Why other get so exaggerated having found someone making other feel jealous?

jealousy, insecurities, showy - Exaggerated relationship when you let other feel jealous having found someone.
Philippines
September 26, 2010 11:45pm CST
Hey,I am not the one getting jealous so this post is all about the attitude of some people whom I observe. I just like to get your opinion about this case as this person just got a new boyfriend so everyday she get excited. As expected she receive calls and short messages almost every minutes. No doubt she let the whole world know she get hook with someone else while her sister does not even have one. Or in another word never found someone to rule her world so it may seem irritating that she get feel like she is ugly cause no one bother her or appear as uninteresting at all. [b]In case you are the person who are in love, Do you do all those things like getting to date every time, call and text every minutes, chat in the messenger then talk in a cellphone in a loud voice letting the other person near you hear what you're talking about. Like saying hey I have a boyfriend so I feel attractive while you have none to the point of being showy.. Every things changes so fast before you could not bother to do things just to be appreciated. Then if you are the person who never find someone would you feel jealous, annoy or irritated at some point when you know someone like to tell it in front of your face like I am very pretty so getting someone is easy while you have none..How would you react just not to feel insecure or look pitiful?/b]thanks
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9 responses
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
Awww! That is sad... I don't want anyone to feel that way when I'm in a relationship. But when you're the one who's inlove, it's not easy to get ahold of your emotions. Especially if you're a very "loud" or "expressive" person, it's hard to stay "timid" if you nerves is exploding with the sudden joy and happiness you feel for being inlove. And if you're annoyed when somebody is acting like this, don't you think the problem is "you"??? I mean, I believe that we're all unique. Our beauty is perfectly made and even if not everyone appreciates your physical attributes, there would surely be "someone" out there who will notice your uniqueness and greatness... ATTITUDE MATTERS!!! If you can't accept how happy others can be being in a relationship, do you think the others would be willing to have a relationship with you then??? So I guess, instead of sitting around, murmuring and getting bitter about yourself not being so attractive and all, it would be better if you would find ways to improve yourself on the other things you are good at... You can't be good at anything. Pretty girls have weaknesses, too. But you can always excel on "something" you are very good at and right then, people will start/begin noticing you and appreciate you just the way you are... But that would only happen if you begin loving yourself as well... I know the feeling of being "unwanted" coz I've been there. I always feel I'm not worthy to be with anyone because I'm so ugly. And I'm always the only one who doesn't get invites on dates or being given gifts and flowers by boys. But when I've learned to love myself and do the best thing I can to improve some things in my life, everything changed... Boys started to notice me that the feelings became so overwhelming sometimes I even get tired of getting too much attention... So... Just be who you are... Excel on what you do best! And time will come when all the guys out there will snob the pretty ladies and run after you!!!
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• Philippines
27 Sep 10
hi invisible lady, thanks for your response. Anyway,I am not the one involve that is only an example so in case it does happen to you. You already know to react and that is to avoid being jealous or insecure of other people new found happiness. Though some really have annoying attitude showing their emotion but I think everyone have no control over it especially when some just could not control the urge to tell the good news to everyone. While other may feel happy not everyone feel happy as it only makes them more sad. They too wish to have same excitement the only problem they have not find yet their true love. About the feeling of being unwanted your right some really pity themselves while other patiently wait so their are not insecure and that is a positive attitude to maintain. In right time they would also meet the love of their life.
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• Philippines
27 Sep 10
Oww! Yeah! I'm sorry for using the word "you".. Though I know you've already said that this is not your personal situation... I hope everyone will be able to look on these matters in a positive way. So they won't stay just that way-being so bitter... Yes, I consider it bitterness because it's just like a feeling that you don't want others to find happiness because you don't have a partner of your own, right? They want the others to just be like them - feeling left out so they would be comforted by the thought that they are not the only one who's suffering in this kind of situation. As for those who aren't sensitive enough... If they care for the people around them who are not-in a relationship yet, they should be atleast be careful with their actions. Coz it also matters how we act the right way in every situation along with the people we are with...
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Sometimes people who are in love may not have an intention of letting others be envy only that some people who are in love are overjoyed and much exaggerated in all things that they were unaware they might be offending others already of their actions. Thew want to shout to the whole world, their happiness of being in love.
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• Philippines
4 Oct 10
hi bing28, I understand their feeling and what becomes inappropriate when their acting like crazy like it is their first time to have a relationship then letting the loveless who are nearby feel jealous. So I think the most normal way is to act naturally not over showy just to be call sweet.thanks.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
28 Sep 10
haha =D Dun bother so much. The happier they are now, the harder they will fall in the future. Of course, everything seems to be good and lovely dovey at the start of any relationships. BUt everything will start to change as time goes by when they begin to understand each other more.. haha =D That's the time we see tears of joy turning into tears of pain, laughter turning into cries. Loud exaggerated talking into soft embarassed whisper. The more one tries to show they are in love, the more lonely they feel inside of them. True love is within the heart and the smile comes naturally, while not forcing to let everybody in the world knows about it.. haha
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
That not me lol..it all about other people. By the way you seem know so much. I think you already gone such happenings so it would not seem to be an extraordinary feat anymore. Well, some have continue blossoming while other fall from it when the romance fade. The latter which you mention is a sad fact though every one should get ready to the after effect whether it end as happy or sad that life anyway. thanks.
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@cbjones (1147)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I've never gone out of my way to let other people know I was in a relationship. Never saw the point in it. Seems a bit insecure, and phony to me. That's a personal bond between two people. When you find someone who you have said bond with, its very special. It's a beautiful thing. Talking extra loud about it on a phone turns it into a public spectacle. If I felt that someone was trying to throw their happiness in my face, as a way to bring me down, I would feel feel a little ticked off about it. No reason to be jealous. If you go out of your way to do something like that, it shows that you care about what someone else thinks. I'd wonder why my opinion mattered so much to them on this subject.If they are truly happy, there is no need to put on a show for anyone else. Enjoy your lover, and keep it moving. Nothing else matters outside the two of you.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
hi cbjones, I agree with you it is already enough to be happy in a relationship since you already compatible with each other and doing some boisterous are tantamount to being showy. That it becomes too much unforgiven to those who are loveless who may feel a little bit insecure for failing to find a partner. So being simple is more prefer. thanks.
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
i see people like that especially those who have a first time relationship. they use to brag and loud mouth most of the time. it is annoying at some pint but understand them. i do it too but not very showy so other people would not get jealous.
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• Philippines
4 Oct 10
hi flower21, Yeah, they seem so happy doing it somehow they tend to act boastful. well I think it is the way their natural express their love and also being excited at the same time so let it be...
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
obviously they feel so happy that is the feeling of being in love. those who have no partner may feel slightly jealous when the couple become showy this could be annoying.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
hi fantasticbabe, I recognize such behavior is normal but it become ridiculously annoying when the display of affection is so much when the other party just like to exhibit for the purpose that other may feel jealous. thanks.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
Well, i think i have a very nice relationship right now, built in love, and fear of God.. we have our parents support and our family's blessing. I think there is nothing more i can think of. We are "made for each other" and my friends even think he is the nicest person too, but no, we, or rather i have never made anyone - even enemies feel jealous about what i have. i hate that... i don't want people to be jealous because we all have our match, we all can find the best person for us... why brag about your girl or boy? when you know he too is not perfect, but is of course perfect for me! :D
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
hi chiyosan, That is a good news as you share your happiness with other people or beloved as they too are so happy seeing you being happy with your found love. It is so nice you have the proper attitude or conduct that you got a boyfriend but never brag it too much cause other would really feel absolutely jealous or to the point of being secure. Just wishing the other people happy with or without a lover is enough thing to develop a harmonious relationship. thanks for replying.
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@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
First of all, I hate to be in the center of attention. Secondly, when I have a boyfriend, I do not do something just to show everyone that I have one. Of course, I have to do something for my boyfriend and our relationship to be strong. I would be proud of him, but not to be boastful to others as if I am saying that I am pretty and that guys like me. If I have no boyfriend, I won't be insecure. Why should I be get jealous to those who have boyfriends? It is too shallow that i feel insecure when others have boyfriends and that I have none. I can be happy alone. I will just wait for my time when the right man comes.I do not need to rush.
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
hi maean, me too and even with or without a sweetheart I am just happy to maintain a low key attitude since nothing is permanent you could brag you have a lover for a moment but it could not be for eternity. So keeping it simple could be a safe way that a nice attitude to maintain. And you're right when you are destined to have someone they would come in a right time without feeling jealous of other people. thanks for replying.
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
because they are so glad for the whole world to know. they become boastful even brag a lot. it becomes annoying when it becoming showy in their action. if i encounter situation like that i never get so affected i just feel happy for her new found love. just wait for my prince without getting jealous.
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
hi janea, of course even me would be so pride to have a relationship but would not act really silly since other may get annoy by my action. i prefer it to be private so i would not appear showy. thanks