How's the Trust in your Relationship?

@34momma (13882)
United States
September 27, 2010 1:42pm CST
Let's just say your spouse is on the computer. They leave their facebook and email open while they run the bathroom. Are you the kind of partner who would take a quick peek into their facebook and email? Or do you feel like that is a violation of your partners trust? I think anyone of us are cabable to looking, but are we willing to take that step and go thru with it? I know speaking for myself, I would sooooooo want to look!!!. But if he did that to me I would be upset. I would feel like he didn't trust me! I think it's one of those catch 22 situations. What's your take on this kind of situations mylotters??
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@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
27 Sep 10
I would want to look but I wouldn't. Unless my boyfriend was absolutely alright with me looking at his facebook or email then I might. i trust him wholeheartedly. Even though he doesn't have a facebook, if he did I would want to look but wouldn't. I also know that he would not look at my facebook unless I gave him permission. I even created a face book for him but he doesn't use it. I guess he is not into the social networking websites. I can understand that because at one time I wasn't. He is so busy with work that I understand him not getting on the computer that much and not having the face book. Thinking of his email, I would be less likely to want to look in the email. In my opinion it would be more boring and I wouldn't like to read most of them. If he allowed me to I would just browse through the emails and see who sent him emails and what they said. Although with all of this being said I would never look at either one without his permission. It would be against his privacy to look. I really don't think he would mind if I looked at either but I wouldn't. I am also the type to not ask him to look. I trust him and have no reason to look.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Sep 10
i am with you. I would want to look, but I wouldn't look. it's about trust, and trusting our partners. If i looked and found nothing I would feel so bad for not giving him that trust. and then on the other hand if i looked and found something i would feel like sh*t for trusting him and him doing something to hurt me. it's one of those catch 22 situations. My mother use to say.. " What's done in the dark, always comes to light." so if he is ever doing something he should not be doing. I will find out for sure!
@o2bnocn (2992)
• United States
29 Sep 10
I believe that we will always eventually find out if the other person in a relationship is doing something wrong. Even if it takes us a while, we will find out no matter what it is.
• United States
27 Sep 10
Trust is very important in a relationship, if you can't trust then you are always looking for a reason to bust somebody. Plus, you begin to not trust everybody and that is a dangerous thing. I wouldn't look because I don't need to and neither does she. Now my kids would be a different story, I need to know what they are doing but we're not there yet.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Sep 10
thanks gitfiddleplayer. I agree with you. I would not want to do that to my spouse and I would help he would not want to do that to me. of course when it comes to the kids now that's a whole other ball game!! i am sooo looking
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 10
even if that is my sister job to check her kids things but as their aunt i am so strict about it.i would say i will check my niece and nephew things more than my sister.like momma i am sooo looking too~
@nova1945 (1612)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Even if I really wanted to look I would never do it unless he was next to me giving his permission. We both trust each other completely. Besides, we are both too old to get into trouble. LOL
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
29 Sep 10
hey Nova... how are you honey? Trust is so awesome
• India
28 Sep 10
i would take a quick sneek perhaps....
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
28 Sep 10
that is an honest asnwer and i respect that my friend
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Hi! Trust is an important factor in a relationship and so does being open. If you can't show your email, cellphone, fb to your gf or bf then you must be doing something fishy, lol. Those who are up to know good do it because they know that their gf or bf doesn't open their email or cell. Just think about it, lol.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
29 Sep 10
that is very true Santosmarchris.... if you are in an open and honest relationship, there should be nothing to hide
@sayariza (146)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
trust is very important in a relationship.I never peek into my spouse phone or fb. I trust her. My spouse will trust me, it is now my responsibility to maintenance her trust.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
28 Sep 10
thanks for using the word responsbility Sayariza. it's true we are all responsible in keeping and manitaining our own relationships!
@manleyjoe (1597)
• United States
27 Sep 10
The thought to look never enters my mind. I totally trust her.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Good for you manleyjoe! and that's the way it should be!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Sep 10
hi 34momma I had perfect trust in my husband and I can say he never 'betrayed that trust so if he were alive and on the computer and hadrun to the bathroom, I would not even think of peeking into his files. I trusted him and he trusted me so we never betrayed each other's trust.'Without trust there is not really any relationship married or living together.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Sep 10
thanks for always coming thru with such a great honest answer hately. you are right. trust is the most important thing you can have in a relationship.
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 10
if it about facebook i think i can check and go through it since he must add me as one of his friend in his friend list.about email i don't think so.but usually to anyone(friends and members) if i wanna do so i will asked themfor tehir permission.and guess what??they will definitely say yes!lucky to have such good people with me!.otherwise i will not try to sneak into their privacy~
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• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Im not used to reading my partners email or text messages cause i believe that as individuals we still need our own set of privacy. also if you have trust to your partner there nothing to be worried about. we might be curious at times who is he chatting or texting with, as for us it is another way of communicating to each other telling stories of what we do for d day whom we chat with.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
27 Sep 10
There was a time when we had some big problems with trust, but we solved all of them. It`s also hard to trust someone when you have a distance relationship, althow we keep in touch all the time, sometimes its hard to trust him when he tells me something, i don`t really know why.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Sep 10
Skade, that has more to do with you then it does with him. when you have trust issues and things like that its about you, not about the other person. You have to find out where that comes from and work on it. best of luck to you
• Pakistan
27 Sep 10
my wife use computer but she only watch movies and cartoons i trust on her she not like chatting and other stuff on internet. we both trust on each other. i use internet some time she bore when i use computer for a long time but she trust me. and i also not giving her a chance that she start mistrust on me. i use my all activities on internet front of her. happy mylot
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Sep 10
thanks mastermindskt. trust is important. and we should never hide anything from our spouses. good for you!
• United States
27 Sep 10
i trust my girl to the fullest extent, i have my moments when i dont and its only because i was in a emotionaly abusive relationship with a guy who cheated on me with several people, so its better then it was but i still have my moments, i have her password to her facebook page but i would never go on it unless it was an emergancy of some sort. But i do trust her with all my heart and i love her so very much!
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
27 Sep 10
you need that trust in a person. you need to know that person has your back. im glad you have that in your relationship