What's your take on having or being in an "open relationship"?
By nikramos
@nikramos (698)
Philippines
October 3, 2010 1:21am CST
for me, the concept of being in a real relationship is to have someone you will love, be with, care for, share your life with, and stay loyal to. why would some opt for open relationships? doesn't this create much drama and end up hurting either or both or everybody involved in the tangle of being in the open relationship? i don't think i would be able to be in something this complicated. what's your take on being in an open relationship?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Oct 10
nikramos I agree a real relationship is when a man and woman are in love and are committed wholly to each other. why ruin it by playing around with other men or women, this is just hurting each other and will eventually lead to divorce. I hate that whole premise and it would never have been for me. I was married to the man I loved for 33 years and that was wonderful no open realationships for us.
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@luna1980 (53)
• Thailand
12 Oct 10
last weekend I watched old movie " Serendipity " Nik, have you ever see this movie? I love it! Relationship... it is must from your heart, from your true feeling with each other. Feels what your partner feels. Example : You about to marry your gf but your mind always think about other girl.. then your gf feels that your heart is not with her any more in the last night before the wedding then she stop and talk with you.. yes it might be a little bit late but it is worth to stop the relationship before it is too late! I love my ex bf so much but I decided to broke up with him nicely with the reason that I can't feel his mind.. it is hurt to be with..that is more complicate to stand beside who you love but the best way is find your side and be yourself..make it clear and accept it :)So to open relationship is for who not sure to have true love with that person. Well, it must to agree with each other that their status of relationship will be opening. Just like my friend FB status ;)My friend love her so much but he just not sure that she will love him as same as his level or maybe less.. so he decided to set his relationship like that for not hurt too much when it going to the end, it is for herself too.. Well, both side must to talking if not some one will hurting then the other one.. :) life is alive with love ;)
@nikramos (698)
• Philippines
12 Oct 10
hi luna! your opinion is actually quite different from mine. i mean, why do you have to be in a relationship in the first place if you're not sure with him? the moment you said yes to being with him, means you trust yourself to him. i'm just a very emotional person i guess that's why i don't go for open relationships. it's just a big wonder to me.
anyway, i've seen serendipity and it's one of my faves. :) i don't see it as an example of open relationship though. it just happened that they are not destined for each other. being in an open relationship is a choice; destiny isn't.
@luna1980 (53)
• Thailand
12 Oct 10
hehee.. I got you now :) in cause my friend, he open relationship wiht his gf because he don't have much time to spend with her, he really loves her but he just don't know that he is good enough for her future or not.. I meant he confuse and not sure .. so he choose to focus on his work the most... So, if some day she found some one right.. she go.. he will let she go.. he said..
Yes, you are right :) open relationship can being serendipity of the destiny :)I will keep in mind :) Wish some day I can found some one or maybe old one ;p that I can feels his mind :) well, I still love my ex :) but let's him go was the best for me and he but it doesn't meant that I have stop loving him :D Thanks :D
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
11 Jun 11
Hi. nikramos. My take is that having or being in an opened relationship is nothing but trouble. It is also risky and dangerous too. I believe that if a couple is involved into an opened relationship then that means that they don't love each other. Why would they want to share each other with someone else, perhaps a stranger?
