What would you do if you Caught your BF kissing another Girl???

Well, regardless of whoever initiate the kissing or whether or not he kissed her back, the truth was, they kissed! I wouldn't really know if I can still wait for him to tell me about the "kissing event", for I think he wouldn't tell me unless I'll tell him I saw them with my two eyes. You know most men, they won't tell you thing like those, they'll keep it to themselves hoping to save us women from pain(so they say) LOL! My decision to marry him will depend on his answers during our confrontation :)

Hi, You say you "love each other" and "know" you are "meant for each other" ... that, to me, indicates "trust" and "harmony". But you, and some of those who have replied, talk of "confronting", and that, to me, indicates "conflict". Nobody can give you the "right" answer for your question, beause only you can know what is acceptable to you. I would suggest that you ask yourself what it is that YOU want and expect from a marriage and from a husband,, and, further, that, without trust, no marriage can be "ideal". When we trust somebody else, then we know that we can open ourselves to them. When we trust a marriage partner, then we know that we can open ourselves to them in a way that we could do with no other, and that, no matter what, the partner will never do anything to hurt, abuse, or betray that trust. It is obvious to me that you are concerned about what you saw, and that it has caused you to "doubt" -to doubt, perhaps, whether you are able to trust your partner-. I would suggest, further, that you speak to our partner about what you asw and how it makes you feel, but not in a "confrontational" way, since confrontation only makes the other party "defensive", and that can lead to a confusion in their response (in how it is given and in how it is seen). After you have spoken to your partner, then you must decide, based on his response/reaction and how it has made you feel inside, whether you are able to continue to trust him. There are many situations in which what you have seen could have been perfectly innocent on your partner's part, just as there are also many ways in which the situation is exactly the opposite. Only YOU can decide which one feels right for you. Personally, I feel that, for a marriage to be successful, it requires trust for both partners, adn that, where there is no trust, any happiness cann only, at best, be "temporary". And a marriage without trust is no marriage (at least, so I think ...). Confronting his ex or kissing your own ex, I feel, will only make matters much worse. I hope that, talking, you will be able to resolve your doubts in your partner and find reassurance in yourself. Best wishes W

Hi, Be it who started the kiss first,the fact is that THEY ARE KISSING. and they are not supposed to do so. If I were in this situation, I will call the wedding off and break up with my boyfriend. Since he has chosen me as his life partner,how can he kiss another girl? Although if another girl is taking the first step too,he has to avoid it and stay firm in his position ,instead of accepting her kiss. Since I have not married to him, I have no commitment yet and I have to stop seeing this man and I want to get out from his life. He is not worth for my love and care and he is definitely not the right man for me.

Hi, If one saw one's boyfriend being kissed by another girl, one may assume that the girl is his sister or cousin. But since you said she was his ex, that options gets eliminated. Now let's look at the situation from an indifferent point of view. His ex girlfriend kissed him and you don't know yet whether he kissed her back. So there is no point in assuming that your boyfriend isn't ready for the wedding. It surely raises a suspicion though, which you have to resolve by talking straight to your boyfriend. But one thing I can say for certain. This ex girlfriend of your boyfriend doesn't have a sound state of mind. Thanks. God bless you.

OMG! i think i will freak out. nah....i will confront them in subtle way.

If it was just kissing and he really wanted to be with me, I'd kiss my ex too and then have the wedding. A kiss for a kiss!

There's no doubt about it. I'll surely dump him right away, regardless of the truth. The fact of the matter is they kissed, which can't be denied. I won't wait for his explanation because I know I'll never truly forgive him. It'll be always on my mind even though we get married. So it's better for us to break up immediately instead of continuing staying together.

Hi. ccarabuena. If they were actually kissing, I would confront my boyfriend about it first. Since he is the one that I am planning to marry very soon, I would confront him about this. Next, I will just leave him alone. I will not talk to him anymore. I refuse to be engaged to someone that is cheating on me right before our wedding. If I can't trust him now, I will not trust him at all while we are married.

I am rough type of person and very jealous one so I think I will be kicking some nuts,and grab some long hair and maybe scratch a ugly face to make it uglier.Lol! I will definetly confront them and I will still think If I will marry the guy or not.

It ould definitely break my heart to see my boyfriend kiss another girl. i would be devastated. I'm sure there would be tears mixed with plenty of anger. I don't know what i would do first. i would want to confront them, but part of me would want to hide from the truth.

Love is all trust and belief, if trust is not there then it is no more love. If BF does this, he breaks the trust of true love. So there is no forgiveness or hatred as BF failed to deserve the true love.