I hate spoiled brats!

Spoiled brats getting their way - Hatred for spoiled brats
@bounce58 (17387)
Canada
October 22, 2010 12:33pm CST
I’m sorry, but I just can’t stand them. Maybe it has something to do with me and my brother growing up with almost not having anything, and playing with neighbors who are spoiled to the hilt by their parents. Even as I grew up, I still don’t want to be associated with any perceived spoiled brat. Nowadays I see children who have their parents wrapped in their little fingers, and I stay away from them. And I shudder at the thought of what these children would grow up to be. There is this one kid who’s mom keeps calling to schedule a playdate with my son. I keep making excuses because I’ve seen the kid, and I know how he behaves, and I’m definitely sure that he’s a spoiled brat in the making. I don’t want to say anything about their parenting skills so I try to distance myself and my kids from them. So, do you know any spoiled brats? Does it bother you? How do you deal with them? Do you let your kids play with them?
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• Philippines
24 Oct 10
I can tolerate spoiled kids because I truly believe that adults are more at fault in letting them be spoiled. Of course a kid will grow up as a spoiled adult if this attitude is not checked. And I can't tolerate adults who believe that their God's gift to the world and the world has to owe them something for that. My only dilemma is I know that being spoiled is a vicious cycle. You grow up to be one and you end up believing that it's okay to rear one. I don't have kids right now, but if ever I'm blessed with one I will really try to teach him/her confidence and compassion. I also believe that brats are brats because nobody keeps tabs on their attitude. Sometimes parents are too busy to notice or too confused to act. Maybe a little heads up will guide them? Love can be a little blinding for some. Always starting in a friendly manner should do it. Nothing hostile or anything, just thought you would want to know, that sort of approach. Now if the parent gets defensive and gets nasty, it's not worth your effort and heartache.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 10
Hello cuckoosnest. Yes, it is the parent's fault that kids sometimes grow up to be spoiled brats. And sometimes they are blinded in the guise of showing love for their kids. Everybody needs a heads up, specially the ones that don't have kids yet. So that they would know what to do when they do get them. Thanks and welcome to myLot.
• Philippines
28 Oct 10
Thanks for the welcome. I'm only learning the ropes here. So far I'm liking it.
@maezee (42003)
• United States
23 Oct 10
I have to say. I have a few friends who are adult-versions of this, and it's extremely scary. I wouldn't blame you for not wanting your kids to hang around them (who knows, it might be contagious). I think we must have had a similar up-bringing. We weren't dirt poor, but we definitely did not get everything we wanted as kids (me and my sister) and I really don't mind that (although I might have at the time, I can't quite remember). I just know that I feel bad for people, especially people who grew up that way, who are spoiled. They are 110% dependant and it says something about your work ethic (or lack thereof) if you've never had to work for anything in your life. lol. Just saying.. Anyway I am typically not around kids as it goes, unless it's a friends' kid or a distant relative or something, in which case, I'm also never babysitting so I actually never have to deal with this. lol. lucky me.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 10
Well lucky you maezee, if you don't have to be around kids. But if you say that you're around grown up versions of them, then I don't think you're so lucky... I'm sure that if some of these kids are not helped, or not taught while they are still young, they turn out to be just some of the adults you've mentioned. And yes, that's scary.
• United States
22 Oct 10
You don't like me anymore?! I was and still am a spoiled brat. Well more spoiled princess than brat. In time I Did get Everything I wanted. True some things I had to wait for but that just made it more special! But I never flaunted what I got or made anyone feel bad because I got this and they had that. But I was daddy's little girl. My dad would have given me the moon if I asked for it. I lost him when I was 12 but I still consider myself a spoiled princess. Now I know our friendship is over , right?
• United States
24 Oct 10
You didn't offend me at all. I used the smiley to express I was saying things in jest.I thought , Uh-oh! He doesn't know I'm spoiled! I'm glad we are friends and I am Hoping your turn to be This happy comes Real soon!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Oct 10
I hope so too! By the way, what's happening with Ovie?! I'm beginning to be more of a fan of the other Alexander!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Oct 10
Oopps! I still like you and the way you live your life sarah. There is a big difference between adults being a brat but having the means to do it, and those people who are just trying to piss others off. Like people waiting their turn and working for the things they want, versus people who just complain because they are entitled to this and that. I wouldn't call you a brat sarah. More like on a different happiness-level than me. I will get there too. ...sorry, didn't mean to offend you... this is me with my tail between my legs.
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@Keola12 (795)
• United States
23 Oct 10
I know what you mean. If it's one thing I can't stand, it's unruly children. I have some friends who have three children. The oldest one is 8 yrs going on 9, the second child is 6 1/2 yrs and the baby is a little over a year. The 6 1/2 year old is a perfect angel. When she comes to my house, she sits on the sofa next to her mother and doesn't move from there until her mother gets ready to leave. The 8 year old and the 1 yr old come over and they touch things on my nick nack table. The one year old picked up a large figurine from the nick nack table and drops it on the floor. All his grandmother and mother did was smile and say, "That's alright, sweetheart. At least you didn't break it." Not only did he get into things, but his mother and grandmother let him wander all over my house. They weren't watching him. When they finally noticed he was gone from the room, they asked me where he was. I told them, "he just went into my kitchen." To make matters worse, the child was barefooted. The mother doesn't put shoes on him yet, because she says he prefers to go without shoes and socks. That's just crazy. The child has no clue about what is best for him. I don't thing his mother or father have any more common sense in their head than that child.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 10
Haha! Makes you wonder why some parents let their children carry on like this. How would they expect their children to grow up responsible adults when they are trained (or not trained) like this as children. And some are oblivious to the grief they cause to other people. Thanks!
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
23 Oct 10
I don't mind as much their material possesions as I do their attitudes. If the child is well behaved then it really does make a difference. I think that we all want to give our children the things we didn't have when we were little but I think that not teaching manners and good behavior is the thing that burns me up. My children are older and it didn't really matter to me what other children had..it was the way they treated people that burnt me a new one. If they were disrespectful..i didn't want to be around them. My friend has a couple of girls that she spoiled rotten in every form imaginable but the truth is that she is really paying for it now.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
25 Oct 10
Hi Jen. You're right, it's not so much the possesions, but the attitude that really bothers other people. The weird thing about it is that some parents don't seem to understand what's happening until it's time for them to pay for it. When the kids are grown up and turning out to be not-so-responsible people. Thanks.
@cdyt7874 (72)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
i can't stand spoiled brats either.but i don't stay away from them.the more that i would stick to them because i want to help them see and realize what a real world is.other parents thought they're helping their children by giving them anything they want.unfortunately, they're not. i have some friends who are like this and they grew up to be iresponsible, they only care for themselves and ended up with a broken family. we parents, tend to be protective but we must also help our children feel what is reality. that we have tobe challenged and learn to solve those challenges. and if we love our children let us not make them brats. yes i let my children play with them although it sometimes changes my children's view on somethings. i explain it to my children and they have to understand.well, i'm proud of my children that they understands these things. they learn to be patient, forgiving and understanding.
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
25 Oct 10
Hello cdyt7874. I admire your conviction and your decision not to stay away from spoiled brats. We all know that these kids turn out to be irresponsible people when they grow up, if nobody tells them the error of their ways. It's great that there are people like you who make the effort.
22 Oct 10
I know how you feel, my mum as the habit of turning my children into them as she just buys them everything they want and after visiting her they come back very moody. They're very good kids deep down but it's the people who don't explain to them very well, I know for sure there's worse people than my mum for this. I know someone a few doors down from me who gets their children to act like posh and allow them to brag about what toys they have etc. The family wonder why they get burgled a lot. It bothers me, as I would prefer my kids especially to be respectful and thankfully most of the time they are. I just really dislike the parents who allow their kids to grow up thinking everything falls at their feet, it's about winning and if you want something you can just take it.
24 Oct 10
That's pretty much what my parents actually say, they refer to how my grandparents was with me despite them being 1000% worse. LOL Better for acting like a their posh, you're right it doesn't but some people think it does.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Oct 10
I guess grandparents feel that they have the right to do that. Quick gratification for the kids. But the most important thing is that you make the children good deep down. And it sounds like you've already done your job. Great! Funny about your neighbor. Makes you wonder, why would they ever want to make they children act like posh. Did they think it would make them better person? I think not!
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@yiyun_h (183)
• United States
25 Oct 10
me too. today kids are awfully spoiled. i taught kids art and many of them don't want to do any set and clean up things. i still made them do it. some parents don't like that part, they think their kids are genius artists just come here to draw and paint. come on, give me a break! i don't like to be too harsh to kids and due to my experience i am sensitive about child abuse issue. but the kids are just way to over protected here in america. terrible!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 10
If you teach kids to be artists, they should also need to be taught to clean up after them. And to show them that this is part of the process so they would appreciate more the art that they are doing. Thanks for the response.
@insulin (2479)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
I don't know if you will hate me but I'm not sure If I'm spoiled brat but my sister tells that I am but it's complicated since our age gap is 10 years and to be honest,It's my mom giving anything but I don't ask for it and I want to have my own and don't want to depend with my parents.I also wanna know what's your definition in spoiled brats but I'm sure I'm not.My nephew is spoiled brat and it's pain in the head for sure.He wants to have everything he wants and it's really in my nerves.I don't know if thats normal for a 6 years old kid but his the only son of my sister.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 10
Hello insulin. If you are aware, then chances are you're not a spoiled brat. If it's your mom that gives you everything, and you don't let that get into your head, then I guess you're OK. And that's great! Thanks.
@marguicha (212901)
• Chile
25 Oct 10
It seems the poor brats are not guilty of their being spoiled!Maybe they will learn somrthing by being in your house playing with your son. And whe he is at your house, just tell him that in your home, rules are such and such. If he does not accept him, he can go. Your son has to learn to relate to different people . Don´t overprotect him because you had problems when you were small. Some children are full of material things yet they don´t have as much love and caring from their parents. I´d have the brad come over to my house first, to see how he behaves at my house. Then, if needed, I´d invite th brat´s mom for a coffee and talk things over with her. People need each other. It´s only that sometimes they keep repeating the patterns they were taught.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 10
I know it isn't the brat's fault that their parents are rearing them that way. And yes, sometimes the parents need to be told what they are doing wrong. I guess if more and more people tell them the same thing, then maybe they'd realize the error of their ways. And hopefully check the children before they grow up as completely useless adults. Thanks.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
25 Oct 10
I don't have a problem with the children that are spoiled because it isn't their fault that they are the way that they are. However, I do tend to have a problem with the parents of these children because I feel like they don't really have control over their children. I will let my children play with children that are spoiled. However, I will removed them from the situation when the children get to be too much for either my nerves or for my children.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 10
Usually they get on my nerves more than they get on the nerves of my children (maybe they don't even notice it). But I would really hate for them to pick up nasty habits from these spoiled brats. So, it is easier to not let them play with altogether. Thanks dorann!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
23 Oct 10
A spoiled brat can be hard to take. You wonder what goes through a child's mind when they are behaving this way. How much responsibility does a parent have to take on themselves when their child is called a spoiled brat?
@Keola12 (795)
• United States
23 Oct 10
A parent needs to take full responsibility for their children, especially when a child is called spoiled. If they don't, no one else will. It's up to the parents to teach their children right from wrong. Good manners and good behavior start from the home.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
25 Oct 10
It could just be the environment where these children are brought up. They could keep pushing, by wanting things done for them, and when the parents don't push back, they push a little more. Yes, it is the parent's responsibility to make sure that children are taught and brought up the right way. Thanks sender621 and Keola12.
• United States
22 Oct 10
Firstly there is no need for dis-liking spoiled brats. As in my opinion they are complete utter nuance. I cannot stand them either, I mean really how are they going to function in life when they just simply can't get their own way in society. I know several and let's just say not directly acquainted with them, I see them in action from afar.
• United States
23 Oct 10
I hate spoiled brats as well. However depending on how old your son is he could teach this kid that keeps calling for play dates a thing or two on how to "man up" and how to not be a whiner. My brother and I had a hard life growing up compared to my younger brother and it was difficult for me being 10 year younger and watching him get away with stuff that i would have gotten beat for ( not litterally beat) but you get the picture. Parents these days for the most part are to afraid to displine their children because someone is always "watching" or it could "warp" their personality. I dont have any kids yet but when I do there is a reason they say spare the rod spoil the child... they learned this long ago.
• United States
23 Oct 10
I agree some sense of discipline, consistency and love.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
23 Oct 10
...how are they going to function in life when they just simply can't get their own way in society... That's the exact feelings I have for spoiled brats. That's why I get angry and hate them sometimes. And then it is us in the background who they want to work for them. Yes tryingtomakebills. There is a reason our parents came up with this way to raise children, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. Thanks.
@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
23 Oct 10
i really hate spoiled brats..they get what they want..even doing bad things just to get what they want..i remember i have been introduced to an spoiled brat and cals him BRATINELa!that girl was really a brat and uses everybody just to get what she wats
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
26 Oct 10
Hello jharia20. Yep, most spoiled brats do terrible things just to get what they want. And they don't care if they hurt or piss off others. It is adviceable to stay away from them. Thanks!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Oct 10
hi bounce yes me too they drive me nuts, I am elderly and widowed'buut I have seen the species in the stores having a melt down until mom buys them the toy or the candy or whatever else their greedy l ittle hearts desire. and mom to shut the kid up generally buys the kids what they want too. those kids know just how to push the buttons. My only kid is now 51 a nd he too does not like spoiled brats either.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
25 Oct 10
I easily get irritated when I hear whining and crying, specially from spoiled brats. I could just imagine how doubly irritating that would be for you Hatley. Not only the kid, but also to see the parents give in to whatever the spoiled kid is crying about.
@dawnald (85129)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Oct 10
It bothers me, but I don't keep my kids away from their friends because of that. I trust that their values that they get from me will keep them from becoming little monsters by association.
@hushi22 (4928)
22 Oct 10
normally i dont like them but i also have to deal with them esp my dad. he is a spoiled rat. he easily gets tantrum when his desires arent given. but i just follow mom, i dont give so much attention for that. we use positive reward and negative/punishment and any form for undesired behavior.
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
25 Oct 10
Hahaha hushi22. Did you mean that? You wrote 'rat' instead of 'brat' about your dad. It made me laugh. You probably didn't mean to, but it made me laugh just the same. Thanks for the response.
@hakuyo (200)
23 Oct 10
I also try to stay away from them, but there are so many spoiled brats that makes me hard to stay away from them. Have you seen my sweet 16, the telivison show? Oh my god, this show is full of spoiled brats and i cannot stand to see this show. They do not know how hard it is to earn money and lots of children are dying because of hunger while they buy expensive brand clothes! Thought of this makes me really angry!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
25 Oct 10
I'm not sure if it is the same show, but I've seen something like this on TV. Where the parents throw lavish parties for their spoiled brats when they turn 16. Uggh! I tried watching it, but I just couldn't. Mostly, I don't want my kids to get the idea. I'm sure that when these kids grow up, they wouldn't turn out to be responsible adults. Too sad. Thanks.
• India
22 Oct 10
this may b true but this is only coz these days people have less kids and they try to fulfill their dreams with all tehy can and stuff there is also a saying if u have what it takes to b a parant pampar ur child but taht is only a ssaying nothing can b relate to taht
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
24 Oct 10
Hello dheerajlko. I understand when you say that people weigh their dreams on their children. And to compensate with these expectations, they try to pamper them with everything. The sad thing is, this isn't really helping the kids cope up with reality when they grow up. Thanks for the response.