Which habits of your spouse are not liked by you and how do you react to them?
By deserve40
@deserve40 (1656)
India
October 9, 2010 9:10am CST
We all are individuals and so we do have our likings and dislikings about almost everything. When the habits of your spouse are in question, the same thing holds true. Each one of us do not like some of the habits of our spouse and so react to them in different ways.
I do not like that my wife does not clean her comb after using it sometimes. When I try to use the same comb I find hair in it and get angry immediately. It not because of the hair but because of the fact that I have been telling her that I do not like this thing but she does not bother to change her habit.
How do you react about something that you do not like about your spouse?
5 responses
@DoctorDidi (7018)
• India
9 Oct 10
My spouse is a good, honest guy. He is also a doctor. The only habit of him which I dislike most is his smoking all the time. Being a doctor, he is well aware of all the adverse effects of smoking, yet he does never try to quit this worst habit. Thus I have also become a 'passive smoker'.He also consumes too much tea. This is his another bad habit which I dislike also. Otherwise his other habits are pretty good and I like them all.
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
10 Oct 10
Dear DoctorDidi, you both are doctors so who better than you can know about the hazards of smoking...? However, I think that with great care and love you can make him try to reduce smoking if not totally give it up. He is a good guy and have clean habits so he would like to be better guy in you love. Being passive smoker is not less dangerous thing and that also is known to you better than anybody else.
I have felt that nothing is impossible for human if he decides firmly to do it. I have my own experience. I was attending a workshop of "Art of Living" and the mentor advised us to give up some adiction and then asked who would not be able to do it. I was the only person among almost 30 persons attending the workshop who said that he cannot give up the current habit. I firmly believed that I was in the habit of drinking tea for last about 25 years and then within a day or so how could I give it up? But he advised me to try HONESTLY and I could avoid drinking tea for next more than three months...! Ofcourse, then I again got into the same habit but that is a different thing itself.
Thanks for responding to this discussion and sharing your experience.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
My fiance often forgot to brush his tongue when he's brushing his tooth. And he knows I will never kiss someone who does not brush their tongue.. eww it looks white all over and they are obviously a food left over
But this is only matter to me when we go to sleep and do all the kissing
because most of the time before bed time, I only kiss his lips. So when he is getting on bed, I will give him a signal asking if he had done it or not. I won't say anything, just signal. Then if he had done it, then he will say yes. But if not, he will go back to the bathroom
But this is only matter to me when we go to sleep and do all the kissing because most of the time before bed time, I only kiss his lips. So when he is getting on bed, I will give him a signal asking if he had done it or not. I won't say anything, just signal. Then if he had done it, then he will say yes. But if not, he will go back to the bathroom@deserve40 (1656)
• India
10 Oct 10
It is something strange that your fiance forgets to clean his tongue. It is not good for his health too. Even if kissing you is not involved, you should make him feel that he should clean his tongue regularly. Perhaps he is bit lazy in cleaning his tongue. He understands your signal and goes back to the bathroom to clean his tongue that shows that he loves you so much and does not mind going back to the bathroom to clean his tongue which he would have avoided doing had you not been with him.
Have a nice time...!
@DeenaD (2684)
• United States
9 Oct 10
There is one small thing that my husband does which is a pet peeve of mine. When he's listening to something he disagrees with or is annoyed by, he will tilt his head back as if to say, Be quiet, I'm not listening to this again. That really annoys me whenever he does that because I think it means he's given up on listening to me. However, I don't do anything as there is nothing I can do. It's a conversation stopper.
@Caitlin2009 (48)
• United States
9 Oct 10
i dont like the fact that she smokes, but theres little i can do about it since she is a grown adult and i cant force her to stop unless it starts affecting her health
@simoncomet (195)
• India
9 Oct 10
Fortunately for me and unfortunately for you I am not married yet still got lot of time left.But I do have same problem with my sister.I wonder how'll I handle my wife. Well hope I get an understanding one,lol :p. Well you can try Buddha's principle if you don't wanna have a fight.Have a nice day!! :)
@deserve40 (1656)
• India
10 Oct 10
My dear friend, there is nothing unfortunate thing for me if you are not married.
Well, I understand that you have many problems with your sister. It does happen with us in daily life and that is the reason why I have started this discussion. I think that you will have to start learning to get adjusted to some habits of others which are not liked by you. This will help you a lot when you get married and you will have lesser problems with your wife's habits....!
One more thing, I liked your idea of following Buddha's principle if you do not want to have a fight with others. However, it is difficult to practice all the times in your life unless you are very sincer believer that the principle holds true all the times. Happy mylotting.
