Do you like quiet?

United States
September 14, 2010 2:24pm CST
I just realized this today, I do not enjoy when things are too quiet. When I am working at home, I always have a radio or television on in the background, even if I am not paying any attention to it. For the past 15 minutes I have turned all the background off and realize I am really uncomfortable with silence. I am not sure why? How do you feel about background noise?
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@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
14 Sep 10
It all depends on what I'm doing. If I meed to concentrate on something, I want peace and quiet, like when I'm reading or studying or I'm on my computer or on the telephone. If I'm washing the dishes or doing other chores, I like music playing so that I can have fun doing the chores.
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• United States
18 Sep 10
That is a good point. I hate noise of any kind when I am trying to read. I guess I feel I don't need as much concentration when I am working so I like the background noise. The phone is like a magnet to little kids, as soon as you are on it, they always want to talk to you, even if before you were on the phone they did not even act like you existed.
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@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
18 Sep 10
Kids do do the darnest things.
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@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
15 Sep 10
Hi aurorastorm, How totally different our day is. I am sitting here, in my home, in almost total silence, except for the clean air machine. I hear nothing, except my fingernails striking the computer keys. I love it!. When things are quiet, I am at peace. I can feel my body being more relaxed than when the house is noisy. I have gone as far as turning the ringer on my landline phone off. When there is a message, the light flashes and then I check it. (usually telemarketers). Now, at bedtime that is a whole different story; I cannot sleep if the television is turned off. I don't know if it is for security reasons or night light, but I have to have the sound of the television, only at night. I do, however, make sure that it is on a noncommercial channel, the commercials are extremely too loud. Simple hums is all I want to hear, when I am home alone. PEACE and QUIET , sooth my soul.
• United States
18 Sep 10
Hi aurorastorm, You are funny. Two nice people who are totally opposite. I do have the television on right now trying to watching CSI: NY, with one tiny desk lamp on. Very relaxing.
• United States
18 Sep 10
So funny we are complete opposites. I am not relaxed at all working on my computer during the day, have to have TV or radio on. At night though I turn the TV off read my book, then put it down have 5 minutes of quiet and usually fall asleep. However when my husband is out of town, I have been falling asleep with the TV and setting the sleep timer.
@greenline (14838)
• Canada
14 Sep 10
When all the sounds are gone and things get quiet, yes, one can feel pretty lonely. I do get that feeling some times. So, when I gate back home from work in the evening, I either turn on the radio or play CDs of my favorite songs and music. That keeps me feel comfortable and relaxed after a long stressful day at work.
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• United States
18 Sep 10
I am glad I am in such good company because I thought I must be a little nuts to always want some kind of noise when I am by myself.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Hi, aurorastorm. When I am home alone, I like to have some kind of noise around me. When my kids are at home with me, I like for it to be nice and quiet sometimes. I don't like to hear a lot of noise when I am on the computer. Noise makes me feel very comfortable, especially when I am home alone. Or of my kids are asleep. I don't feel right in a house without any noise in it.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Sep 10
is there any such thing as no noise? I mean really unless you are deaf is there? I shut off my tv and music. My dauaghter is in bed and I can still hear things. I hear things that I would not otherwise hear but there is always noise of some sort. The quieter it is the more aware you become of the other noises which might be more annoying . The sound of silence...its loud.
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• United States
18 Sep 10
cream97- I think that is more of what I mean. Home alone during the day is so quiet. When my son comes home from school he makes more than enough noise, that sometimes I have to shut off the t.v just to get my thoughts together. sid556- The silence can be loud that is for sure and then also it allows negative thinking to much for me, and I try so hard every day to stay positive, even in the face of a lot of negative things.
@kittenclaus (1393)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I usually have to have noise as well. Either the radio or the tv is usually on. Steve sometimes wants it quiet so I tell him to go outside, lol.
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• United States
18 Sep 10
I am not sure if Steve is hubby, if so mine is like that also. He can sit in total silence for hours and work and it drives me crazy. I really cannot do any of my work without noise. I have a small chocolate business, and I always have to have something on the t.v. while I am painting my chocolates.
• United States
14 Sep 10
I am alone all the time. So it is pretty quiet almost always. I use to be the life of the party, where there was loud music there was I. Know, I suppose do to my circumstances I have appreciated the quietness. I will turn on the TV sometimes but since I no longer have cable their is utter garbage on TV, so it becomes annoying to have the freaking scanner thingy that we are forced to use, oh the converter box, and then all I hear is buzzing sounds which become so utterly annoying. I suppose it is not so much that I really like it. I have forced myself to be accept the quite, but I do have my days where I want to go insane as it is just too quiet.
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• United States
18 Sep 10
I would certainly be happening with at least being able to join the party. This brain of mine is constantly thinking whether there is noise or not so it really does not matter to me. Most days since I am on negative mode I certainly appreciate the quietness. Ya betcha I can't wait till the day comes that I can look back and it is all just a blur. I have a decision to make this Monday which will impact the rest of my life so wish me luck friend and I will keep you posted.
• United States
18 Sep 10
I can't wait till one day you are the life of the party again. I know this will happen for both of us and we will smile when we think of this terrible time in our lives, right??? I think the quiet for me just allows to many of the negative thinking to come in so I silence it with background noise.
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Most of the time when I am home alone I prefer to have music or something playing just to feel like things on going on around me. The only time I prefer to keep it quieter is later at night like now due to my husband is sleeping but this is more considered my alone time as well.
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• United States
18 Sep 10
We are similar in this, I prefer noise during the day and then at night the noise gets to be to much and I want everything turned off and want some quiet time.
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
14 Sep 10
at times my house can get fairly noisy and because my daughters are older 13 & 17, they go to bed sometimes later than i do. hubby likes to stay up and watch tv at night too, but during the day, when i am not working outside of the house, the girls are at school and hubby is at work and i can craft or write in peace and quiet.
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• United States
18 Sep 10
I thought I was the only one that can't stay up as late as my child, my husband is a night owl also. So yes at night, my house can be noisy. I just noticed how quiet it was during the day working from home, not even the dog makes a peep during the day. She just sleeps the day away waiting for my son to get off the bus and play with her.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Yes I love the silence. I always want something that is peaceful and quite. Of course I listen to music, I watched television, but there are just times that I just want to be alone and enjoy the peace in silence. It is one of my ways to relax. The world right now is quite a noisy world. Perhaps some people may not like being to silent but in our place there are to many noises. So at times, I really feel great if its just the sound of nature that I hear....
• United States
18 Sep 10
The quiet just scares me I don't know why. I am not at all comfortable in silence. I really would like to try to be more comfortable, but at this point it is not at all relaxing to me.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
There were times that I really am yearning for some peace and quiet. But not the deafening kind like there's no sound at all. My quiet time means no shouting of children, no honking, no clattering, no tv and no unwanted sounds like drilling and stuff like that. But totally quiet is too deafening for me. I hate it ,too. I can't live with that. At least there's a jazz music playing on the background or if technology is not present I can still enjoy the birds' chirping, croaking of frogs, meowing of cats and barking of dogs, anything natural.:)It makes me feel that I am not alone and so in touch with nature and myself, too.:)
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• United States
18 Sep 10
Another mylotter responded earlier and what you are saying is the same and true for me also. We crave some solitude at times, but we do not crave quiet time. We like to have natural noise to make us feel connected to the world.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
16 Sep 10
Although I love quiet times for myself. To think and even just to clear my mind, I also need background noise. I need this most specially when I go to sleep. When I get sleepy, I put the TV on sleep mode so that it is still open when I doze off. And I program it to automatically open in the morning so that when I wake up from my cellphone alarm, the TV is already on.
• United States
18 Sep 10
That is funny at night I am more apt to turn off the TV and go to sleep. During the day is when I cannot tolerate the quiet at all.
@petersum (4522)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Silence is really deafening! You notice it far more than any sound. It disturbs me totally. I like the have the comforting sound of my computer's fans to keep me company.
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• United States
16 Sep 10
I think that is really it, silence just makes me crazy. Need a radio on or something when I am working. I don't need a lot of noise, but definitely something in the background or I get bored easily.
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
Hi! As for me i like quiet moments because it helps me to concentrate better at work. I can do something better without any noise. Sometimes a good music but not too loud helps me too.
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• United States
18 Sep 10
I am the complete opposite except when I am reading, really need noise to concentrate well.
• Colombia
15 Sep 10
So true!
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• Philippines
15 Sep 10
you know what sometime in those times, we can think better. when its quite we can focus over things, see?, you just realized that you need those noises that you hear everyday, just when you thought its annoys you. sometimes we realize something during quite times. so there, you can turn it off when you feel like it pisses you already, and when you miss the sounds just turn it on again. :)
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• United States
18 Sep 10
That is a good point and I do turn the noise off when I am feeling like I can't concentrate but most of the time it is the everyday noises and it provides us with a sense of comfort.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Sep 10
Hi Auroastorm, I have always been a very quiet person. I love my alone time and what I call my quiet time...times that I am alone with myself...I'm good with all that but I have to say that I love the background noise. I do yoga...the exercises and all but one thing I've never been able to do is the meditation part without any noise at all. It is almost never that I don't have the tv going or mostly music in the background. Sometimes I just put on "mood music" but it's sound. As I type this, I reached over and turned off the TV for the effect. Even the silence has it's sound. I hear the computer running and the strokes on the keyboard. I just heard a car pull into the parking lot outside. I don't know as I've ever experienced complete silence. The absence of the louder sounds only makes the softer ones more noticeable. Now you have my attention, I can even hear my mouse swirling on the mousepad and myself swallowing a sip of my drink. Ok so unless you are deaf then there is no real silence. I think I'll put on some soft music. I can even hear the tick of the clock and the hum of the refrigerator. I think I'll put on some music and choose my own background noise.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
18 Sep 10
Hi Aurorastorm, In all honesty, it was this discussion that made me actually kick back and think about it so I guess we made each other recognize it! Thanks for the BR!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Sep 10
ok I've given this a bit more thought. It isn't the noise or lack of it that I crave or don't like at all. It is the lack of people interference. I need down time from people more than noise itself. I crave solitude and to me that is not answering my phone, not hearing the door knock and knowing that I don't have a deadline to meet for anyone for anything. That is solitude and a lot different than silence.
• United States
18 Sep 10
As I read your last post, you really hit the keynote with me as well. I crave solitude at times that is for sure and I crave peace from my stress level that I can't seem to quiet very well these days. However wanting noise in the background is much different than solitude and I think you really made me recognize the difference.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I don't know what quiet is.. but I think if there ever was quiet around here I'd probably enjoy it!
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• United States
16 Sep 10
I guess it is all from a different perspective. With the amount of kids you have you would really enjoy the quiet, I can totally understand that and hope one day you get to enjoy some quiet even just for an hour.
@dodo19 (47066)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
16 Sep 10
I don't like things too quiet either. I do like things fairly quiet from time to time, but not too quiet though. I do like some noise. I think that a lot of it is that I'm so used to having some noise going on in the background.
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@harmonee (1228)
• United States
15 Sep 10
I too always have to have something on. I may not even be paying attention to the TV, but I need the noise. I used to not be able to fall asleep with some sort of background noise, but I have over come that. The best I can come up with is that I need to sort of multi task to get things done. I've always been a busy person. One thing to do or nothing to do just drives me crazy!
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• United States
18 Sep 10
I am glad I use to do the same thing at night, I had to train myself not to fall asleep to the TV and it was really hard at first. I think the same is true for me, I am always running and always busy, so I don't really pay attention to the TV or radio but need to have it on in the background.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
14 Sep 10
Sometimes I need a little quiet time to myself. A little peace and tranquility can do wonders for my day. My favorite music and a good book and a relaxing bubble bath often are what i take with me to my quiet times.
• United States
18 Sep 10
I think I would like to learn to meditate, because I really do not know how to handle quiet and I also am bad at quieting my mind.
@sjhaeki (795)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I also don't like things to be too quiet. Maybe it's because I'm used to at least having a little bit of sounds around me. Like when I get home and it's too quite, I think someone or something is missing and start turning the tv on and look for someone else.
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