How not to be annoyed with annoying people?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30186)
Philippines
October 4, 2010 12:50am CST
Really.. have you got someone where even if they ahve not said anything, their mere presence already annoys you? he he
For me, in my life i have never really found anyone like that - i always give people some kind of a benefit of the doubt, sometimes even after they are doing some things that offended me... But really there is this one person at work who works from another country(thank God). He is not here but every time he messages us in emails or internal communicator... he would be able to annoy me.
Even if I try sooo hard to not react, to think clearly.. Really.. this is an honest feelings shared to you.. I just find him, and his messages really annoying and out to destroy anyone's day.
My team mates here have all agreed that we all feel the same way because he is always in a sarcastic tone... that's why he is annoying.
How do you deal with such people? (just a while ago he annoyed me and my seatmate again) ha ha i mean, it can be funny but at times you just can't laugh at it and had to just pretend to not see his messages! =(
10 responses
@getbiswa2000 (5544)
• India
4 Oct 10
Hello,
The most important strategy is of course, avoiding them. There is, however another more conclusive way of dealing with such people without being mad at them. Analyze his personality, put yourself in his shoes. You'll find that he is sarcastic because he is extremely unhappy in his own personal life. Read http://www.bukisa.com/articles/348782_why-do-people-behave-badly which is about 'Why do people behave badly', and you'll be able to penetrate deep inside his annoying appearance. He always had the choice of being funny and happy, but it seems he is too ignorant to acknowledge that. How can a person annoy us if we just refuse to get annoyed? This is a crucial trick. Use your imagination and sense of humor. It's he who is in trouble, not you. Why should you even care? Just ignore the sarcasm and take the rest. Thanks.
God bless you.
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@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
thank you for your response. I liked wha tyou have shared with us and i do agree! he should hav ebeen the jolly and good to work with person but he choses to be otherwise... =( anyway.. i am already getting used to the things, and words he uses to annoy all of us.. if it makes him happy.. i just do not give it all to him - nope i don't / say we don't show him we are "that" annoyed. ;)
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
Oh,that's interesting,someone annoys you thru emails.
Well,you can ignore that person or block him for sending you emails.
If you never allows someone to annoy you in person,then why let someone annoys you thru email alone.
Have a good day always
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
unfortunately i can't block him.. we work with him in the team but his in a different country just giving orders, feeling like he is a boss.
anyway, if we do not respond asap we get calls, and then our boss gets the call.
so much for not trying to be annoyed. =(
@chiumee (850)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
sometimes language barrier plays a role. i have found this situation too before. the other person only knows direct command words and no way he would say please, or kindly, or would you be so kind, do you mind... man, i thought at the beginning, he was trying to overcome everything and he was just boastful!. maybe the person you are saying has this issue.
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
ouch...that a big problem (hahaha)
then,just shout him in the face,he can't never hear you after all 
@chiumee (850)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
i too have met this kind of person. sadly, i see him most of the time. and i just can't find a way to escape from him. so what i always do is to act as if i didn't see him. and if it comes to a point that he want to talk to me. i answer him immediately and leave. i don't want to be acquainted with him in any way for any reason. i got much annoyed from him when he even tried to follow what i was doing trying to catch any mistakes or shortcomings and made a big issue on me. duh. if i can get reach for doing that, i would have done it million times. i reported him to his boss.
@eurekafemme (5874)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Have you really understood what's the reasons behind that annoying feeling for him? There could be more something deeper other than his being sarcastic.
There are people who are not really gracious and courteous in dealing with other people as well as co workers but once you get to know them deeper, you'll soon realize they are nice and good people.
Just like you said, give each person the benefits of the doubt.:)
If you couldn't really help it, then I'd suggest just ignore the feeling. Everytime you are notified of an email from him, do not expect before hand that it is something annoying and from someone who is annoying, as if saying " Here we go again with the annoying message from the annoying person...".
Reverse psychology might help,too. Instead of feeling annoyed why not think of him as a gentleman and nice person. Do this every time you think of him or you reminded of him. Eventually your brain will soon get used to it and triggers a different signal to your brain when he communicates with you again.:)
Goodluck.:)
Do this every time you think of him or you reminded of him. Eventually your brain will soon get used to it and triggers a different signal to your brain when he communicates with you again.:)
Goodluck.:)
@nangisha (3495)
• Indonesia
4 Oct 10
Hi Chiyosan!.
I usually can annoyed by certain people its usually by their body language or the way they talk thats quite snob.
I usually try to avoid this kind prejudice by knowing them much better. At the end most of them become friend while others just kinda person who better avoided.
If you feel someone offend you, just tell him. Maybe thats the way he usually threat others and he think yhays OK because no one is reacted negatively. I think its better to tell him how he made you feel so next time he will be careful with his word. We all unique being so we have different perception on many thing.
@starrose_ara (784)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
One cannot help the feeling of being annoyed or irritated with somebody. Even if that particular somebody does not do anything against you. Maybe he/she looks like somebody who treated you unfairly in the past. The real solution lies in looking for the root cause why that person annoys you. If you are prone to high blood pressure it is extremely imperative to calm unself. de focus on the source of annoyance.. I channel my mind to other things that interests me. It's not worth it to ruin one's day because of that one annoying person.
@kodukodu84 (1567)
• Malaysia
4 Oct 10
Well maybe try to reply him in a very very sweet way everytime lol until he can't take it anymore haha!. It may scares him a bit, I dunno. Maybe that is just the way he works or maybe it's related to his pride, it's hard to tell, but yeah sounds quite annoying. Just be thankful that he's not around your office to annoy you more and your team mates :) It could be worse than it is right now :D
@bautistaanna04 (306)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
i also know someone so annoying. i don't want to be annoyed so i don't talk to him nor get near him. he is really annoying, an attention seeker. everyone in the class thinks of the same thing. it's not just me. my classmates hates it even when they just receive text messages from him. (good thing he doesn't have my phone number. somehow, my annoyance lessens)
ignoring an annoying person is a way of not thinking negative things about him. but sometimes, you can't avoid hearing, seeing, talking with an annoying person. (that's the sad part of it)
the best thing to happen to not deal with an annoying person is to part ways.
@pokumon (644)
• United States
4 Oct 10
I also have a very annoying person in my life. The problem is I have to live with her. She's a Korean pastor's wife that is staying with us for a couple months. She doesn't speak much English and get's really excited whenever she sees anyone. Like Hello! How are you! Good morning/evening/afternoon/whatever! And she wants to touch you on the back or hug you. I don't like to be constantly touched. She also doesn't have the house key to our front door (only the side screen door) and so when she leaves the house she's been known to just leave the front door wide open. Ugh, so annoying. At the very least she went to culinary school and makes good Korean food. I try to help her with her English (why she's here) but she has a lot of trouble with pronunciation especially words with r like grave and prove. I think you just need to take a deep breath and try to think of something else.
@chiyosan (30186)
• Philippines
25 Jan 13
hehe ohh it can be something i would be able to tolerate if you ask me... especially if the person is someone i love... but then if the person is my officemate and he is putting an attitude towards me, i would really not hold it much longer. haha thank you for your response. have a great day ahead of you. cheers!
@lynlypiochy (706)
• Philippines
4 Oct 10
There are a number of people who annoy me even without doing anything. Their mere presence drives me crazy, but there's this one person who I can't stand at all. For instance, I see him standing and doing nothing. I get annoyed. I imagine different ways on how I could eliminate him. Just by mentioning his name, I get ticked off, too. My friends and family know better not to mention his name when I am around.But when they do, I get to rant about how stupidly annoying he is to me. I have a way to not be annoyed by him, though. I put on my headphones and I turn on the volume and I am in my happy place. ^_^
