Ok when will it finally happen? I'm 26 and I still not found the 'one'

Nigeria
September 29, 2010 9:14pm CST
I'm 26 years old and I have not been in a relationship-ever! I have not dated, although I have lots of friends and we hang out.It's not because I believe there's just one person in the world for each person but I believe that friendship and compatibility are key factors in successful relationships. I really don't miss not being in a relationship because I've never been in one but I'd like to meet someone someday and we'll spend the rest of our lives making each other miserable! (lol!) My parents have been married for over 30 years and are still really good friends and companions and I want that too but I'm beginning to wonder if there are people like me out there who want the same things I do.
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• Canada
30 Sep 10
Well, you will not find "the one" if you don't get out there! Meet some new people, that you haven't been friends with forever, and see if you find that "spark." Friendship and compatibility are important, but you need to have passion too. Good luck!
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• Nigeria
1 Oct 10
You are so right! I do 'get out there' but I'm too busy doing things perfectly to remember to take the time to let my hair down and have a good time. And passion is a definite prerequisite! I'll look out for that too. Thanks :-)
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@kingparker (9673)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Hey, I am older than you, and I only in a relationship once, and it was a mistaken one too. I also wondering if I can find another half of life too. I would also wonder if there is someone out there is absolutely for me. When would I meet her in this lifetime?
• Nigeria
1 Oct 10
Those are really pertinent concerns. I'm glad there's someone out there like me. We'll figure it out eventually-I'm sure and we'll find the special someone someday.... Thanks!
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
30 Sep 10
When you stop trying to look for the right person, that person will show up in your life. Who knows, maybe you already know the person and just haven't realized it yet. Don't sweat it, I found that once I became happy with myself, truly happy with myself, and I stopped looking, things all fell into place.
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• Nigeria
1 Oct 10
I wasn't looking in the first place. I guess I got a little jolt when I woke up one morning and realized I'd never dated but that was it. I'm happy with myself but want to share my life with someone eventually and have kids and all. Thanks for the comment! It reinforces how I feel about this situatiion.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
30 Sep 10
There is no certain age when love will find us. When we find the one of our dreams we may not even see it coming. your heart will lead the way. Don't give up on finding the one meant for you. They are out there. when you are meant to find love, it will happen for you.
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• Nigeria
1 Oct 10
Thanks! That's really sound advice!
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@luxlyangels (1286)
30 Sep 10
Well these thing called love just happens so you ever know when its coming. Just keep doing it right,keeping it real and yes it will finally happen someday. Soon i can assure you that.
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• Nigeria
1 Oct 10
Thanks!
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@ADMaroC (76)
30 Sep 10
Probably you should meet new friends!.. your asking when would it be?when would it be?i guess it will come when you search for it.. it will come someday.. in the right time.. i believe it will come someday..
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• Nigeria
1 Oct 10
You're probably right. I need to meet new people might even put things in perspective for me i.e: maybe the person for me has been under my nose the whole time. Thanks!
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@LaurenInLA (2270)
• United States
30 Sep 10
There is someone out there for you. If you want to meet someone who likes the same things that you do, I would suggest that you get out there and join clubs and organizations that are geared around your interests. I always loved to run and I met my husband of 38 years when I ran a 10K. My cousin didn't meet her soul mate until she was 34. She could have settled but held out for the "one." and she is deliriously happy. Good luck
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@anurag3786 (6267)
• India
2 Oct 10
Hey friends don't worry. I hope that you will meet very soon your someone special. I think we can't anything until the times not come in our life. I am also a 25 years boy. And I am also now wanted to be in any relationship with a girl. So I think when our good times come in life then we can meet to our someone special.
@abj163 (1037)
• India
30 Sep 10
you are still single because may be you wanted to stay single.... may be you didnt tried to get into a relationship.... have you ever tried to impress a girl??? if not then go and try your best bro....just be yourself... i am 19 now and i am also single....because i never tried to impress a girl....i have female friends in my life but they are not of my type thats why i am just a friend of them ....a simple friend ...not a good or best friend .... forget about your past that you never had a girlfriend.....just concentrate on your present and your future will get changed due to that just try your best .... all the best happy mylotting
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• Nigeria
1 Oct 10
Thanks for the adbice abj163! I noticed you referred to me as a guy. I'm a girl-not a guy.
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@aeiou78 (3445)
• Malaysia
30 Sep 10
I our believe, to get a right companion is not so easy. Everything of our life is set by the God. We never be aggressive to ask for an ideal companion. We only can meet someone as our ideal companion. At the moment, a bachelor is very wonderful. When you are older and most of the people around you have set up their old families, then you will start feeling lonely. I hope you should pray more. May God bless you to get what you wish.
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• Nigeria
1 Oct 10
Thanks! I believe in God and I know He'll do what is best for me.
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• Philippines
1 Oct 10
hello enigmatick! have you heard the saying true love waits? if you did, no need to rush yourself in entering relationship. you just have to wait because He will give it to you at the right time and at the right moment. i had this experience, where i came to a point that i have been desperate why my friends have their partner, and why me has noone. a big question mark alway running into my head, "am i ugly", why can somebody notice me? am i intimidating? or they just dont like me?. and then, due to desperation, a guy came and i thought he was the one destined for me for the rest of my life, but he cheated on me, and as my sweet revenge when i knew he's more inlove that me, i turned him down. that day, i cant even love the way i used to be. its like the song, "i remember the boy but i dont remember the feelings anymore." so i suggest you, need not be in a hurry, there will always be destined for us, who will love us, accepts us, and be with us till gray hair grows. :)
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
hi enigmatick! there's no need to be in a hurry. it's good that you enjoy, and i think you have enjoyed, being single. don't be in a hurry. some people have their serious relationships in the late 20s and 30s. it's not really the age that matters in relationships.
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
hi, i believe everyone has their destined partner just wait for the one i believe he is there somewhere looking for you.. just pray to God and HE will answer all our prayers. thats all:D
@Jagokonte (123)
• Greece
1 Oct 10
Compatibility might not always be 100% when you meet someone. It might be half but adjust slowly reaching its full potential in a couple of years. Do not be afraid to experiment, you will have to kiss lot of frogs before the prince is revealed to you.
@RobtheRock (2433)
• United States
1 Oct 10
Life is complex. But I agree with many myLotters. Many relationships start with friendships. Believe it or not, one of those potential mates have their eyes on you and you don't know it. Some of us men don't have a clue and look at books and other things to get a hint on whether we have a chance with a person or not. Some folks, like myself, are very particular and that can hurt. Don't be like me, old, unemployed, and wondering if my last chance to be with a female will come before I cash in life's chips. One thing I notice is that once you get a woman, then the women will come after you. They seem to wait until you catch someone before they come. Having been alone all these years, once I get into a relationship, I don't want any other women coming around.
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
.don't lose hope! :D .if you have your high standards, it will be difficult too reach. i think if you feel something for someone, you should go for it. we all don't know where it will bring us. don't take for granted someone because it must have been true love but you slipped it away...sometimes, we have to fight for what we want in order to have it. we might have nothing left if we are waiting or finding for a better one. .i've never been in a relationship. but i don't care. i'm still happy. and i know someday, it will come my way! :D .goodluck to you! :D
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Well people differ from evrything an devrybody has their own way or choose to be what and who they are but for me i feel very inspired if im in a relationship or if im seeing someone becasue it feels very lovely to be cared and loved by someone but i also do love to hang out with friends and stick them all the time.Life is only once so we must enjoy it.
@manish48 (36)
• United States
30 Sep 10
hello enigmatick Whatever happens,happens for good only. May be you are destined for this. But dont worry, i think some pretty thing is waiting for you to join her life and make both of your lives miserable....:)Just wait for the right time and you will never know, how things happened so fast.
@karmah (16)
• Germany
30 Sep 10
You know, you can't force anything. It happens sooner or later, and whenever it happens, just enjoy it (: Go out, meet new people, make friends and maybe one of them will be IT. Just don't be too focused on finding a partner, as said before, you can't force love. Good luck (:
• Finland
30 Sep 10
You will meet the right one when it's the time. You really shouldn't worry about it.