Work or Family
By vjenkins86
@vjenkins86 (1478)
United States
September 21, 2010 9:49am CST
This is mostly for the women, but men can comment as well
Lets say you've worked your whole entire life to get where you are in the business world. You have your dream job which can be extremely stressful at times but you love it. You are an owner or partner of the business. Your name is on the company. People are always congratulating you for getting this far. This was everything you wanted. You're happy, ecstatic even.
But you're getting up there in age and your husband wants to start a family soon. He wants you to have a baby. However, to start a family, you will have to sacrifice part of your work schedule for a family. You understand your husband's wish to have children, but you don't want to sacrifice your career. Also, you are scared of the idea of being a mother.
What would you do?
3 responses
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
7 Apr 11
I was once a bank employee, I am not saying that I reached my peak because I did not. I've been in the bank for more than 12 years, the mission and vision of being a banker already implant in me. When I was not married, I thought I spend my life in the bank until I will reached the retiring age of 60, but I was really wrong because, in spite of how successful we are in our career, there such a time come that we have to sacrifice one thing, we have to choose whether career or family. And, I choose the latter. At first I have a hard time adjusted myself from day-to-day activities imagine from working career woman turned all-around-nanny but I have no regret now, seeing my growing up kids healthy is good enough reward for all my sacrifices.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
people have different priorities in life...ideally, the husband and the wife should have the same priorities or goals in life, to avoid conflict. for me, i enjoy being a family person (a mother) more than a successful career woman. we'll never know when out time on Earth ends...so I think we should focus on the more important things in life. I'm not saying you should love the idea of being a mother, what I'm saying is, you MIGHT be missing something out there (Since you haven't tried being a mother) - a kind of happiness or a simple joy - that you won't find in any type of career... BUT you'll never know you'll like the idea of motherhood UNLESS you're already there. I guess you really have to find out what your priorities are first... your husband's desire? your desire? anything goes...you create your own list. good luck. just always remember, we never know when our time on Earth runs out...
@shia88 (4570)
• Malaysia
21 Sep 10
Hi,
I do understand the hard feeling to leave the work and same time
having a baby in the family.
However, a family won't be complete without a child in between.
Of course, some women may not want to give up their work especially
if they are getting a good pay every month. for such cases, the only
solution is to let their child taking care by nanny or relatives,so that
they can continue with their career.
I also wish I can choose that path,but too bad, I don't have that alternative.
At last, I decided to be at home to takecare of my son since he was born.
Be it, I do enjoy my motherhood.
