Grandparenting
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@dfollin (27267)
United States
October 9, 2010 6:19pm CST
My son has decided that it is not normal for a grandchild to sleepover or spend the day with a visitation with any family member.He spent a lot of day's and nights with my mother and other family members.
Why do you suppose he is thinking this way? Is this normal?
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@Polly1 (12644)
• United States
11 Oct 10
My 5 yr. old grandson loves spending the night with me. In fact we have been going over and spending the night at my moms house. He loves to go with me. He loves hanging out with his gramma. My other grandkids love spending time with me too. I think its great to spend time with family.
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@dont_pick_your_nose (2279)
• Australia
12 Apr 11
Maybe something happened that he did not likeand he doesn't want to go back. Maybe he just doesn't want to miss out on the excitement or heard from some school friends that they dont often see their extended family. Im sure it will pass, just give it time.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
10 Oct 10
I'm wondering how old your son is? Why is he unhappy while visiting family members? What happens at the visitation that turns him off? Perhaps he's been farmed out (so to speak) so often he's tried of it, and just enjoys staying at home! It may be normal for him to think this way, especially if he has been left in his relatives care for excessive periods.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
10 Oct 10
My son is almost 27 and ever since he has been dating this girl that he now lives with he has had these strange thoughts.I have babysat my grandaughter,his daughter a lot and she is almost 4.I asked him about staying with his grandmother when I was working and school was closed and he said that was fine.He very rarely goes to visit them anymore.My other older son lives with her and her brother,but he said it 
@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Oct 10
hi dfollin it sounds to me like this son did not appreciate spending a lot of days and nights away from you, and he d oes not want his child'
to go through whatever it is he feels that he went through,He may have been a bit too young or he felt as if he was being shunted off to grandparents or other relatives. why not just ask him why he feels this way? If he has resentments from his childhood that would color his thinking of vistations for his children with grandmother.
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@dfollin (27267)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Well,it was not all the time that he was left with my mom,so he has no reason to resent it.And he has had no problem leaving her with me in the past.But,ever since he has been going out with this girl he wants to leave her with her mom and not me,even over night and told me that a relative(grandparent,aunt,uncle,cousin,etc.) should only see like at a restaurant for a few hours.But even when my other son calls him he either doesn't show up,doesn't bring his daughter or comes by for a minute or two and leaves her in his truck with his girlfriend.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
10 Oct 10
If it is mutually beneficial for you both - ie it was planned in advance, the grandchild wants to, and there is a reason (parents have a trip or things to do etc) then it makes sense. If you expect to see a grandchild all the time though, then you enter the realm of who the child belongs to - the parents. It's always (and should be) up to parents who their child(ren) are exposed to, including family, friends, acquaintances, strangers.
Did you ask your son what brought this on?
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