An issue for parents or police?

@freedomg (1684)
United States
September 20, 2010 11:49am CST
A few weeks ago my father was watchig my kids for me while I went to the store, when I got home he told me that there had been an issue with another child and that I needed to go speak to the parents. O.k. I would have gone to get the other side of the story and check things out anyway, so I headed over there. Once I arrived the father whom has had an issue with my family for a while, though refuses to tell me why, tells me that my 10 year old had hit his son in the back with a nunchuck and that he had called the police. What my son and 6 year old daughter had told me was that thier 8 year old son had hit my daughter in the head with a stick while they were playing war, and there was a goose egg to back that up, when my son had lost his temper and hit him with the nunchucks in her deffense. Now first, I did ground my son for a week for hitting him and informed him that while his intentions were good his response was wrong. We took the nunchucks away and I thought that should be enough. This man was seriously trying to have the officer arrest my child or me. Thank God the officer informed him that under Fl. law the nunchucks were classified as a toy, not the "class 2 weapon" my neighbor was claiming them to be, and that considering the ages of the children involved it was a matter for the paernets not the police. Growing up if I got into trouble with another kid our parents would meet, talk, and then my mom dealt with me and thier parents delt with them. So I am looking to get a general feel for what other people would do in this situation, or any similar stories. What I am hearing from some of the other mothers I've spoke to is that calling the police for problems with kids is the norm. What's your take?
4 responses
@MsTickle (25214)
• Australia
21 Sep 10
Totally unecessary for the police to be called...what rubbish! If they were 10 years older , certainly but otherwise your way of handling things is fair and sensible. It's the way things should be...ergo: civilised.
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
23 Sep 10
Thank you! Man how is it that so many people on here feel this way but around my area there are such different opinons? This is actually starting to really interst me. I'm in Flor. where are you? If you don't mind saying.
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@MsTickle (25214)
• Australia
23 Sep 10
I'm rather a long way away mate. I'm in Australia!
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@freedomg (1684)
• United States
25 Sep 10
Yup that would be pretty far away.
@GemmaR (8520)
20 Sep 10
I don't think that getting the police involved with an issue regarding children is in anybody's best interest. It would be a scary experience for the child and a worrying time for the parents. What if the worst were to happen and the child ended up with a criminal record? That would be with them for the rest of their lives, and it might be over something incredibly trivial. Also, I am fairly sure that the police would have much better things to do with their time than to sort out problems which should be sorted out by the parents of the child. A few parents around my estate have rung the police because of disputes between children, and they have been charged themselves because of wasting police time- which is a serious crime and can result in a hefty fine.
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@angelface23 (2496)
• United States
20 Sep 10
yeah I think in a situation like that it is best to let the parents deal with it. Why call the police away for something like that?
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
20 Sep 10
Thank you, I'm glad to see that I'm not alone on this one.
@bjcyrix (6907)
• Philippines
16 Oct 10
[(mental) monologue: Police? Really? That's some of what the mothers would suggest..? Hmm, that's either negative camaraderie or kids these days have gone wild enough that other mothers would call the police as opposed to talking to their parents first. Do the other mothers think that the kids' own parents would not be able to handle their children?] From what I can observe, there are some communities that dont live as a community. I mean parents/people just dont want to deal with other people. They just want to keep to themselves and in case of a problem, no matter how minor or just within a few parties involved, they might think "let the police handle it". There are also some situations wherein the "victims" do not know the kids responsible so calling the police would be the best option. The police could just call the parents and work from there. However, in your situation, kids were just being kids. It really is up to the parents to talk it out, deal with their children and handle the situation. The other parent may really have something against your family for him to be pressing the police to arrest your child because of a juvenile quarrel. Goodluck to you and hopefully, that goose egg has hatched by this time.