if your actual bf/gf left you, you would never find other guy/girl? ^^

cute lovers^^ - boy and girl holding hands^^
Portugal
October 9, 2010 6:28pm CST
hi guys^^ imagine that your actual bf/gf left you^^ you would never find other person?^^ about me i love my bf very much and i know he loves me too^^ but if he left me i dont know. i wouldnt look for other guy but if appeared who knows. i mean i love him and i dont want other guy but if he left me is bcs he didnt love me. so why would i be loving a guy that didnt love me and forgot me already? :( even would hurt me i would have to forget him. but sure i wouldnt look for guys anymore. if appeared ok if not then i be sad forever. anyway i wish my bf doesnt leave me :( i would feel too too sad really. he is everything to me^^ anyway what about you guys? would you find someone else or give up of love?^^ please share^^
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15 responses
@Karunvig (714)
• India
10 Oct 10
I will surely look out for other girl... just because my partner ditched it does nt mean tht i will stop my kids to come in this world... if she cant handle my kids thn sum1 else will do so... i MIGHT NOT look for other girl but yes ask parents to find one so can get married ;)
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
im happy that you would move on^^ and try to have other girl to love you^^ thats a great idea^^ but you shouldnt ask your parents to find a girl for you to marry. you should find a girl that you love and then marry her^^ we should marry for love and not in arranged marriages. those marriages can fail. imagine that you dont fall for that girl? or that she doesnt fall for you? we shouldnt marry without love.
@Karunvig (714)
• India
12 Oct 10
Arrange marriages can fail dear the girl I find out can also leave me and that can also be a failure thn I will be down in eyes of parents :P AND if parents find the girl and by chance I start loving her then sum problems come in future atleast I will be answerabl;e tht it was a ur choice ;) hahaha
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
Hi sweetlove, If somebody left us, it means there will be someone better and meant for us. Being left by someone we love is so painful thus make us uttered such words that we don't want to have another for it may caused us another pain again. But if we look it at a positive side, why would we allowed ourselves to suffer with the pain?...what if the guy is happily with someone else? It is painful yes, but we can find ways to get over it and find our own happiness. Besides if we gave more than we can to someone we love and he just took it for granted, he must not deserve such attention, give it someone else who deserves it and know how to reciprocate the feelings. If we love somebody, be fair with ourselves. If we're able to give love to someone, then we have to give hundred percent to ourselves first. Find the happiness due to us. Happy mylotting.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
11 Oct 10
So you see? If we give away something for others,make sure to make it double for ourselves. Have a nice day.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes sure^^ if someone leaves us is bcs there is someone out there better for us^^ thats true. but sure is not easy to forget^^ yes we first think we dont want to love again bcs we will just get hurt again but.. we all need to be loved and cared^^ so sure we will meet someone that will do that^^ and will help us to recover^^ and you are right when you say that we should care also for ourselves ^^ i usually forget about myself and give all to my lover. thats why i always get hurt and sad.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
If my girlfriend would suddenly leave me out of the blue...I might get hurt in the process but I am sure I can get over with the pain in due time. It's no use dying slowly everyday for some person who neglects you and leave you in vain. I must go on and find another lover.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
sure is normal that you would get hurt bcs you love her^^ and sure you could get over it after some time^^ you couldnt waste your life crying over a girl that didnt care for you anymore^^ is good that you would find other lover later on^^ we all deserve to be happy^^ why cry for someone that doesnt love or care for us?^^ no use in that^^
@shibham (16977)
• India
10 Oct 10
hi sweet.... i am a broken heart and are left various time. so none is more experienced than me. a question. days ago you said that you have no boy friend so when and how u have fallen in love? hahaha... once, i sacrificed my love for my friend. take care.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
sorry that you had your heart broken so many times but that just means you didnt find the right guy for you yet^^ but you will find it soon^^ yes i had no bf before ^^ but now i have^^ he was my friend since more than a year and always waited me to love him but i never fell for him. i liked other guys and never him. but he waited his chance. so we started to get more close and i fell for him too and accepted him^^ you sacrificed your love for a friend once? how? what happened?
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
10 Oct 10
Love is an emotion that can be hard to understand or control. You have to decide how much a relationship really means to you. if it is a casual one, finding someone new to have a relationship will be easy. if it is an emotional and loving relationship, it may be more difficult to move on to someone new.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes sure if is only casual is not hard to forget bcs there is no feelings involved. but if is a serious relationship is not easy to forget. but if a guy leaves us we must move on. bcs why be thinking about a guy that doesnt love us anymore? we cant do that. soon we always find a better guy^^ even it would hurt sure. anyway is always hard to let go.
• United States
10 Oct 10
No, I wouldn't. My fiance and I are soulmates and I know there isn't one other person out there who is perfect for me. We met by chance, and within months we were fulfilling our lifelong dream of travelling the US on foot. Everything about us goes perfect together. I like pie filling, he likes the crust. I like pizza crust, he likes the toppings. It's like we perfectly balance each other out in every way. We have arguments like any normal couple, but we always work through them because we know we're meant to be together. We even have matching tickets that say "You are destined to be together forever." I know he would never leave me, just like he knows I'm with him forever. I waited faithfully for a year while he was locked up over some stupid crap. So if anything happened, and I was suddenly alone...that would be it for me. I'd already found my soulmate...and you only get one. There isn't one other person I'd ever want to be with.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
so cute that you and your fiancee are soulmates^^ thats sweet that what one likes the other one likes the other part^^ and you even have same tickets saying you are destined to be together forever? ahah thats too cute^^ did you buy that for each other?^^ is cute that you waited for him more than a year^^ im sure you love him so much^^ also is great that you say he will never leave you. is great when we know that our lover loves us really much. im sure you will always be together^^ thanks for share with me your story with your lover^^ have a happy day with him^^
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
10 Oct 10
i am married for 8 years now, but granting that we were only bf/gf i will not find another girl in that instant. i will give myself the chance to mourn and to cry ( i am on human ). i will also give myself the chance to heal then to compose myself to start again. finding someone new is not fair for that person you will find. i might still be inlove with the other so i need time to heal and forget. i will find another if i am ready to take the chance again.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes i understand you^^ you need time to recover and not look for other person right away. or that person could be hurt if you still loved your past gf. and sure you should find other after the sadness goes away^^ thats the best way to do things^^ we need time to move on and forget^^ is not so easy to just forget someone that we loved before.
@kodukodu84 (1569)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 10
If my bf left me, I won't go and look for another guy straight away because I sure will need a very long time to get recovered from the disappointment. But since I will keep living, means I will be meeting lots of new people because I may as well move away. If someone comes on my way and then show that he has a feeling for me after that then we never know. We may will like this new person too. So, basically I will just let time to decide. I won't look but I also won't avoid to be someone new in the future after I get recovered from the past break up with my bf. Have a nice day
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes kodu^^ is normal that you would let a new guy appear in your life after some time of your break up. we all need to be loved and cared. we cant waste our life crying over a guy that doesnt want us anymore right?^^ so you would do right thing if a guy says he loves you and you gave a chance for him to show that. anyway im sure it wont happen to you bcs your bf loves you so much^^ so he wont leave you at all^^
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
9 Oct 10
if your boyfriend leaves you it's not the end of the world. the key to a happy marriage it's experience to get over problems, and you'll get this experience by meeting different people. I don;t say it's ok to have a relationship with 10 guys, but if your present relationship ends, another guy will take his place...and you'll get to love again
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
yes i see what you mean^^ you mean like we meet many guys till the right one appears^^ so any guy we meet and lose will appear other one that we will love^^ right?^^ well i agree with you^^ just mean that that guy wasnt the right one and that the right one is still out there waiting for us. but sure is hurting that you love a guy and lose him :( if i lost my bf i would be too sad
• Philippines
9 Oct 10
Hi.. ^.^ For me, I would not find for another guy if my bf left me. (imagining that i have a bf hahaha). But I think letting another man step into my life will help me a lot in recovering (if there`s a one). Not having a rebound relationship, but to divert my attention and all heartaches that have been left to me right? ^.^
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
aw you dont have a bf yet? why not? you are pretty and sweet^^ dont worry you will find one soon^^ but sure if you had one and he left you you could meet other guys and be friends^^ sure it would distract you from your hurtful moments bcs your ex bf and maybe you could fall for this new guy later on^^ we never know^^ some people say that the best cure for a heart in pain is another person^^
• United States
27 Oct 10
i have been broken up with many times before i just keep getting back up. its not that i want to get up and keep doing it but i don't know any better so for me i would just keep getting back up.
• India
10 Oct 10
I love my gf alot and if she leaves me then i will be very depressed and i will be damn upset,i will not be able to concentrate on anything for like 2-3 months but after that i will start accepting the truth that she is no more in my life and i should move on.I will try to do activities and i will try to get out of this depression.you asked "you would never find other person?"..According to me,we never find love,Love finds us.If love is there in life then i ll fall for some other girl and live happily.After all its life,we have ups and downs in everything.But we should remember one thing that staying alone wont work,we need a partner to make life beautiful.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
sure is normal that you will be very sad for some monthes. but is normal that you will move on sooner or later^^ and is true. we dont find love. love finds us. and sure you would find other girl that would love you^^ we all have good and bad moments in life thats true^^ and sure we cant be alone bcs that would be no life. we all need someone in our lives^^
@foofermen (500)
10 Oct 10
My last girlfriend and I were always arguing. I always threatened to leave her. Eventually, she decided to leave me first and get back together with an ex. I was surprised and a little hurt. What i have learned from this is if you think a relationship isn't working, the earlier you call it off the better. Also, take one day at a time. Don't go looking for other people, just let it happen. In the meantime, focus on you. Better yourself, learn your lessons from this relationship, and treat yourself well. Keep your chin up and someone will come along =) Hope this helps.
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
you always threatened to leave her? so thats why she left you i guess :( bcs maybe she felt you didnt care much bcs was always saying about break up. anyway im sorry that she broke up and got back with her ex. and yes if you think a relation is not working better to end it. you are right when you say that after a break up we must take care of ourselves^^ and wait for a right person to appear without rush^^ your words helped sure^^
• India
10 Oct 10
It is really an ambarassing situation. I always wish that it does not happen. But in case it happens, i do not think that i would be able to love another
• Portugal
10 Oct 10
dont worry it wont happen^^ but why wouldnt you love any other guy? since how long are you with your bf? is it since too long?^^ anyway if you always care and love him he has no reason to leave you^^ we all need care and love so why would leave someone that gives us that? ^^ dont worry im sure that your bf is happy to be with you^^ and wont leave you^^
• India
11 Oct 10
well if my girlfriend leave's me then I would think that she was not meant for me and I would move on in life and about finding another girl I wouldn't do that and I would then try out arranged marriage because if I wouldn't have fallen in love again because I would have been hurt really badly...