Too much love, would it really kill you?

Philippines
September 18, 2010 4:30am CST
I have a friend and he asked my advice if "too much love on his girlfriend could possibly destroy their relationship. I actually failed to response on this matter since my mind is not set for answering rhetorical or any of this kind of question. I'm also in trouble with my love life so far and still recovering from being heart broken. Please help my friend because this is the only way I think I could help him.
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19 responses
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Hi abish. I believed that too much of something is bad enough and so with love but I don't believe that it could kill me. But I have an opinion that it could ruin a relationship because it ill come to a point that you ill become selfish and think of nothing but yourself.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Got it right mackenzie...have you experience such?
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@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
sometimes too much obsession could be mistaken as too much love. love is neve,-r supposed to be destructive...only constructive. if it begins to ruin relationships , self-respect, and etc... i believe it's no longer love at work.
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• Philippines
18 Sep 10
I like the thought of being constructive and not destructive! Thank you, is he then obsess?
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Sep 10
Too much of anything is bad and when it comes to love it can be worse. The problems what one faces after a breakup are of immense intensity and can lead you to the verge of destruction. This is why you have to take some precautions. But I know, it is quite difficult when you are involved with someone. Maintain some distance between you and your partner and be honest. I have seen people who lie to the other partner just to keep the relation going on. And this is one thing that becomes a big issue later. Do your work as you were doing before and do not let the love take over your activities. I mean - do not neglect your duties towards others just because you promised your partner a movie or anything else. Maintain a balance between everything and schedules. You cannot try to satisfy everyone out there on everything. That is the second thing.
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Why it's really hard to have a balance relationship? I think on this part I really failed to do since I'm a busy type of person and every second is so precious to me.Anyway thank you for the time spared in answering.
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@syedayub (252)
• India
18 Sep 10
My dear friend, i strongly say that too much love towards your loved ones will really kill you. why i am saying this is my wife loves me too much, she wants very second to stay with her, she use to call me every half an hour, this make me irretating. i con't do any work freely. love towards your loved ones is good, if this love is too much then it is irretating.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Did you tell her that you're getting irritated with her?
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Hi abish. I believed that too much of something is bad enough and so with love. But I don't agree that too much of love would kill anyone. I have an opinion that it could ruined relationship cause surely one will come to a point that he/she will turn to be selfish.
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@misalax (307)
• Ireland
18 Sep 10
Yes it can. To be honest, too much of that can result to obsession. Sometimes it results to the other person to feel like being clinged too much as well. Also, that will hurt you in the end, because if that relationship fails and you've given your all, what's left of you ..?
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
So it's like too much of sweet would cause to diabetes,I think you certainly have the right thought!
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 10
ya,i do agree and believe whats the statement...because i had experience like that
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
And adhy82, what did you do then?
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@bagputza (504)
• Belgium
18 Sep 10
Good morning dear Abish1987 , well the first think that i'd like to say is that i think that your friend its a little it retarded , because everibody knows that smuldering someone ( smuldering = loving too much ) cann and will draw away , and make the person you are with to think that you are a little bit too much for her , i mean you cann love her too much , but i suggest not to show it that much , he needs to show her that she is free in her relationship , he needs to respect her and her bounderies . Not to send her an message every five ten minutes or every hour , he may tell her that he loves her but not twenty or ten times a day. Well i dont really think that all the womens are like that , but the most of womens i've been with , dont liked to be sufocated with love , and me as a person i dont like to be sufocated either with love , since i like my life , i always put first my familly and then my girlfriend , and then my friends. I like to be able to go play football whenever i want , without having to be stressed because i'm gonna have my girlfriend upset for not taking it with me. Well aniway thats how it goes for me. Have a nice day dear Abish1987
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
I think you hit the right string! I mean you got the point there and maybe I'll explain it to him how it supposed to be the situation. Thank you! Likewise^_^
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• Portugal
19 Sep 10
no^^ love too much wont destroy the relationship^^ all girls like to be cared and loved^^ i say this for myself. till now always guys were careless but now i found a guy that really cares for me. always say he loves me, he misses me, kisses me, everything sweet^^ we girls like guys that call us, that go out with us, that say we are pretty, that hold us tight, that show care much care^^ so if your friend does this to his gf for sure she wont leave him^^ she will be very happy to have him as a boyfriend^^ tell him to dont worry^^ and to keep caring for her^^
@chona0912 (103)
19 Sep 10
hi , i don't think so , maybe its how you define love . They say to love means to let go of whom you love when the one you love doesn't love you anymore. When you love someone it doesn't mean the person had to love you back so that person finds another release that person.
• China
18 Sep 10
well... i can say nothing about your discussion coz i am still in trouble with my own relationship.. i am still fighting for getting my girl's heart good luck~~~
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
I'm hoping you'll will their hearts!
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@gume2009 (22)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 10
love is the grace of god but don't let love also prevents us continue to build friendships with other people..so the point must be balanced
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Certainly right there should have balance! Thank you!
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19 Sep 10
i guess, REAL LOVE, wouldn't kill someone!
@greg89 (2)
• China
19 Sep 10
yes,it does really kill me. Too much love will make me breathless.It is a great pressure.If I do something wrong to my partner(something I do not wanner to be happend),I feel so much sorry to him.
@phyrre (2317)
• United States
18 Sep 10
I wouldn't say that too much love could destroy your relationship. It's good to really love your partner. It just depends on how you display your love. If you smother them with your love, then yes it could certainly destroy your relationship. For example, my first boyfriend was a bit more serious about the relationship than I was. I liked him, but after a month in I couldn't take it anymore. That's the best example I can think of of too much love ruining a relationship. He started to get extremely clingy and needy. I went on vacation to see my grandparents who live in another state and he would call me every day and most days he had absolutely nothing to say to me. I was like why are you calling if you're going to sit there in silence and not say anything? His answer was that he just wanted to hear my voice. I could tell it wasn't working out. Don't call me on vacation if you don't have anything to say. I'm sorry, but that just annoys me. And I don't really like it when a boyfriend is clingy. On the other hand, I very much love my husband and I have since we started dating. I love him a lot, but it hasn't destroyed our relationship, it's made it stronger. I think it just really depends on how you act on your love. Some women, I'm sure, will go for my ex calling every day to hear their voice. Some women might think it's romantic. But I'm not one of them. So it really depends on what your partner likes when it comes to relationships.
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
For me, it's not. It's all in the mind. If they broke your heart then find another one who's better and deserves you. Why will you kill yourself just because of love? I know it's hard to move on but you must in order to survive. make yourself busy. Or maybe just be beside your friend help him/her to move on..
• United States
18 Sep 10
Too much love, would it really kill you? I am reading your question several times and the only thing I can think of is obsession. If in fact it is obsession than yes friend this could emotionally destroy a person. I would suggest your friend to take a breather and try really hard maybe perhaps to take some time to himself. If in fact it is obsession then this will hard to do. So maybe perhaps baby steps he can take, something like maybe see the girl friend every other day, instead of everyday. I hope he relaxes a bit from all this as he will be emotionally scared from it all.
@kristeena (358)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Hi, abish! There are many lovers that have been blinded by too much love for their partner. Sometimes they tend to be strict and possessive that one could hardly breathe. There are lovers who tend to give all that they didn't even know they're spoiling them. In every relationship there should always be a balance between their love for each other. True love always seeks the good of the other and does not seek to hurt.
• Norway
18 Sep 10
Yeah.. I think so. If you love some one very much, you will be concerned about that person every minute. Then you might want to know about her/his whereabouts every now and then. You might also want to know what he/she is doing every minute. That person would be irritated and think that you are not trusting him/her. That would naturally destroy the relationship. I also feel that if your friend might become mad if his girlfriend dumps him or cheats on him.He can't believe that it is happening to him. I think he should maintain the balance between his work and the relationship.