Do you love your parents

Romania
November 18, 2006 2:33am CST
well i dont love them all the time they are wrong and have old concepts!
31 responses
• United States
18 Nov 06
This is actually a hard question for me to answer. Well, maybe not hard... so much as it's complicated. First there is my Mother, I always have, and always will love my Mother. We fight sometimes, but all daughters and mothers have their moments. I know she loves me, even if my family doesn't really say that to one another (at all actually). It doesn't need to be said though, when it's proven all of the time. And in the long run, my Mother has always been my bestfriend. When nobody else is there for me, she is. Then there's my "Father" and when I say "Father" what I really mean is the man who donated the sperm that gave me life. Of course my Mother and "Father" were married before I was born. But he was never a "Father" to me. He never took care of me, and I've always had my doubts that he even wanted me. In fact, I'm almost positive he never wanted me. My Mother and "Father" got divorced early in my life, when I was one, or two I think. And years passed, I'd see him once in a while, but not very often and most of the time it was just glimpses of him around the town. We didn't really start talking until my 18th birthday. Even then, when we started talking it was all about him. That's all he wanted to do, talk about his life, and how bad his childhood was. How much he hated his father. His father might have been a mean and slightly insane man. But at least he was there for him. Though, I suppose at times it would have been better if he wasn't. Point is, after 18 years of never knowing his daughter, he still didn't have the compassion or interest to know her. Even now I'm 23, and I've been seeing him daily for four years now, FOUR YEARS. And he still just talks about himself! And children of women he dated in the past, and how they were the closest thing to having children of his own that he ever had. HELLO?! I just want to beat him senseless when he says things like that! After all I'm his flesh and blood! It makes me so mad when I hear all the things he did for these other kids. And then to act like I don't even exist?! To say I hate this man is putting it lightly. I always wanted to meet him, give him a chance to prove all of the stories about him wrong. But he didn't, he couldn't do that. He's done nothing but disappoint, frustrate, and seriously hurt me in the past four years. So much so that I realize I don't hate him, I loathe him, and I want him back out of my life. That might sound wrong, but really I don't care. I gave him a lifetime to try and make things right, and he couldn't do that... He'll never change, and he'll never be a parent to me. Always just the sperm donar. Now, there's the man in my life who I call Dad. Because he is my Dad, and he'll always be my dad. We might not share dna, he might not be my biological father. But he's the only man in my life I will ever, ever, EVER, call Dad. He's been my Dad for as long as I can remember. Even when I was a baby, and my Mother was still with my "Father". My "Father" never did anything. My DAD used to come by he would STEAL baby food and bring it to me so that I could eat. He brought me my first Christmas Tree. He changed my diapers, watched after me, protected me. He did everything that a dad is supposed to do for his child. There might be times when my Dad makes me mad, and believe me there are times when he makes me so mad, and so frustrated, and so confused that I want to just sit down and cry. But he works really hard to support his family, and two lazy, good for nothing, worthless "house guests" who won't LEAVE. That I know he's going through a lot. There are just some times, when he does things, I wish he wouldn't do. Or says things, that I wish he wouldn't say. But with all the work he does, working seven days a week. With a really crappy job. I would be stressed out and angry all of the time too. I love my Dad, and that will never change, no matter how upset I might get towards him at times. So to wrap up this... huge... reply. I love my Mother, and I love my Dad from the very bottom portion of my heart. I always have, I always will, and nothing can change that. As far as my "Father" is concerned, I found my life to be better when he wasn't in it, and that's how I wish for it to go back to.
• United States
18 Nov 06
My 10 year old daugter is in your situation, as her mother it breaks my heart to see the disppointment on her face and in her voice when he doesnt call on her birthday, or on Christmas. McKaylah's sperm donor lives in Michigan and we live in Utah,,,thank goodness. He doesnt call anymore, he used to call when he was drunk, but only to talk with me. YOu and my daughter are both better off without these "losers" in it. Just enjoy the real men in your life. The men that have been there for you through every thing, and will continue to be no matter what....your DAD!! Good Luck!
• Romania
18 Nov 06
you both get "+" for these comments!
• United States
19 Nov 06
I'm sorry to hear about your daughters situation. I know how it feels, and I can only imagine how it's going to affect her in her later years. When I was younger, I didn't care too much, in fact I wanted to meet him, know more about him. As I said in my original reply. At least when I was little, I had my own image of him in my head, to find out that I was completely wrong, and how much of a worthless, ignorant, horrible person he really is. Is far more damaging than him having never been around for the earlier years. So I hope that as you say, he just stays out of her life. She'll be far better off, keeping what images she may have of him in her imagination than having to come face to face with the sort of person he really is. But thank you for replying, and I know you're right. While the sperm donor may be worthless, at least I do have a REAL Dad. And a wonderful, Mother.
@JolinC (175)
• United States
18 Nov 06
From deep of my heart, I know I love my parents. But there are often times where they annoy me a lot or do not understand me at all. Sometimes their thoughts are really annoying and wrong, yet they always feel like they are right. Then again, adults don't like to be proved wrong. Even though through a lot of arguments and unhappy times, I know I love them .
• Romania
18 Nov 06
parents are sometimes wrong
@JolinC (175)
• United States
19 Nov 06
Yes. That is true. No one is always right :) Just like nobody is perfect. But you know how older people don't like to be proved as wrong. They always feel like they have more experiences and are always right. We need to understand that. :)
• Romania
20 Nov 06
thx for reply
@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
18 Nov 06
no they didn`t protect me they let me down
• New Zealand
18 Nov 06
hugs hope!
@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
19 Nov 06
thanks ALLY__ANGEL
• Romania
19 Nov 06
dont worry , be happy!
@smolo69 (67)
• United States
18 Nov 06
Some people are just not meant to be parents and I got 2 of them..damn it!
• Romania
18 Nov 06
i tottaly agree some of them make your life harder!
• Romania
18 Nov 06
come on
@PSF123 (1169)
• China
18 Nov 06
yes,of course
• Romania
18 Nov 06
hmm
• Romania
18 Nov 06
parents can be very wrong!
• India
18 Nov 06
yes, i love my parents. i think everyone love parents
• Romania
18 Nov 06
????
• Romania
18 Nov 06
thats right!
• India
18 Nov 06
I do
• Romania
18 Nov 06
do they love you?
@sushanto (40)
• United States
18 Nov 06
yes, i love my parents. i think everyone love parents
• Romania
18 Nov 06
well i dont!
@4277886 (138)
18 Nov 06
Yes I love my parents. We have had our ups and downs. But I'll always love them. The comment that you must be young sounds true. What ever you do don't act towards them out of anger as much as you can. And when you do, present them with a reason why you feel that way. Later you won't have so many regrets.
• Romania
18 Nov 06
thx for your answer!
• United States
18 Nov 06
You must be a young person. I used to feel that way too. When I finally got married and had my own kids, well, now I think my parents are great! Yeah, sometimes they were old fashioned, but that's okay. They are still great and they love me!
• Romania
18 Nov 06
im 20
• India
18 Nov 06
yes i do....all the time....always
• Romania
18 Nov 06
sometimes i love them , but they are so wrong and i dont tolerate their thinkink!
@jzcb87 (1801)
• United States
20 Nov 06
I always love my mom, but sometimes I don't like her. I've never met my dad, and I don't think you could love a stranger.
• India
20 Nov 06
ya i like them a lot. becoz thy give us wat ever we need. after all we r not there with out them. so love your parents
• India
19 Nov 06
i would say that there would be differences of opinions all the time..but the point is u can differ with anyone whether its ur boss or ur girlfriend..but that doesn't mean u stop respecting them or stop caring for them..u have to realise that they have given u so much and the least u can do for them is to love them..may be its all a lecture..but u would realise when u become a parent.
@andrei22 (251)
• Romania
19 Nov 06
i do
@cyby22 (1208)
• Romania
19 Nov 06
well i don't care that much about my parents!
@arveemarc (433)
• Philippines
19 Nov 06
I live in the Philippines. I love my parents. They give me whatever I want as long as it is good for me. They easily understand me and respect whatever decisions I make for my own. I am currently living with them. They love me as their son and so is my sister. They treat us the same.
@Michal51 (659)
• Germany
19 Nov 06
I really love my parents!
• Indonesia
19 Nov 06
yes i do... i love them ....
@briggsy13 (136)
• United States
19 Nov 06
I love them, they have and always will be so supportive of me. even if they don't agree with what I'm doing. They trust me to make good decisions!! Plus I'm 27 and don't live at home and I just gave them a grandson so they love me!!