Are you a doormat, do you allow others to wipe their feet on you??

Hello! I think that this problem is more to be an existencial one, because if you shut up for one time, then the second time you will that that it was easy the first time and uou continue the same the second, the third time, etc, until at some piont you become invisible, and your needs can be ignored, your dreams passed on. And I am an individual, my life has a meaning, i do have needs, and i have to try to make my dreams come true. How can i do this if i do not show them this??

I think that there have been times in my life that I've had people that have walked all over me, but for the most part this is not the case in my life. The reason that I am the kind of woman that I am is because of the fact that I grew up in a family where I only had a mother after my father passed away and I saw the struggles that she had to go through because of the fact that she'd been dependent on my dad. I decided at that time that I would never be completely dependent on someone else and I wouldn't let anyone walk all over me.

Well, I do work my way and I do not give up easily. But I always weigh things before I decide and this is perhaps why I make it through in most of the things that I want to accomplish. But I also know when is enough and know those things that I am not capable of. I do not let go easily when I am faced with a problem. I do my best to solve it and accomplish a task.

I think that there are those people in life that just love taking advantage of others and have no problem with walking all over others! These are the types of people that I have no time for in my life! It's not nice when someone is taking advantage and you know that they are taking advantage! I would like to think that I have a strong character now but in the past I was taken advantage of on a lot of occasions. I enjoy doing my own thing now and don't like to be told by others how I should live my own life! People can try and offer us advice but I guess it's down to us at the end of the day as to whether we accept that advice or not. Andrew

I'm a doormat and I go with the flow. I find nothing wrong with that since I agree with them. If I have any differences, I will voice it out. Be it they take it or not, I won't bother. But when it comes to my strength in certain things, I'll be sure to insist on my ways because I know it best. So long nobody is able to over rule my points, I will have it my way. I'm welcome to new opinions, new options. That's where we improve right? There has got to be a balance of taking the lead or being led. When we were to stay in one area for too long, it's either we are taken for granted or be forgotten.

I did before but now,I don't allow that,but I'm not like a nazi,I'm in the midlle ;D

i am not doormat, but i think it's more fear that keeps people down. my friend just the other day who has a great eye for party planning said the other day she wanted to go into business for herself. but she was scared to start so she was not even going to try. I was shocked that she would say that. Even more shocked that she would said that out loud in front of so many people. Fear will make you do and be someone you would never think you could be. it's sad that people are not strong enough to see that.

mommyboo I am at times a wuss simply because others around me are acting so demanding and of course getting what they asked for but the caregivers sneer at them behind their backs, and I sometimes just do not want any more all out. sure I would have liked a second cup of coffe but does any of t hem hear my soft polite voice? I mean I am not aggressive and thus I do not li ke to make bad waves, I can live without the second cup of coffee but hate to be another person for the workers here to add to their sneer list.But I can only be pushed so far then I d o rebel and I do assert myself.So I am not a total wuss just a person who does not want to be here but had no choice.

My husband can be a doormat most of the time. He's gotten better over the years I've been with him. These days he mostly just lets his job walk all over him and use him. He does it because he doesn't like conflict, and he feels that if he takes a stand at work, he'll be fired. It's ridiculous, they won't fire him for such small things.. but he thinks they will. For instance the week that just ended, he worked 6 days open to close because his GM was on vacation. Now he's hourly, so granted that's going to be an awesome paycheck, but he could have put his foot down and demanded a day off, and he wouldn't have been fired for that.. but he came home and said "I have no choice". Thankfully he had a vacation not too long ago so it didn't bother me too much to have him work all those hours this week. Like I said, before we were together he was much worse. His friends would always hang out at his house till 2 or 3 in the morning even though he had to be to work at 5am. He was always their designated driver whenever they went out somewhere. But they were never there for him. They didn't come over on his birthday, or offer to take him out. He had no plans for New Years because all the friends had other plans that didn't include him.. but when they wanted him for something he was always there. He didn't see it.. whenever they called him he'd drop what he was doing and be there for them. Thankfully when I got involved that all ended.

Fool me once - shame on you, fool me twice - shame on me. I give people the benefit of the doubt the first time, after that I am not so easy going. I hate to see when people take advantage of others. It's not right.

I try not to allow my self to be a doormat for anyone. if you let someone walk all over you, they will. Id they see they can get away with treating you this eway, it will continue. Nobosy should be a doormat fore another person.

I am not totally the "go with the flow" type, but sometimes I think I also need to do that. It depends. But much of the time, I want to be the boss, I want to be in control of my life and I do not want others to wipe their dirt on me, no way. They can never do that to me. I am a type A personality and I am one who make things happen.