My son refuses to use the potty! HELP!

msupert hi... My son was 3 year old on 6/01/10 & started potty training in mid June.. He was scared also with the adults toilet because it looks so big & when he sat on it he would scream crazy, bought potty trainer & helps... Use it for a while then tried it say a month later with using the potty trainer lid on the adult size toilet to make it look smaller, at first he would be scared but try holding him until he gets used to it, be patient, I know sometimes their ear piercing screams drives us mad, but they are just small people using giant size toilets... Try at home & do that way because when we go places not at home we cant carry their potty trainers so when they use public bathrooms the toilet are wide, so I will let him hang on to my legs when he's sitting on the toilet... As for the peeing, aiming in the toilet, it was hard for me to teach him but when I had his father teach him he learned later, patient again even with the father, because we women cant teach our sons to urinate because we are different down there & we have to sit on the toilet to pee & the boys pee a different way.. We don't want our sons urinating like us women, but the first couple of weeks my son was sitting on the toilet to urinate, because when he stands even using a stool to stand on & aims in the toilet it don't go in, he would urinate on his legs & he would end up in tears... He wouldn't learn the first time it took him a month for the father to teach him, he had coupe of accidents at home & on the go... Bring with me more than 5 pairs of his pants & 5 under wear (bought cartoon characters)... Get away from pampers pull up, use cartoon characters underwear... When my son was using pull ups he never wanted to go to the potty, so stop using pull ups, when using the cartoon underwears he would attempt to use his potty... Now, after 4 months, lots of patience & understanding he still sometimes ask for pullups but I don't use them, he's better now at using the toilet himself... Hope this helps out, but for me my 2 boys were much harder to teach with potty training than when I taught my daughter.... Have a great day mylot friend....

If your child is resisting potty training it usually is because he has had a bad experience with training at some point for a variety of reasons here are some things to consider: * Is he afraid of the toilet, this sounds odd but some children are afraid that they will fall in. Best thing you can do is get a potty chair or a seat to sit over toilet to make the hole seem smaller. These can usually be bought at any department store. *Is he being punished for mistakes - it is best to use praise when he has success and to have no response when he doesn't(no disapproval,disappointment,etc.)you might also respond, "that's OK we will do better next time!" Always positive. Let him know that you know he can do it! Some children enjoy negative attention, as well. Always., always praise successes and use a positive attitude!! This really works best! *Remind him that all big boys use the toilet including dad or other significant male in his life. *You could establish a reward for successes something small like stickers, star chart on refrigerator to show all his successes, a fun activity, etc. *Buy him special big boy undies, something he will really like Disney characters he likes or spiderman, etc. * Inconsistent training - is your child in daycare or has a babysitter during the day, if so, it is important that everyone use the same methods and that training is consistent. I hope some of this helps. I had four children. They are all different and all learn at different paces. I found that boys were a little harder to train than girls, but they do learn. He will learn too! Good Luck ! :)

Try going to "Ivillage.com/potty training and type in three strikes method. This is a method I have used for many years as a babysitter for over three year old holdouts. If you have problems,try here again,and I will see if I can give you some help. Good luck.