt trust them again
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
15 Sep 10
I don't think the relationship will be the same anymore. There is a wound always left on your mind, just like a scar after a recovery. The scar will always remind you of this misfortune. Someday, you might find it whether is worth it to reunion with this individual. Or you can find someone else better.
@etp2377 (57)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I can't imagine a relationship would really fully recover after someone has cheated.. And like you, I do hate cheaters too! I still don't know what to that person if he cheat on me... I really hate it!
@nicregi (1934)
• Malaysia
15 Sep 10
definitely! As long as they got to make sure no more lies between them. It will take times and even years but it is always possible!
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
i dont think it will fully recover cause if the trust is gone it really very hard to fix it. not just in relationship but also with friendship. some people try to recover it cause they got kids and trying to give it one more try. but it kinda useless cause im sure all she or he will think. he will never change or he will cheat again. they say once a cheater or player always a player.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I don't know because i haven't into that kind of situation yet. But i can share my idea. In a relationship trust is needed from both parties.If it's broken,it's hard to have it again...
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I don't know the kind of mind state that you have and I respect that. We undergo on that kind of situation , a third party joins the relationship but we never treat it negative but instead an opportunity to prove ourselves that we love each other. I like what you've said that it's fine with you to be hated that cheated. I don't know how to deal with that if I'm in your situation. God bless and always think positive on every aspect of your life.
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
15 Sep 10
Hmm well after incidents like these, one would always lose their trust to that person. It just depends on how forgiving that person is and how much their braveness is to taking a risk like that again.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
"Recover COMPLETELY"??? I don't think so,,. A relationship strongly requires HONESTy, and when someone cheated, a relationship cannot be recovered completely anymore becuase the feeling of being cheated may somehow leave a scar to one's heart and memory...And no matter how you forgive that person, the memory will still keep on reminding you that this person once cheated you in spite of your honesty. :(
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I know there are people that have stayed together after an affair, but I don't think it would work for me. I just do not have it in me to want to take the time to fix something that is that messed up. Life is to short for that.
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
15 Sep 10
No I don't think that they could ever fully recover because their will always be that pain and they will always be reminded just by looking at each other you know so it's like something that you can never forget it will always be on that persons mind. Cheating is just horrible and I don't like it when that happens to someone I know because that's just sad.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
well, recovering from a cheating relationship has many factors..One of which is, what kind of relationship? A married relationship, or an unmarried one? Because being in a relationship with cheating involved is very hard to maintain and recover into.. But if you are married, and there are some matters you just can't give up easily, then I think recovering from the downfall of the relationship is very important.. I myself have been there before and hey it's not very easy to feel that I have forgotten everything.. But now, my husband and I have better understanding of each other and as of now, cheating hasn't come our way since the last time, which was years ago already.. So to sum it up, for my opinion.. it still depends on the couple.. If it happens everytime, then what is the good in staying with the person?
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
It can recover but not completely because at the back of your mind you that part of that person is a cheater, you will never forget that, and as your relationship continues you will use that instance in your relationship as your defense mechanism to protect yourself from any bumps in your relationship. better yet forgeta about your partner. as what they say, "cheaters never win"
@Hannah10 (83)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
yes you recover just think positive always.....Just forget the past think about the present,,,,you can do that if you want,I know god have some other plans with you..wish for your fast recovery and can find someone whom willing t love for the rest of your life...
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
i had been into this situation, but i still cannot say that my relationship with my guy was fully recovered, because until now i still have this feeling that he will cheat again....so, i cannot say that a relationship can completely recover even after someone had cheated....