your lover is always choosing his friends over you, what do you do?^^
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
Portugal
October 5, 2010 4:06pm CST
hi guys^^ imagine that your lover is always choosing his friends over you. what would you do?^^ about me i would be honest with him and tell him that if he cant dedicate time for me too better not be together. friends are important too but i also need attention. so if my bf ever did that i would say so is you who knows but im not happy with this situation. if he didnt change at all and continue choosing his friends over me i would leave him. what about you guys?^^ please share^^ 
5 responses
@wollivierre (687)
• United States
6 Oct 10
i would leave them i hate when people do that to me, so i would leave them or cheat on them i know it sounds bad but i don't like breaking up with people.
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
you would leave them thats ok^^ but cheat? thats too bad. you shouldnt do that for no reason. thats a big disrespect. you should break up. even you dont like but break up is better than cheat on them. noone deserves to be cheated. no matter what they do. so you should just leave them and find someone else but cheat no. i never thought you would answer this.
@wollivierre (687)
• United States
23 Oct 10
its not like i do it with a simple thought it hurts and the only time i do is if i'm oushed to it and i just can't take it and just stop fighting it.
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
23 Oct 10
so thats different^^ you just couldnt control yourself anymore and sure temptations exist i understand. but you talked like you rather cheat than break up with girls. and that isnt right. you didnt explain well then^^ anyway how are things with you and your best friend?^^ when she will go to visit you?^^ will it be soon?^^ wish you the best^^
@mustafarox (452)
• India
6 Oct 10
Well If something like that happens I would spend some time with her after wards whenever she is free when her friends are not around or I would take her on a date or tell her to meet me whenever she is free I can wait for her for my whole life...but anyways she gives me more time than her friends and as we sit next to each other in the college so we keep talking always she shares everything with me and I share my all things with her...
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
thats cute that she spends more time with you than with her friends^^ and is sweet that you can wait for her all your life^^ you sit next to each other in college? ahah so thats great^^ you can talk all the time really^^ and sure you can share everything about you with her^^ you are a close couple i see^^ thats very sweet^^ im happy for you both^^
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
5 Oct 10
My partner used to do this, until finally I confronted him about it. Now he makes time for me each day, even if its only a short bit, instead of maybe just a long period of time only one day a week.
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
im happy that you talked with him and he changed^^ is great that now everyday he has time for you^^ even if is only a bit at least shows that he cares and loves you^^ before he been without talk with you almost a week? if you talked only one time per week yes is really very bad :( im happy that he changed now and cares more for you^^ i dont know how a guy can do that to his gf :( but guys sometimes are careless. so im happy you talked with him and he is caring now^^
@jaiho2009 (39140)
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
hello SLF,
If this happens always,i think it's time to change my bf too 
If he chooses his friends and always make me feel the second best,so be it.
Better say babye and find new love that makes me feel important than anything else's.
If he chooses his friends and always make me feel the second best,so be it.
Better say babye and find new love that makes me feel important than anything else's.@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
ahah i agree with you^^ sure gfs must be first in guy's lives and not friends. friends are very important sure and we all need them but bf is first^^ at least for me is like that^^ and sure you should say bye and find a guy that really loved you so much and that made you feel very important and special^^ that would be a good decision^^
@thanks1961 (7033)
• India
6 Oct 10
Hi dear,
Friends are important for me. My present life is built in this shape through a few friends only, not mainly due to my own effort. In our life friends (especially in my life) have major roles. But maintaining a balanced life with family and friends is the trick and there we should be successful. We have got a great time with all around us. At home, family, in office with colleagues, and outside with friends and others.
So, whenever we are at home and vacation and our private times, we should prefer with family or dear ones. In your case, your b/f. It is sure that he loves you and he need you. But, at times, if he spends time with friends, you need to be with them and when the time allocated is get over, just divert him for other matters, which he feel necessary.
Hence, managing him is the matter and important. How efficiently you ‘handle’ the situation is relevant and it is an art, buy experience you can manage, I am sure. So, in the name of a few friends and spending more time with them is not an issue and the matter is ‘how efficiently we handle’ it is the matter.
So, don’t just ignore or replace him saying that he is not caring, but the next one has more friend than this, where you will be?
Regards,
Thank-s
@sweetloveforeve (13116)
• Portugal
9 Oct 10
i want that he has friends and spends time with them^^ but i should be the first thing in his life^^ thats what i mean^^ friends are important and we all need them in our lives^^ but our lover should be the priority^^ at least for me is like that and i wish that for my bf i be the same^^ anyway now i cant go out with my bf and his friends bcs we live very far^^ me and my bf have a relationship but online. we didnt meet near yet. but yes we love each other and are saving money to meet soon^^
