Is it right for parents to choose their children's course in college?

@joddie (173)
Philippines
September 21, 2010 11:04am CST
My 14 year old daughter wants to be like her Electrical Engineer father. This maybe because she's the one who usually prepares his power point presentations. I do not like the idea since for me, dealing with electricity is a man's work. I just hope that in two years time, she will lose interest in it. How about you, will you let your children choose what they want to be or will you influence them on what you believe is best for them?
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9 responses
• Singapore
22 Sep 10
I believe that a child's future and happiness lies in his/her own hands. Nothing parents do, will ever change their minds. So, as parents, you should actually let your child make the decision. Always let your child follow his/her passion and dream and also to always encourage them and spur them on in times of difficulty.
• Canada
22 Sep 10
Then again parents are the ones with the money to pay for your tution and other expenses.I i was in money problems i may choose what they want me to be just as i don't feel like racking up a huge college debt and having to pay it off for many years down the road.I feel that students that are interested in something should start early in learning about their field of choice so that they will be prepared for the course work in college or university when that time comes.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
I do feel that it is our responsibility as parents to provide a good education for our children. This is one of the legacy we can left to them when we are gone from this world. That's why we are also concern on what field they want to be.
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
22 Sep 10
I think that depends on the level of education they are going to choose. Yes parents always care for their children and they do the best ever possible. I think they will decide what ever they think is better. I think they have seen more the life than their child. They could choose but they should keep in mind the interest of the child also while choosing.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
My children would really want to have a degree in college. That is what i want also for them.
@sender621 (14934)
• United States
22 Sep 10
A child should choose what csreer path they want to take in college. A parent should only guide their decision. It is the child's future and they are old enough to make the choice.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
That is what i should do. I do need to guide them so that they will not be lost until i see them strong enough to stand on their own.
@SilverKing (1019)
• Canada
22 Sep 10
Its good that the parent wants their daughter to be successful but if they force a particular career on their children this is not what they should be doing.I feel that everyone should have a choice in what they want to do for the rest of their lives and even if the parent wants their child to be in that particular field they don't know if their child is interested in doing that for the rest of their life.If I were the parent i would allow my son or daughter to do what they want as long as it was not against the law or obscene in nature.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
I for sure would not force my children to choose the field i want. I want them to be happy on their chosen course. I can only advise them and encourage them. Thank you silverking.
• China
22 Sep 10
i think parents should tell kids the advantage an disadvantage of a career. most of the time ,kids choose something just for fun.the reason you object your daughter choose Electrical Engineer is reasonable. you should talk to your daughter later.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
I will surely ask her if this is what she really wants. I will tell her the pros and cons and let her decide. Thank you for sharing.
• United States
22 Sep 10
I'm certainly not opposed to my child making the choice of college, however, there is a financial factor that is involved; at least to a certain degree...you know, if my kid wants to go UT, but we only have Junior College Money...guess where he/she is going??!! All in all, I don't have a problem with my kid(s) picking where they wanna go...I like the fact that they are inspired and have a plan...I'll run w/that...don't quiet your child's desire, especially with stereotypical ammo...ANYONE can do electrical work...that's not a MAN'S job alone....anymore than working period. She may change her mind, she may not...what she needs is support and encouragement to be the best she can be in life...
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
Yes, it's true. Financial aspect also plays a role on their choice of college. I can't imagine her fixing electrical circuits. Well, i can't tell her not to do it if it is what she wants. I will surely support her all the way. THANKS!
@tkonlinevn (5783)
• Vietnam
22 Sep 10
I'll let my children choose but she must understand of it clearly. If not, I'll explain for her about All it. The, she can choose.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
22 Sep 10
I should do that. Guidance is very important during that stage. thanks for sharing.
@Catana (736)
• United States
21 Sep 10
I'm sorry you feel that working with electricity is man's work, because it isn't. And being an electrical engineer is a very good career for anyone, even women. Your daughter is too young to be making a final decision about a career, but if she still wants to be an electrical engineer, then she should be allowed to do that. Do you really feel that you have the right to control your child's entire life, even when she's an adult? If she has the ability to be an electrical engineer and that's really what she wants, why would you make her unhappy because you hold old-fashioned ideas about what's right and wrong for women? It's not as if she was wanting to be something that would disgrace you, but even that shouldn't be up to you. It's her life, her choice. I'm sure you want to do what's best for your daughter, but sometimes the parent doesn't know enough to make the best choices.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
I agree with you. If that's really what she wants, then so be it. I will always support her. Thank you for sharing your insights.
@thebest1 (658)
• Romania
21 Sep 10
hello,joddie and welcome in myLot! Well...I don't know what can I say.I want to let her to choose what she like because she will be practice this profession entire life.i hope that she will choose something that is good for her and for her life. I want to be a teacher and my mom don't let me.I like so much this proffession...but I can't do it.For this reason I will let my daughter to choose her "road in life" Happy lotting!
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
21 Sep 10
Hi there! We parents would really like to give our children the best. i don't really like to interfere with them since it's their future at stake here. Maybe I can give her some advises but if it's what she really wants, then I will support her. Thanks for sharing.