my bf things im cheating him T_T friends here please help me

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Portugal
October 19, 2010 12:57pm CST
hi guys. i was happy bcs today my bf came to talk to me after 3 days of silence. he said it was bcs of a typhoon. well days ago i saw he comment here in mylot and misunderstood a comment i made. i said that my situation was more complicated bcs my bf was from different continents that i meant me and my bf are from different continents but he understood that i have bfs from different continents. you all that follow my discussions know that i love only him and how hurt i was when he acted careless to me. i said that if he thinks im a b*tch i let him but first i want you guys to tell here. am i a b*tch? what did i tell you about my bf? i just want he knows that i love him and i didnt cheat him. so need your help guys please
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@cnetboss (2475)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
This is usually a common situation when having relationships over the internet or a long distance relation unless both of you have seen in person. There's way that I think that is effective is for both of you to communicate on a more private venue like E-mail or through chat or better yet call rather than here in Mylot.com
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@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
20 Oct 10
I agree with you Boss. She should try Skype and chat with him more often than writing often about him here.
• Portugal
20 Oct 10
yes boss i would love to call him but right now i dont have load in my cellphone bcs i called him one time and was too expensive and all load went away. and skype i need to pay also to call him. we live in different countries so is all more complicated jenny i asked him to read here in mylot bcs i have friends here that advised me before about him and he doubted that i loved him and in net is normal to have doubts. so i wanted him to dont have any doubts about what i feel. and yes we chat and talk when we can bcs he cant use computer much so thats why.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
I'm to hear about it, my friend. Your bf should be a reasonable person and very understanding in the situation that you have. He agreed to be your bf even if he knows how far you are. He must be aware for that, my friend. To succeed in a long distance love is a bit of patience, understanding, consideration, trust, respect and most of all love... He should have wide understanding in what situation you and him. I don't know what particular situation that hard for the two of you. But most important things to be consider is love and trust. A little discipline is also plus because you and your bf being truth to each other. If he suspect you that way...let him think about it. Because he lost the most important things in his life. You must be thankful that at this point you may now start to know who your bf are?
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
25 Oct 10
I'm sorry to know about it, my friend. I'm sad also that your bf didn't trust where I see your face and articles here are all about love and your being a faithful and trusted people. I know your not done anything wrong and I believe your a trusted person. The problem with your bf understanding is very negative. If he loves you, he must trust you with all whole heart. If am your bf. I taking care of you with full confident and trust. Because I treat as a precious as gold...
• Portugal
20 Oct 10
yes my bf should trust me. i know that. i trust him too. but he misunderstood something and thought i was a cheater. sure that hurt me bcs im not a cheater. everyone here knows that i love my bf. just he doubts. anyway we are solving things now so lets see what happens. i wish things he ok soon^^ but he hurt me with what he said.
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
Hello there sweet, Woah?! wait a damn minute? we've talked about him joining mylot and talked about him registering to Union Bank Account. and now i see his account that was registered just about a MONTH ago? Maybe his idea of cheat is when you talk to other people, specially men. what is wrong with talking if he's not around that much. I know it was about the strong Megi Storm, a perfect thing for a valid excuse. but what about those times that there was no typhoon? i don't know. I can't help you because I have already told the only option that in my opinion that can set you free and make you happy. nothing else to do.
• Portugal
20 Oct 10
yes i know your opinion already^^ thanks for worry with me really^^ and sorry if you advised me so many times about this problem. i wont worry more about this. i will just see what will happen for now. like you know my bf said we can talk everyday bcs he found a site that works well but seems that in my country doesnt work so well but isnt his fault. this time he is trying our relation to work and this happened thanks for everything
@ryheanne (222)
• South Korea
20 Oct 10
Too sad to hear that, I hope you learned your lesson today. Next time be careful in using words, even if you used some complicated words be sure there is an explanation or example that follows. Always think that there is someone who's going to be hurt when you post. Anyway hope you and your boyfriend will be okay soon. Don't be sad and worried if you did not do anything bad. I guess your boyfriend needs to learn what is understanding means...well we can't blame him if he is jealous and hurt. Sometimes a person who is in love is being short minded. Wish you all the best!
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• Portugal
20 Oct 10
thanks for your advises^^ yes i wrote wrong so is normal he misunderstood but he shouldnt had thought wrong right away. i love him and showed that many times already. so he should trust me more^^ anyway im happy that things are solved now and he is trying to make things work between us^^ im happy to see him so interested that things go well with us^^ thanks for your words really and wish you the best too^^ have a happy day^^
@toniganzon (72285)
• Philippines
20 Oct 10
If he really loves you, he will try and open that page one more time and read it again for farther clarification. If he doesn't do this and still continue to block his mind and think of you as cheating on him, then I guess your boyfriend wants to end your relationship and he's just looking for an excuse. I guess he found an excuse to dump you and convince you that it's not his fault. I don't want to think that I might be right and I'm really hoping that I'm wrong because I can really see from your previous posts how much you love him. But I'm just telling my own opinion based on what I've noticed and learned from guys themselves. Most of my friends are men and they've told me stuff like this too.
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• Portugal
20 Oct 10
thanks for your advises tony^^ yesterday i told him if he thinks i am a b*tch that he is free then. he didnt call me that but the way he talked seemed he meant that. anyway he messaged me today some times for us to talk. he even said to me a site that we can talk for free all day. sending sms to each other. so he said we can talk everyday^^ im happy that is trying to make things work but the site didnt work well for me maybe bcs we live in different countries wish that works soon ^^
• Pakistan
20 Oct 10
You are Not Cheating Him Don't Worry ,And Don't Call You Self A B*tch Because If You call Your Self This Other Will Miss Understood You And It Reacts Permanently In Your Life. Some Times People Need Time Adjust So Give Him Time I Hope All Going To Be Well Soon .
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• Portugal
20 Oct 10
yes thanks for your kind words^^ yes things are solved now ^^ just the problem now is how we can talk. he gave me a site for us to talk but that site isnt working for me i guess bcs my country is different than his :( so thats a big problem. anyway i wish that this site works bcs was a great chance for us to talk everyday^^ we need that^^ have a nice day^^
@shaggin (71664)
• United States
20 Oct 10
Wow that is crazy that he didnt talk to you for 3 days. The guy I am seeing he and I get in little tiffs a lot and I have to endure his silence. It drives me nuts. Thats ridiculous that he is accusing you of cheating on him. If he reads your discussions on here he needs to know that you are just coming up with discussions to earn money. It doesnt mean that just because you ask a question about something that you feel your boyfriend is doing that stuff. Most things are just hypothetical. I dont think your a b*tch at all. I think you sound like a very sweet caring girl. He needs to trust you if he is going to have a long distance relationship with you. Even if you lived together he would still have to trust you. Trust is everything in a relationship!
• Portugal
20 Oct 10
yes shaggin i was like is three days already but he said is bcs of a typhoon that cut electricity in his city. and sure he has to trust me. he misunderstood and thought wrong. he didnt call me b*tch but he asked something that seemed he meant that. thanks so muchy for say im a sweet and caring girl^^ you are also ^^ and sure we need trust each other even more in a long distance relationship. but yesterday i told him if he thinks that that he is free then. and he today sent me few messages and then we talked and he said he knew a site where we can talk everyday. he uses his cellphone to message me and i use the computer bcs is a site with unlimited free sms^^ i was too happy but that didnt work well to my country anyway i messaged people in the site and i wish that they fix that soon^^
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@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
19 Oct 10
The best thing you can do is wait, as strange as it may sound. When he sees this post, he will understand that it was all a big misunderstanding. You seem like a very genuine and nice girl and I am sure he knows that too.
• Portugal
19 Oct 10
i said to him if he thinks i have many bfs that he is free then. i also said other things but he stopped to answer. i guess he was angry with me. anyway i said to him just to read this post of mine. i dont have many bfs is just him. i did all to show him i love him. i even understood all his problems he made me cry really thanks for being sweet to me^^ you are a sweet girl too^^ thanks for worry with me^^
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@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
20 Oct 10
I hope everything works out! I believe you! Good luck!
• Portugal
20 Oct 10
thanks so muchy pucca^^ i wish we can solve things today bcs i dont want to make this misunderstanding stay longer really. i didnt cheat him and he misunderstood and how could he think i was cheating him? i respect him always. also i always understand his problems too and always trust whatever. anyway we are talking now so i wish things will be ok :(
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@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
20 Oct 10
Hi there: Personally, I don't call my female counterparts "bh" or I am a dog too (awooooooooooooo). Anyways, anybody is entitled to his/her own opinion and nothing can be done about it. Like they said, even the Gods cannot change history. All we can do is to see the future in the light of the past to avoid undesirable things in the present. Have a nice day.
• Portugal
20 Oct 10
he didnt call me that. but he thought i had other bfs so he asked which number he was. and that seemed more like i was a b*tch. anyway we solved things already^^ right now i been trying that a site works so we can talk everyday^^ but that site isnt working for me anyway i wish that it can work soon so we can message each other often^^