what is the most important ingredients of a relationship ?

Philippines
October 14, 2010 9:17pm CST
Many people say that a relationship to last long mush have put a foundation or unique ingredient?. And what was that foundation or ingredient ? As observed there are many couples right now that after getting married for almost a year or two they separated and children suffers the most consequences. So i wonder how many of my lotters is also curious and wonder why many couples almost separate ways? Can you share your opinion on this?
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@ebuscat (5945)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
For me open communication,be patient,be subject to your husband,caring,understanding.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
thank you for your opinion.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Loyalty, trust and willingness to compromise are important ingredients to make a relationship going. There are many temptations around us, beautiful women, thoughtful and handsome men who the couple may meet along the way in their married life, relationships are always tested with it especially at times when they are in the fragile years of their being together when they think they have enough of each other. Loyalty comes in, if they are loyal with each other, even they will admire other people, they will be able to withstand the temptation and stick with the vows they have made. Trust plays a major part too in making a relationship stronger. They should trust that their partners will be able to handle the relationship well in times of good or bad situation. They should trust that they are bonded with love that no one can separate. Willingness to compromise is another. Even two people love each other so much, they are still two different individuals with different opinions and views. It will be a difficult time if both of them will not give in. They should learn how to weigh things that will be good for both of them and then compromise...
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Thank you I also agree with your opinion since there are really many temptation and it's really hard enough to fight it. Unless there is a stronger love and patience, and willingness yah. I just hope that most couple now a days should realize how important patience and love in the relationship.
@laydee (12809)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
I've always known that there's no perfect formula for a relationship to work. But I'm not yet married so I can't be a judge to that. However, I have seen my parents endure a long time and they're still together after 32 years, so I guess there might be something in it. One thing I noticed is that they don't fight vocally. I never see them fighting like how we see people in movies or in their households fight. There's no throwing of things or cursing. I know when they fight when they seem rather quiet with each other. Next, I always see my parents talking to each other and having the time of their life. They talk about anything and everything. They enjoy each others company. Further, my dad still holds my mom's hands while walking, crossing streets, or just when they're walking together. They still kiss and give gifts to each other. Life is not perfect but I guess they're just able to adjust to each other's moods and they each know when to open and close their mouth. About people separating, I don't know, perhaps the patience and love has waned off. Perhaps there are other reasons like incompatibility. Perhaps they were just too consumed with past hurts and past problems (and weren't able to talk about it or settle it). I guess it's only them who knows their own personal reasons. But I do hope that someday when I have my family I could follow my parents' example and know how to adjust and that my partner would be patient with me and just be my best friend.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Thanks for sharing your nice opinion and you are right patience and love might be the ingredients of a strong relationship. I also have known some friends saying that for the past 1year or 2nd year of relationship there should be adjustment of moods.
@xtirving (38)
• United States
15 Oct 10
I might be able to help, even though I have only dated 2 people (I know, its sad). One of the most important things to have in a relationship; FUN! NONE OF THAT LOVE BULLCRAP!!! LOVE IS A MYTH! Its that nervous tingle you get, am I right? People might translate THAT into love. I also think a lot of people are feeble minded, too self-conscious, and pathetically weak (emotionally). Take hold of yourself, and find someone you have fun with is what I will now and always say.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Thank you for your opinion friend, probably you are right and maybe when you got married and have kids then you will learn to know the real ingredients of relationship. Actually i myself is also confused.
@airasheila (5456)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Good day to you Fhems2010, As the many marriage counselors says, there are three main ingredients in a relationship namely love, trust and faith. That bearing these traits, your relationship will surpass almost everything.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
Many reasons why a relationship does not work at all. Reasons could vary depending on the couples needs. But sure thing, relationships must have a solid foundation in order to make it work.. I am in a shaky relationship right now and if it wasn't for my kids, I would have left my husband already. So what seems to be the wrong thing in our relationship? There's no question that I love him and perhaps he loves me too that's why we decided to build a family. But the relationship started to crumble when he started lying to me about things so I started losing my trust in him. Though the love still remains but I was struggling and until now, I am still struggling. Because of distrust we started to drift away from each other.And it is painful because we can both feel the emptiness and longings.... For until when are we going to be like this, only God knows.... Without trust even love could not survive...You can trust a person even without loving him, but you can not continue loving a person when you do not trust him anymore... And relationship is nothing without love...
@insulin (2480)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
There is no perfect formula to make relationship perfect but of course your right there are ingredients that will make it a bit spicy. I think for me,the most important ingredients first is love, Without love,relationship will not exist second,respect Without love and respect relationship will not exist too Third,trust,REally important one Fourth Physical contact It's always important to keep in touch with your love ones I think that's what makes a relationship stronger and longer.
@namdaemun (283)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 10
According to me, one of the ingredients is to know partner deeper. you must be able to understand him/her in order to keep your relationship in a good way. The most important is honesty. many marriages fail because of the dishonesty from the males or females. you best be honest from the start of your relationship
• United Arab Emirates
15 Oct 10
Being married for 13 years and in the relationship for 15 years, I guess the most important ingredient of a relationship is putting God first. Making Him the center of your relationship. Trust is good, love is better but the moment you fall out of love on the person, trust will also follow. If we first love God not our spouse, (and your spouse should also do the same)the moment you fall out of love, God will bring you back to each other. God will move in your life reminding the good things, the joyful things, the memories. God will pour His love to the both you overcoming whatever is blocking your relationship. Thus making you fall in love again. You know why God is doing this? Because God knows you love Him first rather than your spouse. The best part is, God loves you so much and He doesn't want broken relations, broken dreams & broken homes. I believed loving God first is the most important ingredient of a realtionship. "Delight yourself with the Lord, and He will give the desire of your heart..."Psalms 37:4
@diana82 (56)
• Indonesia
15 Oct 10
as our partner should know that as humans we must have a deficiency and excess. and we have to respect what our partner of choice. we can not impose our will on others even though it si our own spouse.
15 Oct 10
first of all what do we understand by mean of relationship?, Relation ship is a ship which carries two persons heart and their soul,the both person should respect each others feelings as far as possible and main thing is that they should "TRUST" each other more than them self otherwise there is no such future of that particular Relationship. Both partner should know like and dislikes of each other than only they ill be good to each other otherwise sorry to say the relationship does not make any kind of sense so as per my thinking "TRUST" plays the main role in a relationship.
@cdyt7874 (72)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
trust is the most perfect ingredient . if both of you know how to trust each other everything else follows.love, understanding etc...
@sender621 (14932)
• United States
15 Oct 10
There is so much that goes into building a relationship. What we do will either help it to fail or to survive. I believe that the most important ingredients you need in a lasting relationship are love, trust and communication. Everything else is just icing on the cake.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
I am one of them i was never married but i have failed twice in a relationship.Based on my own opinions from my past experience the most important ingredient in a relationship is not the strong foundation but the loyalty and faith with your partner.He or she must be loyal and honest to their partner with or without marriage.From my experience the relationship was broked by another girl or temptation.I strongly believe that men cant resist other girls coming to them and offering herself even the man is already married or committed.
@liza21 (180)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
I think the most important ingredients of a relationship are trust, loyalty and respect.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
for me there are many ingredient for relationship.the most is the pace and respect to each other.if the whole family have pace and respect to each other nothing seems happen bad to there family, and it's live happily comfortably ever after.
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
tender loving care, trust, understanding, fun of course.
• United States
15 Oct 10
The keys to a successful relationship are compatibility, communication and compromise. Compatibility is first and foremost. You have to make sure you have compatible goals, values, beliefs, wants. Most couples split up over being incompatible in these aspects and don't know it until it's too late. Next is communication. You have to be able to talk about anything and everything. You have to be able to talk to make sure you are compatible in all things. Then compromise. Once you have determined that you are fundamentally compatible, you have to discuss and be able to compromise on the less monumental but no less vital to a healthy relationship aspects. Many couples rush into marriage before being sure they are capable of these things. They get caught up in infatuation and don't think rationally. There is also the fact that people do change over the years. Different things in life, major incidents and such, change who you are as a person. When that happens, your partner doesn't always change with you and the relationship no longer works.
@banban (602)
• China
15 Oct 10
For me, love, trust, and fun are the most importants things of a relationship. :) Without love, being together is meanless and painful. Having trust in each other makes both lives easy. And life with love is so dull, people get bored definitely. So, that's my opinion. I've been with my boyfriend for a couple years and now we are getting along very well. Love and trust are in ours. I just hope there are a lot more fun.
@jasonnaez (134)
• Philippines
15 Oct 10
I think the most basic is trust and without it any kind of relationship can not exist for long. However, in addition to trust, spicing up a relationship by way of adventure travel, dining out, or simply doing together something out of the regularly routine is a good idea to inject vitality and excitement. Remember, monotony is a silent destroyer of relationships. Good luck!