Desperate to have a child
By carol2532001
@carol2532001 (467)
Jamaica
September 23, 2010 3:40pm CST
Someone that I know is unable to have children. Each time she gets pregnant she loses the baby. She has become very bitter and cruel to kids left in her care by her relatives. How can I help her to accept that she just can't have children and that she should find joy in the ones that are available to her. She doesn't want to adopt and in her present frame of mind I don't think it's a good idea.
1 response
@maximax8 (31042)
• United Kingdom
27 Sep 10
I imagine that it must be very upsetting to keep trying to get pregnant and not be able to do that. I know a lady that spent eight years trying to get pregnant. She gave up and then got pregnant with twin boys. So sometimes stress can be the reason that a lady is unable to get pregnant. If a lady is having recurrent miscarriages maybe there is something wrong and a consultant might be able to help. I think that the lady you describe must hurt a great deal emotionally. It is terrible that she is cruel to her relatives children. Two of my cousins were infertile and neither of them wished to adopt. I think that in the woman's current frame of mind I think she would benefit from discussions with a professional. The lady is desperate to have a baby so perhaps she might be able to get help to keep the baby she manages to get pregnant with. A consultant might be able to find out the reason for her miscarriages.
@carol2532001 (467)
• Jamaica
28 Sep 10
I am sure you are right maximax. I am also sure her doctor would have done whatever could be done or referred her to the consultants that she needed to see. I think some people just don't have kids no matter how hard they try. If you can afford it there are artificial methods that work, but have to be able to afford them. Sometimes I think God just knows best.


