how do you know if he'she it's the one
By alina
@swissheart (6482)
Romania
October 7, 2010 4:20pm CST
many times in our life we meet someone, we're charmed and we say hey I'm so luck..I found The one. but then we get disappointed adn hurt. so how do you know if he/she it's the one you want to spend you life with?
5 responses
@SinRealm (558)
• Philippines
7 Oct 10
You don't. That is the problem with relationships, there would always be a part of each other that you guys won't agree upon. The best thing to do is to learn how to manage these issues and differences. If you can't then you're up for a big disappointment.
@tawny_24 (341)
• United States
7 Oct 10
I don't think that it is a problem with relationships. I think that issues and differences are there to show us ultimately that we are really the same and to teach us patience and fortitude. You have to know how to fight fair when you don't agree and how to be humble when you are right, and be brave enough to be wrong.
When it is real then you don't play games. When it is real then the tears mean something different than 'you hurt my feelings'. When it is real you don't know what is going to happen down the road all you know is you want to keep this person around because it is better with them than with out them. You don't get swallowed up in all that crazy needy stuff. You don't have to compete with others outside of your relationship. You protect each other. That is what my man is teaching me. :)
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
8 Oct 10
So many people rush into relationships without any in depth thought as to how or why they are there. You have to trust the other person to not hurt you, but there are no guarantees in life.
I met someone at work 11 1/2 years ago, and when I first saw him my heart stopped--that to me meant he'd be important in my life. I was instantly attracted to him on a purely physical level at that time, but we were only friends at the time. Since then, our relationship has changed and we are involved with one another physically. I have fallen head over heels for this man but we still do not live together, and after nearly seven years of this, I am telling him that this situation is intolerable to me and that if he can't make a future WITH me, then I've got to move on. It's not easy...I will always have a special place for him in my heart but I need someone who loves me back. I've been able to see us together in the future but I don't think he feels the same way and it really hurts.
@tawny_24 (341)
• United States
7 Oct 10
You don't. You just try to trust that they won't hurt you. Let them show you that they are worth that trust and if they aren't then take what you learn and move on. Even when you are with your soulmate that person can't really make you happy. They can only enjoy the good times with you and support you through the bad times.
@snoozle_dvo (16)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
for me, ul know he's or she's the one if he or she sticks with you through thick and thin; through hard times and good times.and will never abandon you.
@mustafarox (453)
• India
8 Oct 10
Its not easy to find the right one it takes time as you stay with a person you get to know about that person about me I think I have chosen a right girl as she cares lot for me she loves me a lot and we rarely have any differences and if we have we make it even so we don't interfere in each others and we love each other a lot..
