what would you prefer, a very sad and hurting break-up or a slow-mo killing me..
By deriellevc73
@deriellevc73 (982)
Philippines
September 25, 2010 11:10pm CST
i just wonder since i have read a lot of discussions here regarding very hurting break-ups and there are those who stayed on in a relationship which they know is not right for them and is breaking them to pieces day by day.
Along these thoughts, i just wonder what people would prefer? a hurtful and very sad break-up or the one wherein you will have yourself torn to pieces day by day because you love the guy but his actions are hurting you or something in the relationship is killing you everyday?
To be more specific, let's place this question in the context wherein you love your partner very much but something has happened or is happening which make you realize that the relationship is not right for you. will you brave a very difficult and heart-wrenching break-up or would you stay on in the relationship and brave yourself to a slowly-killing me softly torment everyday? hoping against hope that things will get right even though you know in your heart that the relationship is not for you?
i would appreciate your views on this my fellow mylotters..
9 responses
@faithloveire (69)
• Oman
26 Sep 10
Personally, I'd rather have a quick, even though painful break-up than being in a relationship that I'm not really happy or comfortable in. No matter how hard I'd try to think this over, it'll lead to the same ending - a break-up. SO why subject yourself to misery when you can end it and suffer the pain only for a little while after?
If I stayed in an unhealthy relationship, it'll depress me more than being single again. And if the love we both feel is real but the situation we're in makes it difficult, then I'll have to wait for the right time. Maybe we'd need a break or something.
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I have had both and neither are fun! I would not want to go through either way if I was in that situation agian! I am a sensative person and both ways take me forever to get over! This is one of the many resons I don't date anymore! It is a long story to tell which I don't need to go in right now!
@Downwindz (2537)
• Netherlands
27 Sep 10
I have tried both and they are both very devestating... So I think I would choose for the short abrupt and hurting break-up rather than the slow... Why, because then I would have to see the guy everyday while it slowly ended but the abrupt id cry about it instead.
@pupupd (1515)
• India
26 Sep 10
Break up once and for all!!!
But this extreme step will be taken after feeling "slow motion killing me" effect for around 1-2 years and if things still do not change I will call off the meaningless relationship.
There is no point suffering the whole life, while your partner does not understand what you are going through. If you struggle in this painfull relation, you are ignoring the fact that someone else can love you better than your present partner and also you are preventing your partner to get someone better than you/someone who can give him/her what you are unable to give. I know it sounds too Harsh but this is a fact. If you want to see yourself and your partner happy, let him/her go and live seperate lives.
Have a nice day 
@vanjosh_30 (42)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
i had been tied in a relationship for quite a long time.i was so angry with myself to endure much pain.it was too late to realize that i had been hurt too much that i tried to give each day a chance.i was blinded that i should have let go of the relationship earlier.huh!i had fought a useless battle.if only i knew at first i could had been happy out of the relationship i should had done it earlier.but i guess every experience should vary among individual.its your choice....the more i tried to stay, the more hurt i am.the more pain i received the more i found it hard to forgive.but as they say time heal all wounds...its only us who can answer what our hearts long for...try to stop for a while and listen to it.then use our head which happened to be above our heart ...then weigh...
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Very sad and hurting is better than killing me slow-mo, whatever you mean by that. lol I mean, why would you choose to suffer for a long time when you are be free from such sufferings after being hurt. There's is not point cause both are still going to be painful.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
Even though I prefer a "Let's stop this and get a move on" in reality, both of those situation hurts the same. The important thing for me is Honesty. If feeling is already gone whether and instant or slow-mo, it's important to blunt out your real feelings and don't give lies or alibis. ^.^
@rxvergaraB (26)
• Philippines
26 Sep 10
as for me, i would rather see myself shattered just at once due to break up thing that to have it slowly kill and break my heart. it's a nice thing to get hurt at once for you come to learn something from it, than that of slo-mo thing, when you start to mend the broken piece, there comes that person destryoing it again, so it's better to have it once than slowly in motion for you will never see how it hurts not until your heart's totally damaged :]
