Love online is only 'Plastic Love'?
By zandi458
@zandi458 (28102)
Malaysia
October 8, 2010 1:36am CST
Falling in love online has become a reality in today's modern world. Regardless of whether they are single or committed, young or old, love finds no boundary. Thanks or no thanks to the internet who have made it possible for the unknown to meet the unknown which has twisted the mindset of many people today to discard the conventional dating in real world in preference to online dating. The romantic words expressed by two lovey dovey dating online does create a strong impact and nothing else matter but to be glued to the computer at all hours just to chat with the person who has confused your heart endlessly. It might sound silly for people to fall in love blindly online not knowing exactly the real character of the person she/he has fallen for. But again..who can really define what love means? Love is not about touch, it's about feeling! Many admit the feeling inside is indescribable! But beware they are many whackos sprawling in the cyberworld. They have honey coated tongues. For all you know you are only one of their puppets on the string.
Can online love be as real as the real world love? You think? 
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18 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I think the whole internet fear is ridiculous. People act as though seeing someone in person means it's somehow impossible for them to be lying, using or harmful to you. There are liars, con artists, gold-diggers and overall bad people anywhere you go. Just as there are genuine people to be found in any environment. The proper amount of caution and awareness should be present at all times when meeting anyone in any environment. A person on the internet is not automatically lying to you and a person face-to-fact is not automatically honest.
Furthermore, the idea that online relationships "don't work" is a pretty useless point. Every individual is likely to have several failed relationships before finding one or two that work. Every relationship has a possibility of failure. The success or failure of any relationship has absolutely nothing to do with where or how you met the person.
It is completely possible to fall in love over the internet. There are even many couples who would never have met were it not for the internet.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
9 Oct 10
And you somehow think people don't do the exact same thing NOT on the internet? People are like that everywhere, the internet is not the only place which means the internet is no different from anywhere else. Therefore it's really not "more bad than good" since it's not different.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
11 Oct 10
How does meeting someone face-to-face "reveal their true identity"? All it really does is reveal what they look like. Which is already much less of an issue since most people have cameras and webcams and you can have a face-to-face discussion with someone through the computer. More than plenty of people are fully capable of lying, deceiving, manipulating and hiding who they truly are from anyone they meet.
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
Online love vs real world love...an interesting discussion. Well, I think nothing is real in this world anymore. Even if you found your match in a real world, does it guarantee you that you have found Mr. Right? Even if you have met the person, do you think he or she will show his or her true identity to you in the initial meeting? I bet the answer will be no. It is the same with online love. You met online, chat a little and if the chemistry is right then propose to see each other and if things don't go as planned, then move on..simple as ABC, don't you think? I think online or offline love equally present the same kind of danger. You can also meet a faker, a player or even a serial killer in real world without you even knowing it because you are so in love. But for online love, if you have been online long enough, you will know or spot a faker or a player or a psycho online just by the words they use. Basically, it is up to individuals whether they want to find love online or offline. Simply conclusion, online love is another alternative way of meeting someone who could be your potential friend/lover/husband/wife. After all, you are responsible for your own feelings/action and love is definitely BLIND!
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
All what you say here can be bundled into one word, love no matter where you meet is all the same. But the only difference is we have to be alert with people online as we only based on what we read and for all we know they might be people who have dubious character that doesn't tell much about themselves when we are chatting with them online.
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@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
and we also have to be alert with people in the real world for they are also capable of creating fake identity, pretending to be a someone they are not which I think is worse than online. With online people, if we are smart enough, we can just cut them off from contacting us whereas offline people, not only they can find you in real life, they will know you for real i.e. your family, your real location etc..so basically, while the love online and offline may be the same but in reality, the danger posed with online and offline can be different. Again, nothing is safe anymore in this world, offline, online whatever you want to call it. Good luck.
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
9 Oct 10
Hi!
You may say so that it could be categorized as plastic love because physically you do not get to see the other person, who gets connected with you on line. It is again a kind of belief that the other person, with whom you fall for, is as nice as you are imagining, in his/her real life. It runs in our mind and it all depends upon the individual, who s/he feel it, as you have pointed out. As far as 'cheating' is concerned, this can happen even in real life and when it is something on-line, probability increases.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
11 Oct 10
You are very right Zandi, some use the method of 'on line' love to fill the void in their heart to compensate the loss in real lives. I agree with you that it could have a happy ending, if all goes well.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
love online may only be a cushion to fill the void in the hearts of some who aren't getting the real love they expect in the real world. But if everything works well online, it will have a happy ending like the love stories we often read in Barbra Catlands novels.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
11 Oct 10
I do believe that you cannot look for love because it finds you when the time is right. Love can happen anywhere I guess and online is just another place. It is true that there folks who meet on the Net and decide to drop everything just to be together before they have even met in person and that is foolish. I think that as long as people use common sense there is no problem getting together with someone met online. There are sickos everywhere on and off line and care needs to be taken. If love is meant to be it will be no matter where it starts...
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@kawalnarang (1095)
• Trinidad And Tobago
8 Oct 10
Never trust NO ONE,,in real world or the net.It s the circumstances that make people do things and talk whatever they feel like.Well everyone learns from own experience.
maybe you are right or you have been practicing that all along with your chatmates to keep yourself safe at all times. Great to know that.
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Not all "online love" are "plastic love." It DEPENDS on the people involved. Some people may have met through the internet and may have developed their love through it, but it's not a permanent thing. If it's real love, the persons concerned must have found ways to meet each other and be with each other personally. Although some just "play around" online, there are those who've had successful relationships with the people they have met online.
Being lovers "online" shouldn't be permanent. There has to be a time wherein the two person plan to meet someday, and be with each other.
I met my girlfriend online, and we have been together for 2 years now. We are far from each other so our main means of communication is through the internet. Of course, we have met numerous times personally, and we are planning to be with each other permanently soon, so yea. And our relationship is very much REAL and SERIOUS. :)
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
It is possible to materialize the fantasies of online love. I am happy to hear that you are successful in your quest. Yes, the honey coated tongues exist every where and it is something that we women should always be on the alert not to be duped by these cassanovas.
@jeeyah (1092)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
And those with "honey coated tongues" don't only exist in the cyberworld. They also exist in the real world. A lot of people in the real world can be deceiving sometimes, so I guess the scenario of getting fooled is not only applicable to the online world.
@derek_a (10874)
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8 Oct 10
Well to me, love on line could not possibly be true love as all I am looking at is text on a screen or a picture of someone that may be good-looking but love is an entirely different thing than that in my experience.
I would not be so bold to say that people do not fall in love on-line as this has been proved by successful relationships growing stronger after the people have met face to face. But it certainly wouldn't work for me.
Yes, I would be willing to go and meet a person I had been in communication with, but whether I would fall in love with them, would not be certain. 
_Derek
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@athinapie (1150)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Online dating and so-called online love is really popular and rampant nowadays. But I do not think that the love shared online is the same as the love one person feels in a personal level. It is really different when you have face to face contact with a certain person and you spend time together to get to know more about each other. Whereas in online dating, there is always that technological boundary that separates you from the other person. And you don't even know if everything that person says is real because you are not there physically to see it. That is how I perceive it.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
8 Oct 10
I have always been very skeptical of finding a mate over the internet. I made bad choices when i knew them .I guess it works out for some but i never tried it & want ever.
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
8 Oct 10
I really have to have a LOL about this...is love like a credit card?...can we buy it? can we put it in credit? and if not real can we have a refund?[ just kiddin] but some people do fall in love in the internet and most people regret it...some have lost their life savings and families...I do happen to know this person[ my friend son]who met this person in the internet he was so much in love! he sent "her" over 40 thousand dollars so "she" could come into the country...result? never heard from this person again! to answer your question zandi I would go for the real world love I like to see the person, how the person reacts,his/her moods...at the end of the day I could not fall in love with some one I do not know.
@my_name_is_coco (4334)
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
I heard a lot of both good and bad love stories that stemmed from online meetings.some people got lucky and meet their partners online.some didn't get lucky.I think it will depend on the person's preference.also,it is important to be alert and open minded when trying to do the cyber romance thing.in the end,meeting a cyber friend in person is much better than keeping it strictly online.
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@quita88 (3715)
• United States
9 Oct 10
I really don't think online love is as good as our real world is,but then again I've never had to use it !
I agree, the feeling of love is indescribable and the feeling is of the heart.
I doubt I'd ever be guilty of online dating, but who knows?
@pogi253 (1586)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
Online relationships have been exploited by many people, creating fears and doubts and hindering other people from trying out this luxury of the World Wide Web. Online relationships is not a good idea. You might end up falling in love with that person behind the screen and then start thinking up ways on how to get in touch which most times is not feasible.
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@legspinismylife2 (181)
• India
8 Oct 10
Never no matter what advancements in technology, the good old way of going out with your date and the final kiss can never be replaced.Online dating is only temporary and you really don't know the person you eventually get.
No matter what we have to meet our love at the end, so you decide whether its better to judge the person in real life face to face on the date or in the virtual world waiting in anxiety to meet the person , drooling over the keyboard
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@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
8 Oct 10
Love happens whatever it takes. There's no impossible when it comes to love but of course in this care.. true love rarely happens. Online dating is widespread nowadays. Some ended up to marriage and live happily but some don't have successful relationship.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
8 Oct 10
Plastic love or cyber love, whatever its, you think or call, may be like a fraud love but i have instance of my friend who has married a girl whom he met through facebook. I am about to share it with all of you and it wilb my next dis. Take care.
