Yes...I'm still around....sorta....

@Katlady2 (9904)
United States
October 22, 2010 12:17pm CST
Hi everyone. I know it's been such a very long long time since I've made my presence known. I've missed you all so much...you have no idea. So much has changed in my life over the last several months that I don't know where to begin. I don't have much time since I'm back to using the library computers again (stupid timers anyway! LOL). So I'll keep this short for now. I've moved out of my home and filed divorce papers. Hubs had a weird, insecure, and somewhat insane streak in him that I was just either to blind to see or recently "cultivated" by him, so to speak. I couldn't take it anymore so I up and moved out and moved in with friends back in April. I have a fiance now (I know, I know....weird cuz I'm still in the process of the divorce. That's an even longer story that I might go into another time. A couple of you know already what I'm talking about and yes, it's still him that I'm with...he saved my life. Oh...and the friends I moved in with are the son and daughter in law of my best friend that died last year. If she was still alive she would have flayed them alive for the way they treated me. They booted me and my other half out knowing that we had nowhere to go and after we had given them over $1000 toward the rent that they never paid. So we ended up at a homeless shelter at the end of August, and we're still there. It's not bad...a lot less stressful than the previous situation for sure. I had to give up my cats when I left hubs, AND the two I took with me (Vixie and LittleBit) I had to give to animal control because I couldn't take them with me or find them a home. But Amy, the animal control lady, promised me that she had a couple of elderly people that she knew that would definitely take in my babies and love them. I cried so hard when I had to hand them over. I'm in tears right now as I'm typing this. I especially miss Vixie so much...I had her for 10 years. Anyway, I'm slowly getting things together. We just got approved for cash aid from the welfare, we're both waiting for approval for SSI/SSD (yes....STILL). And I got my approval letter for the Pell Grant for college. So I get to go back to school. Yaaaaayyyyyyy! I'll try to pop in more often when I can get to the library. Hopefully soon I'll be able to get a laptop and I won't have to worry about it. I love and miss you all, and I hope you remember who I am and can forgive me for being gone so long and neglecting all of my wonderful friends. BIG hugs to all......Carryl
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
22 Oct 10
Well it is good to hear from you and I am glad that you are ok but sorry for what you are going through I really hope that you will be able to get your own Home soon and get back on your Feet Sweetie Much love to you always and big warm Hugs
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
23 Oct 10
Thank you honey. I've missed you so very much. Things are looking up, so it's giving me hope that things will get back to some semblance of normal soon. Love you bunches and lots of big warm hugs to you and Gissi.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
23 Oct 10
OMG I wish you could have contacted me!!! I would have taken in your fur babies and kept them for you until you got settled. I am currently checking to see where Gridley is in relation to my place. If you can't get into something soon, I am more than willing to take you in to my home to give you a hand up. I would love to give your soon to be "EX" a few really well placed kicks to a very tender place!!! Instead of a laptop, have you considered a net book? I have both and I do love the net book. It is essentially the same as the lap top but it doesn't have the CD rom drive, which can be purchased separate for a really small amount. In the mean time I will scour the places here and see if I can find a lap top for you that is for free and works good. I woke up this morning very depressed and feeling sorry for myself because of the enormous amount of pain I'm having and the fact that I am considering a wheel chair because of the pain when I walk... I am so ashamed for feeling so sorry for myself when you have so much more disaster in your life than I am having right now. I am going to PM my phone numbers to you so that if you really need emergency lodging or other help I can try to help you out. I'm a ways away from you, but I can't let you suffer...I have an extra bed and even though the home owner's association might have a fit (they can stuff it) I do have a queen bed too. I also promise that I won't take you to the cleaners or boot you out without finding something for you. Please take care of yourself and be careful!!!!
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
23 Oct 10
Awww honey you are so very kind and sweet. I appreciate you way more than you know. Thank you so very much. Actually I'm in the town of Chico now, which is about 100 miles north of Sacramento along Highway 99 if you're looking at a map. So yes, we're a ways apart, but not too awfully far. We're checking in to low income housing around here...we got a list from the housing authority and are going to start applying next week. At least it will put us on waiting lists. Whatever you do, do NOT feel ashamed of how you're feeling. We're all going through one ordeal or another and we just need to be there for each other. I hope you get to feeling better soon honey. I hear ya on the pain. The doc just put me on Norco for my back because the Vicodin was just not doing anything anymore painwise. So far things are going good. Maybe I can have enough set aside from my school grant to actually move into a place. We'll just have to wait and see (story of my life LOL). Thank you so much for offering your home to me hon. I appreciate that so very much. I will definitely keep you posted as to what's going on. You are such an awesome friend. As soon as I get a cell phone...hopefully next week...I will PM you the number as well. Sending lots of big fuzzy warm hugs to you sweetie. You're the bestest!
@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
25 Oct 10
Hey hunny. I just wanted to let you know that I read everything and I thank you so much. I only have a little time left on the library cpu right now. But I should be on tomorrow morning. Check your PM's....I'm going to give you a couple of my email addys if you want to get in touch with me that way. I'll email you in the morning too. Love you lots sweetie. MUAH
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
24 Oct 10
As I said, if you don't get housing soon, let me know. You are both more than welcome to stay with me until something comes your way. Also, how are you set for house hold stuff? You know; pots, pans, linens, dishes etc. I can help out with a bunch of that stuff and it will help me out by finding a home for it. What kind of cell phone are you looking at? I dumped my cell phone company because I was getting tired of their crap, and went with a pay as you go unit. I got the trac phone as the one I got has double minutes for the life of the phone. The first of the month I am changing to a different service (I like what they are offering) and I will have the trac phone kicking around the house....so let me know. I'll PM you my thoughts. I wish there was more I could do for you. Right now I am so very very thankful that you are out of that mess. Before I forget I'll pass on a few tips on the college stuff. First, find out what books you need for your classes. If you can find out ahead of time check Amazon, Ebay and other used text book companies online. You also should let me know the classes and what books are needed as I might have them in my library...I'm not too good about selling off my books. Check out and register with EOPS, the one here offers book vouchers, gas vouchers, a certificate for a free lunch, and they also have a text book lending library. They can help you through 90 units. Along with that, make sure that you register with the disabled student's program. It helps a bunch with different medical problems and letting the instructors know about them. I'm registered, and one of the biggies is that I have to elevate my legs as much as possible. The teachers here don't want people "kicking back" and having feet on the furniture...but they can't do anything to me. Also the disabled students program makes sure that if you need things like note takers or any other assistance that you get it. I also am eligible transportation from building to building on campus so that I don't have to put so much stress on my legs and back. I am still looking for a good used lap top for you. If you can't find one, would a used desk top work? I mean after you get settled. I have a desk top and can get it to you...I don't want anything for it, just knowing that you have a computer for school and for keeping up with the Lot is payment enough. Talk about bossy nosy people RIGHT? I just hate to think of you both in a homeless shelter. I'm one of those people who will rush in like a rabid fireman when others will stop and think about the consequences. I guess it could get overbearing at times, but I've been that way since I was a kid. I just got my Norco prescription refilled yesterday. I am feeling a bit better now, but still hate the fact that I hurt so badly when I try to walk. I was in the same position with the Vicodin not taking care of the pain very well. Plus I am in PT and I am not too sure that it is helping any, it seems like it works for about two hours and then I am in even more pain than before the PT. I am being scheduled for another CT scan and it will show how much more deterioration of the L1 vertebrae has occurred during the past year. I was informed that there is calcification inside the spinal canal and it is going to get worse. It is pressing on the nerves that lead to both legs...so there is no telling where the situation is going. Please take care of yourselves...and hug each other for me. I am thinking of you and praying for everything to work out quickly. Now I need to get off my fanny and clean carpet (thanks to Abby the pit/lab. I found out that she is peeing on the carpet in the workroom every night. That's going to quit, even if she is put in depends! ) and then I need to clean the family room because of CD chewing up one of his teddy bears and scattering pellets all over the place. Please take really good care and let me know if there is anything you need!
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
30 Oct 10
Dear Carryl, I have missed you so. Sorry to hear that you are having such a hugely hard time of things, the worst has to be giving up the cats. I would've kicked the hubs out! I'm sending you a PM.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
1 Nov 10
I got your PM hon and responded back. Believe me if I could have kicked him out instead, I would have in a heartbeat. But since his parents own the house, I ended up being the one up the creek without the paddle. Oh well. I'm just glad to be out of there. He still has my cats except Prance (who I hope found a good home) and I think he still has the dogs (he won't respond on that when I ask about them so I'm not sure) so maybe when I get into a place finally I can get one or two of my babies. Big hugs to you.
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@ElicBxn (63252)
• United States
22 Oct 10
Oh my, I was wondering (and worrying) about you. I'm sorry you had to give up your babies, that's really tough. And being in a homeless shelter isn't easy, those kids should be punished (well, they will some day, but sooner would be nice...) So, don't worry if you can't get back to me, just know I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
23 Oct 10
Thank you hon. I try to get online as much as possible. They recognize me now at the library because I try to come in every morning to take care of my computer fix. LOL! I think Karma will come back and kick both the kids in their butts, especially after I talk to the son's dad about a few things. Hopefully it will wake them up to reality, but I highly doubt it. Oh well...such is life. Sending you lots of big hugs my dear friend.
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@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
23 Oct 10
Nice to read that you have things in control. You are indeed strong and resilient. I wish you well. Hugssssssssss.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
25 Oct 10
Big hugsssssss back to ya hon. Thank you.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
23 Oct 10
Hi Carryl, it is so good to hear from you. I am so sorry for everything that’s happened to you, I’m glad you found someone who loves you as you deserve and I feel so bad for the fact that you had to give up your lovely cats, that must have broken you heart in a million pieces! The main thing though is that you will be okay and you and your fiancé will rebuild your lives again in due course. I will look forward to you popping in every now and again and updating us on how you are doing. In the meantime I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and wish that everything turns around for you and all will be well again...
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
23 Oct 10
Thank you so much sweetie. At least 5 of my other kitties are at the ex's and he is actually taking care of them. So if I get into a place maybe I can take one or two of them with me. But that's a ways down the road. Things are getting better finally. So there's a lot more hope for me now. thank you again my friend. Take care. Sending you lots of hugs.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
22 Oct 10
Now now, how can we forget YOU Carryl? A good friend?! Heck no! We haven't forgotten you but have been wondering how you're doing, where you are, if you're ok, and so on and so on. Thanks for the update. Do you know the old lady who took your cats? If you don't, I'd ask and maybe the old lady will let you visit with them. Maybe.... maybe not but its certainly worth trying. I don't know how you had the courage to give them up. I just hope that lady wasn't lying to you. I think I'd rather live in the street than give up my babies. Sorry, no pun intended. I just know I couldn't do that. In any case, things seem to be looking up for you two.... keep up the hard work! You'll get there..... it just takes time and determination but you'll get there.....
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
23 Oct 10
Awww...thank you sweetie. It was so very hard to give up my babies. But I couldn't make them suffer by taking them with me and not knowing if I'd be able to even feed them or not. I cried so hard that I almost broke blood vessels in my eyes, and Amy was in tears too. I know she's really good about finding homes for furbabies. I'm hoping to get a hold of her soon, maybe next week, and see if she can tell me who has my girls. My ex still has the other 5 of my babies and he's taking care of them, thank God. Things are starting to get better finally. Thank you so much hon. Sending lots of love and hugs to you.