Need help in interpreting a dream
By anne25penn
@anne25penn (3305)
Philippines
September 18, 2010 4:09am CST
Yes, for those who are skeptical, they may associate this dream with stress with my new job and adjusting to shifting schedules. But I feel its different, or maybe I am just putting too much importance to the dream. Maybe if it only happened once, I can dismiss it that easily. But when I am losing precious sleep hours because of this dream (more like a nightmare), I definitely need help.
My Mylot friends know about this story, about my ex-boyfriend leaving me for a married woman. I have picked myself up and moved on. I am now happy with my life and am surrounded by people who love and understand me. I have not been communicating with my ex (no need to) for nearly a month and I am so busy that I rarely ever go online.
So why dream about him? And the dream is so disturbing that I could not sleep after wards? I had a dream this Friday that my ex and I were fighting and that I was really upset and crying and asking him to answer me back. I know that we were fighting about him lying and he could not answer. I was so upset that I woke up and was not able to sleep. I sleep during the daytime because I am on the graveyard shift.
I dismissed that dream yesterday as something probably from stress at work. But I dreamt the same dream today and I can no longer sleep. Am I going crazy? I haven't talked to my ex for a long time and I don't know what to make of it. I have moved on, I am not linked to anyone romantically now to have such issues in my dreams. I hope someone can give me some answers. Happy Mylotting!
3 responses
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
18 Sep 10
Hi anne25penn,
You may think that you have moved on from this past relationship, but your mind and body have not. Obviously there are some unresolved issues that you need to find closure to. I don't know if you and your ex-boyfriend had a knock-down-drag-out fight about the breakup, but in your reoccurring dream that seems to be what is happening.
If you just allowed him to walk away from the relationship without fighting about it, you maybe subconsciously be wishing that you could really have it out with him for hurting you so badly.
Don't know how long you were in this relationship, but one month, and you think that you are over him? Think again. There is no way you can just get on with your life as if nothing devastating has happened to you.
Own the hurt. You are allowed to feel angry and betrayed. You should not try to pretend that everything is alright, if it isn't. Hooray for you if you have truly moved on, you are much stronger than I would be.
Maybe, if you sat down and wrote the ex-boyfriend a letter (that you will not give to him) expressing your feelings about what happened between you, you can move forward and be able to cope and sleep without the hostile dream.
Good Luck
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
Hello Angelgirl. I was with him for six years, tried to fight for our relationship and lost. Its been more than a month since we broke up, I just haven't talked to him in a month because there is no longer a need for us to talk. I allowed him to walk away because there is nothing I can do.
I have done what you said, to sit down and write a letter that I will never send. I keep a journal and this journal has helped me move on. I have been through the angry and sad phase and I am happy now with my new job and new friends. That's why I was a little unnerved with this dream. Anyway, thank you for your response.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
19 Sep 10
Hi anne25,
Then it appears that you have done all the possible things that you could to move on with your life. I guess it is time that you need for the dreams to stop come. Since this is your story, I wont' go into detail about a reoccurring dream I use to have about a boyfriend I left in another state and I married another. I dreamed that the old boyfriend was chasing me in a forest of tall trees trying to get me back, but the dreams finally stop.Don't know why, they just stopped. Yours will to.
@LetranKnight25 (33117)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Hello Anne25,
I believe even though you have moved on, this ex of yours is still a BIG part of your life. so, even if you boggled yourself with the work that you do now, you still tend to have some of those memories emerging in your dreams.
that's probably why you should get a new boyfriend some day. so that you can have new memories to remember to.
besides, that's nothing. i still remember a dream about an entire subdivision being eaten by mutants in the hospital. which is really crazy because i was just an onlooker and i didn't even RUn, is that crazy enough
that's just sleep stress. buy an ear plug, drink milk, listen to soft melodies (only instrumental ones) and empty your mind. do that process and you will fine in a few days.
you're just adjusting. 
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
I want to put it down to stress. I have always had weird dreams but nothing like this. I usually dream of skeletons, plunging into the ocean and drowning. But nothing that ever involved someone I know. I don't want to get into a new relationship right now because I am enjoying being single. Its not the stress at work either because I am loving my job. Maybe its something else, something else that upset me that day. Anyway, thank you for your response!
