Nothing is important than a family

Philippines
September 28, 2010 3:42pm CST
One of my friends told me that she is going to the America because his boyfriend want her to lived there and don't like to bring her one child. Her boyfriend accepts his status but not her daughter. She told me that she is doing this just for the sake of her daughter 's future. She is leaving her daughter in the care of her parents.I think she have appoint but if I am in her case, I think I should find another guy that accept me as a whole even my daughter. What is your opinion about this?
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22 responses
• United States
29 Sep 10
I would never leave my child with anybody to go to another country with another guy. If a man really loves me he must accept, love and respect my child before he accept, love and respect me. If she really cares for her daughter's future she should not go anywhere without her. And is obvious that if he doesn't want her to bring her now he won't want her to bring her in 2, 3, 4 years. Besides how can she give her a good future without her in the girl's life???
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Yes Mamirican.A good mother cannot leave her own daughter in the care of the old parents because we are the one who is responsible for our daughter and not anybody else. Maybe the woman think that she can give her daughter a good future in terms of money because she can send them bog amount of money for the future of her child but it is not good for me. Because the mother is the one who teach the child, do all the things to her child. The best way , she do is try to explain to her boyfriend if he accept her child for the last time and if not, I think she better let her boyfriend go alone. Well, thanks for sharing your comments with us and have a nice day ahead Godbless
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
We have to understand your friend's situation here.. but i would think she may think that there could be no other opportunity like this one presented to her. But she must not take the "bait" of leaving her daughter here and she going abroad with the boyfriend.. are they even that close, does she really know her bf that well? If i am in this situation, i would agree with you, and not leave my daughter for a man who can't even accept me for me, the whole package including my daughter!
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
yeah, I agree with your opinion Chiyosan. leaving our daughter makes us not feeling happy and not whole because our daughter makes us happy. If I am in that situation, I am 100% not leaving my daughter because I can find another man but daughter is important. it is our responsibility to take good care of our daughter not the others. Well, thanks for sharing your comments with us and have a nice day ahead Godbless
@indahfth (11164)
• Indonesia
29 Sep 10
I will not leave my child for any reason. Because no one can replace my son. The man, not really love. If love he will receive all, should the daughter of his girlfriend should also be accepted.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Yes, indafth. I also don't leave my daughter in that case because our kids needs our attention and it is coming for our own blood not like that man. We can replace him but not our child. there are plenty men who seek girlfriend and I know that it is not possible that girl can have another partner. Well, thanks for sharing your comments with us and have a nice day ahead Godbless
@misheli (552)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
Well for me if the guy loves me then he should accept and love my daughter too. But if he only accepts me and not my daughter then he's not the right guy for me. You're definitely right she should find another guy that will accept not just her but also her daughter. I don't think I can leave my daughter just like that for a person that doesn't accept my daughter.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I agree with you misheli. that guy not totally love that girl 100% why?Because I believe that if the man really loves to a girl, he can do what the girl makes happy. I give everything for the girl I love. But in the case of the man, He only think his own happiness not the girls happiness.I should dumped that man in the first place after all there are plenty man in the world and I wouldn't sacrifice my daughter's life. Well, thanks for sharing your comments with us and have a nice day ahead Godbless
@johney264 (544)
• China
28 Sep 10
She is great and the same as my idea. my hometown is at a small village far from the city, I never would like to go to the city and find a job working in a strange place, but because I have a family I should let them happy and thy are looking at me want me make some different for the future, so I must get out the family and do my best in the city, if there just myself I will never do this, I think I already make my family as my duty, its biger than myself also my family give me power and propulsion to hard work to make a better future.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I think you, you are just wanting that your family have a good future that you can give what they want and needed. But your point is not like the girl in my discussion because it is her daughter whom she want to leave it with her parents which her parents is too old to be taking care of other people. they must the one who take good care.All of us have a plan to our family and I also plan to give them a good future even if they are old I still want to taste them having a good life experienced that everything is this world is possible. Well, thanks for sharing your comments with us and have a nice day ahead Godbless
@SomeCowgirl (32218)
• United States
28 Sep 10
She should not just agree to leave the country and her daughter behind because her bf wants her to. She needs to stay with her daughter and he needs to accept that her daughter is apart of her life. I would find someone else If I were her because he doesn't love her if he can't accept her AND her daughter.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
yeah, you have a point somecowgirl. I think that man is selfish because he cannot accept the daughter of his girlfriend. I know that if people felt true love by someone else and despite the past of the girl, I think the man will heartily accept it with all his heart and not like this. He want his girlfriend go with him without thinking what happened to the daughter of his girlfriend? It is not fair on his part and it will give a negative impression to his ego. well, thanks for sharing your comments with us and have a nice day ahead Godbless
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
29 Sep 10
yes you are very much right, one's family should be more important especially in this period when few if not no one care about your welfare, you family will be the last resort , and this is why when you are happy or sad, you should confide in any of your family members
• United States
29 Sep 10
same case to someone i know!!did you ask your friend if it is really for her daughter's future not for her own interest?!for me leaving her daughter to her parent is not good.its not her parents responsibility to taking care of her child.and that guy if he really loves her he must accept his girlfriends daughter.i know some who is jealous and envy to other woman who already residing in states and married with white guy.so this person i knw,she tried her best to get an old guy looks like her sugar daddy,now she ask to come on her boyfrien's country and live there,since that her boyfriend like it.he said yes but no kid.he dont want her to bring her daughter with her and live with him!for me its not right,they are both wrong!!i absolutely agree with you,if i am her i should find another guy who is willing to love and accept me and my past.i wont risk my life and my daughter's future for that kind of guy..
@mods196621 (3656)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Yes if this guy never accept my daughter well i never go with him anywhere in this world because this means that he don't love me real. If he really love this woman he need to accept everything in her and no reservation. The true love is blind as like what the old folks saying last decades ago. If not well better to find another good lovable man under the sun. Have a nice day friend..
@youless (105453)
• Guangzhou, China
29 Sep 10
I feel very sad to hear this. I am so sorry for this little poor girl. If your friends' boyfriend accepts her, then he should accept her daughter, too. It is very suffering for a mother to leave her child. If he loves her, then he should marry her and regard her child as his own child. If not, it is better to find another man because marring to such kind of selfish man won't be happy. I agree with your views and I hope your friend will make a wise decision at last. If she thinks about her daughter's future, then she should keep her. Nobody can be better than a mom. I love China
@pogi253 (1586)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Your daughter is more important, you can count on your family to except you no matter what. I think your boyfriend is just too selfish.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
If i were in your friends situation id rather think of my child first. Her future was first on my list, having had the practical thinking is not a bad idea but it is greater if she will choose to be with someone who will love her child as she do. that i think is the very important thing to consider.
• Indonesia
29 Sep 10
hmm yeah in my opinion altough it's for the children future but it's too important to not leave your daughter ,and boy/girlfriend sometimes can lied to you ,they can trapped you into some case or anything so just find another couple for your life that accept you what you are,
@sender621 (14923)
• United States
29 Sep 10
Family is an important relationship in our lives. it is the foundation to build our lives and futures on. We can gain a lot of strength and focus for our lives from our families. there is love and support from a family as well.
@marnice (60)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
If her bf loves her he will accept her daughter. Her daughter needs her more than anyone else time will come she will realize that her decision in leaving her daughter over her bf because of her daughters future is not a good reason as you say nothing is important than a family. Family will always be there no matter what happened to you.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
.for me I should find another guy that can accept my family.And even that i love her.because i think my family is important than her.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
I hate that guy but I can't blame him. Perhaps, he can't accept the fact. Well, the mother should really take care of her child. She should never be far from the child. But whatever she decides.. it's her life. And let's respect that.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi careguarden... I'm on your side. i also agree that your friend should find another man to spend her whole life. She should find someone who can accepts her and her daughter. I do believe that if man really loves you, everything about your life, even your past, he can accept it. Better talk to your friend, I know you don't want her to be in a man like his bf.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
29 Sep 10
yes... you are absolutely correct....... am also thinking like that... but before i was not like that... i had love with one girl..... at that time i thought that she is everything..... but soon i realize that .. girl is nothing in our life... our all is our family.......
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Oh my, she really leave her daughter behind. She should leave his boyfriend instead, if that is the case. Leaving your daughter just for your boyfriend is a non sense person.