will you take back someone who's cheated on you?

@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
September 27, 2010 7:31pm CST
so in our lives, we may really have encountered cheaters, even in our past relationships... well if ever - will you take back someone who's cheated on you? I have heard about this, cheaters are always bound to do something to hurt you eventually... so do you think you would be able to forgive and forget the "deed" and take back this person and start over again?
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@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
Hmmm, I can probably forgive him or her, but to trust him or her again? Well, it takes time. I need to see clearly that the person is worth trusted.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
thats quite true, being in such a situation myself, that was really hard. you'll never look at the person the same way again, they will change, you'll be looking at them with suspicion. thank you for your response.
@johney264 (544)
• China
29 Sep 10
May be for a cheater his favorite is to cheat, no matter how your believe him at that time, after no long he will come back go on to cheat you, He look as test my patience if I will forgive he again, stand to trust he again, still the time I cant to tolerate, thoroughly sure he is a great cheater. in my idea give up him never communicate with him even he meet some big problem don't need to sympathize him. let him come to realize the truth. cheater could not living in this world only honest can make life go on and on.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
haha that's true, someone when is still imature, i think it already is in their nature to cheat and if you get them back, they will try and see if you could forgive and accept eventually that that is his nature... so its all up to us...
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 10
It's inadvisable, but then our hearts often betray us. Even if we take that cheater back, can you imagine the frustrations and fears we go through? You would be often suspicious and fearful over every move he makes (even though he tries to be faithful/sincere). I'm not sure if I can handle the stress of living with someone who had cheated on me and caused me so much pain.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
oh yeah, i can imagine as i know that... it is with me... it has really been something that will stick with you every time it would be too hurtful to forget. Apologies for my late response to the discussion.. Thank you so much... hehe Have a wonderful time in mylot! see you around. God bless you always.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
28 Sep 10
I will never take back somebody who has cheated on me. I don't think it is worth giving them a chance and I don't believe those people will ever change. Sometimes if you will give somebody a second chance it will end up in risking your life. That is what I understood from many murder mystery stories I saw in TV. I don't want to be a fool to risk my life by taking back a cheater.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
my thoughts exactly. i have never taken back a cheater, i won't never would. thank you for your response. Appreciate you sharing this with us, happy mylotting and godbless!
@picjim (3002)
• India
28 Sep 10
I would forgive the person.But in future the trust wouldn't be there.Since there is no trust i wouldn't give much chance for the relationship to flourish.I think it would take great effort on the part of both partners to bring the relationship back to its original level.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
that is ture, it can be easy to forgive them but it will be hard to forget and not be traumatized by the experience... Apologies for my late response to the discussion.. Thank you so much... hehe Have a wonderful time in mylot! see you around. God bless you always.
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
it depends...first,,, if i really love the person. Second if he will sincerely ask an apology...3rd if he promise he wouldn't do it again....4th, if he showed me that he really meant what he said (the promise thing)... as the saying said that nobody is perfect...neither you nor me.... so i would say , everybody deserves a second chance. if God forgave me on the things i have done wrongly why can't i forgive others..... God bless :)
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
hi there, i think it would depend on the situation but mostly, i guess i would say no and not take him back. Apologies for my late response to the discussion.. Thank you so much... hehe Have a wonderful time in mylot! see you around. God bless you always.
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
28 Sep 10
One truly cannot say what it is that they would do until they are in the situation themselves. Each situation is different and you don't really know how you would react if it were you until it has happened to you. Love is a complicated thing and cheating is never acceptable but we are all human and we do make mistakes. I would never resort to such behavior because I have had it done to me and I know how devastating it is to be the person who has been cheated on. But I can also never say that I would end a relationship because of it. Each situation would have to be dealt with differently.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
that is true, it should differ from case to case basis. different reactions are due from different circumstances, but then there is always that fact that the person was lying about a lot of things, and that he or she was cheating with someone else... so there.
@meipan (746)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
it's okay to give him a second chance because no body is perfect and beside we are only humans that commit mistakes.. but twice or trice is enough...
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
years before, i would clearly say i would never take back someone who has cheated on me. i haven't.. and yeah my ex cheated on me so it was good riddance. Thank you!
@tundeemma (894)
• South Africa
28 Sep 10
it depends on the circumstances surrounding the situation , if she is genuinely sorry for her actions , i think i can forgive her otherwise i will not, i will have to put her on probation of few weeks to see if she is genuinely sorry and if she doesn't commit the same offense then it will be fine
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
thank you for your response. when you decide how to take this situation in your own hands, i hope you would think of yourself and for the better of your relationship.
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Yes if he admits that he did something wrong and was sorry for it. How would I forgive if he doesn't ask for it, right. And also if he promised on not doing it again. But if he really did it for a purposed of breaking my heart and has an intention of something really bad, then I guessed there would be no second time for that person.
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• Philippines
28 Sep 10
They say love is sweeter the second time around. :) Maybe this is true but In my case, I would'nt accept or take back that person again. I may forgive him for what he did but I will never trust him again. I will be hypocrite If I would say that I can forget all the painful deeds he did to me.. ^.^
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
it can be sweeteer the second time around when they got back together if the separated with no third party, no lies and cheating. i think that would be difficult for both because the other would always suspect because of what she was or he was made to feel.
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
28 Sep 10
I'd forgive him if he's really sorry, but no I wouldn't take him back. Am not basically agreeing to the 'once a cheater always a cheater' lies but there's no way I'm taking that risk again with the same person. Besides, temptations got him, what can assure us that it can't catch him again? And no I'm not bitter lol.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
forgiveness is given, that is right i think that should be enough as well. =) Thank you and I really appreciate your time to respond in the discussion. Apologies that i have replied this late. =) hehe really sorry for that. hope you have a great day at mylot. God bless you!
@SinRealm (558)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
No... I devote myself to someone and give full loyalty. And if they repay me with cheating. I don't think so. Plus I'll just end up fighting the girl over and over. I'm a greedy person. I don't want to share, especially my girlfriend who I keep only to myself.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
that's right. i just think that they are not in love with you at all if they would cheat on you.
• India
25 Jan 13
Hi friend, it is really hard to forgive the cheaters and forget about their faults. We need a good and kind heart to forgive others for their mistakes, i think we must be mercy to forget about others fault and forgive them. Being mercy is very important to forgive others, a person don't have mercy and kindness don't have the ability to forgive others for their faults. We have lot of friends, relatives and beloved persons in our life, some times they are doing some mistakes and we are affected with their mistakes in such kind of situation we will forgive them if they ask sorry for their mistake and we must have mercy to forgive their faults, some persons will do continuous mistakes and ask sorry for that. It is very hard to forgive this kind of persons, since they will think that we are very mercy and kind heart person to forgive them for their faults, we don't encourage this kind of persons.. There is nothing wrong in forgiving our best friends and beloved ones for their silly mistakes and giving second chance to them, but still they are doing mistakes, it is very hard to forgive this kind of persons. If we have lot of mercy and kindness, we may forgive them. But most of the people are not interested in forgiving a lot of times.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
of course, it is hard to ever forgive them... they gave you so much trouble, cheated on you, made a fool out of you.. and they can never be the same person you know.. they threw your trust away and i think they should really not be given another chance... other person yes.. but never for the same that was cheated on. i think if this would be thee case, they will only think that they are given an access or an all out pass to do it again.. right? sometimes some people don't learn and they can just be hurting you more if you allow them to.
• Singapore
28 Sep 10
I will never ever forgive a person who cheated on me. The person who cheats on love are never trustworthy.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
Apologies for my late response to the discussion.. Thank you so much... hehe Have a wonderful time in mylot! see you around. God bless you always.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
If he did it only once, I am willing to give him a second chance for we are all entitled for it especially, if we really love that someone. That's for my opinion. But after that and it would happened again, that would also be the last. Happy mylotting.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
i think it is to each his own, even on decisions. let us hope that you have a risk in here to hurt yourself more. thank you so much!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
28 Sep 10
I would take back someone who has cheated on me . Everyone deserves a second chamnce. Forgiveness is part of life.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
27 Jan 13
Apologies for my late response to the discussion.. Thank you so much... hehe Have a wonderful time in mylot! see you around. God bless you always.
@Tubeth (39)
• Dominican Republic
28 Sep 10
NOOOOOO..and again NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO, once again NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I rather be alone that having him back...once a cheater, always a cheaterrrrr
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
oh that is sure such a confirmation. i think you are really firm with that, and i hope that is the case when it happens(knock on wood).
@sweechi (157)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Well its hard to be in a relationship you don't trust right?! anyways, in my case, I giving this person a second or third chance is okay. But if he keeps doing it, i really won't. It depends as well of how heavy the situation is about
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
that is true... its never ever going to be the same, to completely forget the deed a hundred percent... it is just not possible! thank you for your response!!
@melanierg (129)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
not a chance... once they've cheated on you.. they'll do that again and again and again.. you can no longer trust the person .. so why do you have to take them back.. what you should do is forgive the person.. and move on with your life.. time heals and eventually you'll forget him and what he/she did to you. it's a win-win situation :)
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
13 Jan 13
that's what i think too, and actually i have seen far too many men cheating on their partners and they just do that over and over again. it is never ending and the poor women always forgiving, the more they sink into such a hole they could never get themselves out of it.