Do you think that calling one person your best friend is fair?

@deserve40 (1656)
India
September 24, 2010 2:06am CST
We all have friends and we enjoy their company. We make sure that we never hurt them, help them, share our experiences, feelings etc with them. They are always available for us in the hour of our need. Sometimes we call a particular person our best friend as we like that friend very much. But it is not necessary that the other friends are of less importance for us. However, by calling a particular friends we also hurt the feelings of other friends. Do you agree with this? Please share your views here. Thanks in advance.
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17 responses
@avic24 (57)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
For me yes its fair but for some with a close mind set its unfair. I have a best friend since we're in elementary, actually we're 10 or more in a group but I only have this one truly and 100% trusted "bestfriend". She is somebody who's willing to support, listen to my problem, offer advice and most of all she offer things without hesitation.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
26 Sep 10
It is quite natural that you may feel more comfortable with a particular person than with others. However, other friends are not of less importance in the life. So better to keep that feelings in hearts and express it to your best friend only without just letting others know about it. This will make others feel more comfortable with you. Perhaps this looks like an idea of politician's idea but I have my personal feeling that atleast we should learn and accept this friends from the politicians who do most of the things for themselves. But by not calling one person as our best friend if we can save other friends from feeling hurt, I think that it is fair.
@kjones505 (271)
• United States
25 Sep 10
You can only have one best friend. Your other friends may get upset with this truth but it is true. Its just like how a mother will have one child that she loves above all her other children. It sounds mean and cruel but it is the truth.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
26 Sep 10
I agree with you that this is the fact. It makes some of our friends feel mean sometimes. However, the facts are not necessarily told publically. They can be avoided and one can save himself from such awkward situation.
@shaggin (71633)
• United States
25 Sep 10
Yes it does make people feel bad to hear that they like another friend better then them. I havent referred to anyone as my best friend since I was in high school which was way back in 2001. I even had a hard time when I was on myspace and had to list my top friends. The way I figured it was who I talked to the most either online or in person. People say their husbands are their best friends but I never could have said that. I do not have a best friend. I have friends that I am more comfortable with and friends that I talk to more often but I dont have a particular best friend!
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
26 Sep 10
It is not only hard to decide who your best frined is but also sometimes unbearable for others who are really very close to you but they are not called the best friends. It seems that if you feel that someone is really very sepecially closer to you compared to others, you may tell him or her personally that you consider him or her as your best friend. There is nothing like being afraid of others in this case but you are trying to be little rational in this matter.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
yeah, that's the reason why i refrain from calling any of my friends a bestfriend, because there isn't just one person who has meant so much to me...a lot of my friends have sacrificed at least something for me, and i have done the same thing for them... but if i really have to call one person my bestfriend, that would be my sister...because she's different from the rest of my friends. we grew up together, we have lots of memories together, and we know a lot about each other.more than anyone does. because we're sisters.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
24 Sep 10
That is right...! More than one person be so good to you and you do not feel like hurting any of them as they all are so special to you in one or the other way. So better to refrain from making such comments.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
24 Sep 10
You can surround yourself with a lot of friends. Onmly one person can truly be called your best friend. they are the one you want to turn ro first in any situation in your life. I think calling one person your best friend is something fair.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
24 Sep 10
We may feel that one person is there to whom we can always turn when we need support, advise or feel like sharing something special. However, if we do not just disclose that only that particular person is the best for you, then by avoiding such comments, you can win the support of some more friends which may not be available to you if you have called only one person as your best friend.
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
I think it wouldn't hurt other friends, because they also can choose one from their circle of friends whose the best for them..
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
24 Sep 10
Surely, they can also choose the best friend but if they are also very good to you and they also have supported you equally well, then by saying someone is your best friend, you are saying that the others are not so good.
@elmiko (6630)
• United States
24 Sep 10
sure
@bin22l (160)
• Guwahati, India
26 Sep 10
We get many friends in our life.It changes from time to time and place to place. But best friend is one who is withyou for the whole life. Withwhom you can share everything, even the secret one.So among friends you choose only one who can be your best reliable friend. Others do so.So question that others will mind does not arise. It is my opinion. to get a best friend is a luck.All do not have that luck.
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
24 Sep 10
I think it is common knowledge that we have some people we are closer to than others. I have never been offended when even a good friend calls another person their best friend. Only you can decide what people are in your life. I don't think that by having a best friend it means that other friends are less important but that they just hold a different position in a person's life.
@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
25 Sep 10
Just by calling one person a "best" friend does not imply any less friendship with others or in any way demonstrate a willingness to "hurt feelings". Friendship is a kind of love (filos, in the Greek). Love is very big and is big enough to include many people in many capacities. If there is a special spiritual connection with one specific person, that's great, but it in no way diminishes other persons or relationships. While "love" has an emotional side, it goes way beyond emotion and "feelings" to a deeper spiritual form of love (agape, unconditional, sacrificial), and again, does not diminsh love for one or another. We love each other in different ways and dimensions.
• India
24 Sep 10
Yes but it depends on the situations. If one of them were really special to us and cares a lot about us then it would be nice to call such a friend as a best or special friend. What should make him special is that he should stand out among the others. I have a best friend now and although he lives pretty far from me he can help me out when i want him to and vice versa. I miss him a lot everyday and i try to make sure that i meet up or chat with him once a day! Cheers!
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
Best friend in the moment would suffice. The friend that is there for us in the future or has been in the past, was perhaps the best friend we ever had or will m8?
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
I do not think others would mind at all since everybody has their own ONE closest friend. Besides the word BEST onlyu refers to ONE. Its the BEST among the REST. You cannot refer bestfriend to 7 friends. I am pretty sure only one of those 7 friends are the one closest to you. Otherwise, its not bestfriend, its PEERS.If you have more than 1 friend that you go with everyday or always.
@harry89 (2330)
• India
24 Sep 10
the person who is closest to u should b best frnd
@ravend (659)
• Malta
24 Sep 10
Your best friend is your most intimate one, the one you'd kill for and the one who you trust with deepest secrets.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
yeah, that's the reason why i refrain from calling any of my friends a bestfriend, because there isn't just one person who has meant so much to me...a lot of my friends have sacrificed at least something for me, and i have done the same thing for them... but if i really have to call one person my bestfriend, that would be my sister...because she's different from the rest of my friends. we grew up together, we have lots of memories together, and we know a lot about each other.more than anyone does. because we're sisters.
@kimkim888 (145)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
i think is fair, make sure the feelings of best friend should be mutual....ehehehehe