Am i wrong when i'm affected if things i've given were lost?
October 2, 2010 8:42am CST
I felt bad today upon learning that some things i've given to my children were lost. It's either somebody had taken it or they just left it unattended. My point is, if you have taken care of it, it will not be lost. I do value things given to me even how small it is. That's what i also want others to do with what i gave them. Would you not mind if the same thing will happen to you? Like it seems they did not value your gift?
• South Korea
2 Oct 10
maybe I will feel a little bit bad.. but I will also think that atleast something bad didnt happen to that person and she/he just lost that thing.. sometimes that things happen and we can never do anything else coz damaged has already been done..
2 Oct 10
Hi joddie! Thank you for sharing your experience. Now, I think my 9-year-old is normal. :) She keeps losing things. I got disappointed many times already because I keep on instilling in her the value of the things I gave her and how hard it is to earn money. I thought she simply just won't listen. I was getting worried she'll grow up irresponsible. :( I keep on reminding my daughter too on keeping things. I even have to give her some pretty boxes just so she'll learn to love taking care of her stuff. She'll look after her stuff and keep those for the first two times and then she forgets about it! Maybe I should give her another year, maybe she'll be responsible by then. :)
4 Oct 10
Hi, Don't be sad and don't blame your children. They maybe too young to understand on how to takecare of their own things and you just need to advise them always to take good care of their own things. By the way how old is your children? For young children, they still playful and may not be able to pay attention more to their own things. LIke my son, he can simply throw his toys anywhere and only when he wants to play with them,then he realized he lost in somewhere at home.I just need to keep remind him for being good boy and must takecare of his own toys.
4 Oct 10
My 14 year old daughter had lost the sunglasses that i gave. I kept on telling her to keep it after using. She just answer "yes mom". Then when i ask her again where is it, she can no longer find it. With regards to my 9 year old daughter, well, nothing is new if i can still find the set of pencils a bought intact. It's either the erasers were all gone or only 1/3 of the length was left.
3 Oct 10
You can't be mad at children for this reason. They are kids and they need some time to develop the responsibility and understand the importance to keep the gift. Instead of getting mad at him, you can tell them that you are sad that they didn't value or taken care of your gift. I used to lose a lot of pencil boxes when I was in school. My classmates or somebody stole them. My brother is 17 years old and he lost a good mobile phone I gave him as gift in less than 3 months. What will you say about it? He doesn't know the value or money or he didn't value the pain I took to make the money to buy the phone. He had been very irresponsible and I was mad. Even though I didn't fight with him regarding this.
• United States
19 Oct 10
I think that I would be a little bit sad if something like this was to happen to something that I'd given to my children. However, I would never really be mad about it happening because of the fact that the items were given to children and it really is the nature of children to not really know how to take care of things. Now if they were older than their current ages of four and seven years old I would probably be more affected by what had happened.
2 Oct 10
This usually happens to me when I give gifts to my children who are still not mature enough to take care of them.. often times, I buy less expensive ones in anticipation that it will really get lost. But it is normal that you feel the way you do especially if its hard earned money.