Your baby's surname... / myLot

Philippines

September 22, 2010 10:36pm CST

In today's day and age - there are open options for women on whether to use the surname of the father of the kids (especially for the non married ones). Well if you are not married, and is only living together with the child's father, would you use the man's surname for your baby or will you opt to use your surname? my nieces used to carry their mom's name. my brother and my SIL(consider her that already) is never married, and is still just living together up until this time - they already have 3 kids! when the last was born just a few months ago, my SIL used my brother's surname because the baby was a boy - and also changed the other 2 girl's surname now (they had to pay some for the changes) but that's fine... My question is, if you were the woman in such cases where you are not yet married, do you think you will still consider to use your bf's last name?

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3 responses

p3ks626

@p3ks626 (6538)

• Philippines

24 Sep 10

The baby gets the boyfriend's surname if the man agrees but if the baby is really illegitimate and the father will not allow that the bay would bring his surname, the mother cant do anything about that. She has no choice but the baby has to bring her family name.

maean_19

@maean_19 (4656)

• Philippines

23 Sep 10

I am living in with my bf right now and no children yet. If in case, I cannot decide if my child will carry my surname or my bf's name. However, I have no issue if my baby or babies will carry my live in partner's surname. In my opinion, if the kid/s will carry their father's surname, it goes to show that he is the father and that he acknowledge those kid/s as his. If my bf would question that the kids should carry my surname, then that is different. It may mean that he had no plans to marry me and does not acknowledge the kids as his. In short, there is doubt on his part.

choconut

@choconut (297)

• Philippines

23 Sep 10

i think they should get married especially if they already have a child. To make everything legal. Because sooner or later these kids are going to grow up and questions will start to form and because of legal matters they might even think that they're adopted or something. In my case, i believe that it wouldn't happen to me, because i don't agree with live-in. Sorry...