Who cooks in the house?

Philippines
October 1, 2010 8:03pm CST
Is it the wife or the husband? The wife does the household chores so definitely, the wife should cook. Guys think, "Something about having a female cook for you that just makes them feel invincible." That whole nurturing and nesting instinct is a quality they look for in a woman. But some say, men are a better cook than women... Do you agree on this? In modern times, women are allowed to have a job. They also work for the family. So, would it be unfair that women will also do ALL the household chores while also working?
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27 responses
• India
2 Oct 10
In the modern world, things are changing rapidly. If a man helps his women in his household chores - that way he is showing his love and care for her. Its so much fun, to the chores together and you will not notice the time. Regarding, who are the better cook. I think both have their own ways. Men like to experiment and Women stick to their basics while cooking. Though every man learns cooking from his mother or his wife, then he tires innovative ways.
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Well said again jackjill123. Each of us has their own style of cooking because we also have our own taste. It is really fun to do things together... mind you if a husband and wife do chores together, maybe they will end up - - ahheeemmm. making love! right. lol It is also fun to involve the kids on helping the chores. Household chores could be FUN!!! If we do it cheerfully and happily together! You really have a good point about this. Thanks again for your reply. =p
• India
2 Oct 10
End up making love.. Man you got good sense of humour. But if that happend forget about the chores, it will be left unattended, as both will be tired after that. And if kids are involved in household chores, they will make a mess out of it. You know kids right. But it will be fun to watch them doing that.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Yeah, I mean the bigger kids.lol I love seeing my 3 year old making a mess. But sometimes, it isn't fun also... especially when no one will help you clean. The chores would be left unattended for a while. But life goes on after, maybe it can be left overnight. But the more messier it is and then the more cleaning will it be.haha lol
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
4 Oct 10
I don't know how to cook at the moment. Most of the time, it's my mom whom cook, while i eat. My mom has always been nagging at me to learn cooking, because of my future husband. She says, cooking is the way to a man's heart. Much as i want to agree, i can't because she will nag even more! Luckily for me, my bf is someone who knows how to cook. Though he does not know that much of dishes, at least he's able to whip up a tasty plate of pasta for me.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
When I was not married yet, I also don't know how to cook. I mean my mom always do the cooking. My mom sometimes will tell me about learning how to cook. But I wasn't that crazy to learn how to. Stubborn girl.hehe My husband knows how to cook well. And i learned my cooking most from him. =p Although, I would always want to cook for my husband... I think we, women are born to cook for them - it makes me more happy to serve him.
@snowy22315 (169834)
• United States
2 Oct 10
I do the cooking because my S.O. can't be bothered like with most things. I really love doing it most of the time though, so that is not an issue for me. I don't think women are inherently better cooks however. Most of the top chefs are men.
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
That was just I said, Men are better cooks than women cause I have known many men chefs that are really good. It really doesn't matter anymore if you love what you are doing right? Women love to do things like this (cooking), so most of them don't really care/complain on working in the kitchen. Most mothers chooses the kitchen than all other places in the house. You know what I am saying?
@sona22 (1430)
• India
2 Oct 10
In our house my wife and my sister-in-law wife cook for us. In some situation my husband cooks some special dishes. Both of of us are pure housewife. For your 2nd query, I think men have occupied the position of COOK in different hotels, restaurants and nay other places by virtue of social atmosphere. And this tradition is going on. Women were forbidden from this type of work for the physical strength and security purposes. But now when women are working in military service and other laborious, danger positions they will enter in this segment very soon.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
hmmm.... Interesting, great thoughts! But the tradition in cooking too is that women should cook in the house right? Men work traditionally outside the house so they can cook there?lol We have many stronger women nowadays. I salute them! Especially those women who do men stuff... The world is revolving and tradition may change a lot.
• Jamaica
2 Oct 10
My dad used to cook for us on weekends, my mom would cook during the week but weekends were dad's. My sister's husband does his share of the cooking and housework as well, i guess it doesn't matter, whichever person gets home first usually starts dinner.
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
Yeah, I think so too. And whoever is available could cook. It is so good to hear families that are working together in the household. It is just so sweet.
@epicure35 (2814)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Finding the right "division of labor" for a family should be easy enough if everyone understands the need to cooperate and share. Men have traditionally been know as the best "professional" cooks. Women are traditionally known as the best "home" cooks, because they used to be at home and homemakers. There are no rules written in stone that men can't cook at home. My mom was a great cook, but very possessive of her kitchen. My dad wanted to dabble in simple cooking, using gadgets and ready made items, and she made it difficult for him to explore that part of himself, but he did come up with some easy recipes. Of course it's nice if everyone in the family has a chance to cook some favorite meals sometimes on either a regular or rotational basis. Cooking is fun and creative, but it is also hard work and it's nice for everyone in the family to know how. Then, again, all chores should be shared.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
You explained this very well. We should share the all the household work with everybody in the house. It is through understanding also that one can help one another. A happy family does this and through this, you can live a healthy happy life with your family.=p
@derek_a (10874)
2 Oct 10
Well I do, because my wife works away from home in an office in the city and I work from home and can organize my time through the day. I tend to use a slow cooker where I can put in all the ingredients around midday and it will slowly cook through the afternoon ready for our evening meal when my wife comes home. _Derek
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Wow, it is so easy with that cooker around. I am so proud that you cook for your wife. =p lol That is why husbands and wives should have teamwork on doing household chores...
@shaggin (71663)
• United States
2 Oct 10
When my ex and I first got together and moved into a house together I hated cooking. The agreement was we were both working and he would do the cooking and I would do the cleaning. I seriously dont know what happened to the agreement but eventually I wound up being the one to cook all the time. Then I just felt it was my duty to provide my spouse dinner after working hard all day.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
What a cute story! Just like ours. haha I learned how to cook some new things from my husband. I love to watch him while cooking... He is so neat on this. But eventually, I learned and I learned a lot everyday. So I turned to be the one who is cooking now. I find it more rewarding to cook for my husband especially when he comments about it. =p
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
2 Oct 10
All depends on the private individual. If you have the nature of the calculation. Would have been unfair. Supposedly, the husband and wife must help each other, and there's no word just or unjust.
• Philippines
3 Oct 10
In a relationship there is no fair and unfair because they should be equal right? Thanks for this reply. I really appreciate it.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
2 Oct 10
Cooking can be done equally by a husband or a wife. Not all women are good cooks. Sometimes the men are better at it. Just because there is a woman in the house does not mean she should be saddled with all of the cooking duties. Husbands and wives need to share!
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
very nicely explained sender621. I also believe in equality on the household work. =p
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
For me not because it is the responsibility so be it for your work girls if you doing that Jehovah God would be happy because you take your responsibility.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
That was a unique post. You also do it for God too not only for your family right? Find a way on pleasing God most and this can be one way to please God. =p
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
My wife usually cooks in the house. As per responsibility, it is the duty of the wife to cook and take care of the home. For me, cooking is not an easy task but I have to consider the positive side. I'd love to eat and I have a great tasting abilities on foods that I ate. I commented immediately that this food is good or bad, and I want to learn a another skill by cooking. I don't like cooking food but the more I taste good qualities of food the more I challenge myself to learn cooking. As of now, I'm still learning on how to cook foods and I hope that I will improve my abilities and style and to share the food that I cooked.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
It is not easy to cook. By now, I am also still learning how to cook well. It is a skill that really needs practice. Some people have talents on this too and they can develop it also through practice. So good luck on your learning and as well as tasting! =p
• United States
2 Oct 10
absolutely agree!men are better cook than momen.my dad is a good cook than mom,my husband is a better cook than me!doing all house chores while also working is unfair for me.if she just work as part time it would fine but if she works as full time both of them need to do the chores or things around the house.me,I do clean the house,laundry,dishes and do taking care of our pets.since that my husband dont want me to work so i stay in our house all day and do some house chores that i can.i do cooking too but most of the time my husband cook for our supper when he get home from work.we both do things around the house.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Cool! I know some fathers who don't like their wives about working. Do you agree on this? Some even finished a professional degree and left it just to pursue housekeeping because their husbands told them so. How do you feel about this? I finished a professional degree. So, I rather work being one like my husband is too. I should work too not only in the household but also on what I studied. I don't like myself to rot in the house. lol I also agree that men are better cook. They seldomly cook so, the taste would be a little more different and more appealing for the family.=p
@Jagokonte (123)
• Greece
2 Oct 10
Whoever cooks best I guess should lead the cooking and the other can help. I prefer to have my girlfriend taking care of me and all this nurturing and nesting but I mostly prefer to be me who cooks because I really enjoy cooking and eating my recipes until she figures out how to cook :D
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
Then, I guess, the one who enjoys it the most should do it. =p ... and I enjoy cooking for my family. It is just so rewarding for a mom to see your family eating what you cooked.
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Cooking is an art. It takes someone real passionate to produce good viands for the family. Our men usually do the grilling.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
That is right! They do the hard work then. It is so hard to grill and it also takes skill to grill something. Whoever is in the kitchen, I am sure that they can enjoy cooking for their family... Especially the wives, they are just so thoughtful in serving their families. =p
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
I am a woman, a wife and a mother of four. Moreover, I stay home to take care of everything including cooking. I'm not sure if it is really a nurturing thing that's why women want to cook. I can only speak for myself. I love to cook whether for my loved ones or for myself. And fortunately, I am a good cook, too, that is why my husband is letting me do the cooking. But when I'm in my parents house, my brother or Mum do the cooking. They are better cooks than I am and I love the dishes they served.:) I guess, men are better cook than women, given the same training and interest. MY brother cooks dishes and they taste better compared to when my Mum does it. Men who can cook are also sexy.:) I wish that one day, I'll see a man in my kitchen whipping a great meal for me.:)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
You are right that men are sexy cooks! haha My husband is. Many do agree that men are better cooks. Aside from you here in the discussion. I only know men cooks in the television and met also one men who can cook well - my husband. I haven't tasted my brother's dish. Oh! I did tried his cooking, fried hotdogs? haha lol My mother does the cooking when i was still young. I love her taste.
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
Hi there! Household chores should be equally done by a husband and wife, same with cooking. If the husband cooks the wife cleans the dishes, if the wife cooks the husband cleans the dishes. I believe in equality or work done inside the house. If both can't do it or won't do it then they can just hire help.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
hhmmm.. Equality in homes should be stabilized. Working together is showing love too. So it wouldn't be much of a problem if the family loves each other and offers a helping hand with each other everytime!
• Thailand
2 Oct 10
In western countries about the couple working together is very normal home. However the oriental countries is it insulting to men. They are argue the men should do the only big deal. This is not fair the women. I hope that will soon change this perception
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
It is very good to know about this. Some cultures are really strict and I think, they might as well follow the tradition. I hope too that some traditions would change to live more in freedom!
• New Zealand
2 Oct 10
im my house my mum does but my step dads is horrible so for me the wife is
• Philippines
13 Mar 11
do you mean horrible on cooking?well, if that's the case... then the one who knows how to cook then is the one who should prepare dinner. =p
• Vietnam
2 Oct 10
i think both men and women should do cooking. In the past, only men worked to support their family and women did all the household chores and took after children. Nowadays, women also go to work. It's really unfair that they have to do the household chores.
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
So true. It is totally unfair that someone only does all the household work. Time has changed. Women work now so, the husbands would as well adjust and help their wives too with the household chores. =p