Do we need to give a great compliment?
By aaronfyzeon
@aaronfyzeon (1919)
Philippines
October 26, 2010 10:54am CST
Most of us know when we have received an insincere compliment. We also know that giving compliments can be tricky.
How can you give a sincere sounding compliment without being overly enthusiastic? If you do not know how to comfortably do this, you risk coming off as fake and the other person is not likely to appreciate it.
Even if you meant what you said as a positive, a poorly timed or overly "gushy" compliment will be perceived as insincere. It is almost better to not compliment someone at all if you have not learned how to do it properly.
The worst thing you can do is compliment someone on something that is obviously untrue. Avoid compliments about personal things like weight or appearance.
Opt for simple compliments on things like the quality of a person's work or if it is a social situation, how nice it has been to enjoy a great conversation with someone. Learning how to give a sincere compliment can help you at work and in your personal life. The best compliment is one that comes naturally.
What do you think guys? Do we need to say it out loud or we just keep it to ourselves. Please share your thoughts.
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4 responses
@vijay12 (1642)
• India
26 Oct 10
It is an art,to compliment,one.If it is genuine,it is the most important thing,people generally crave for,as it is a tonic to one's ego.As you say,it should be genuine.But surely,there is a positive in each person.To find it out is not too difficult.Timing,the mood of the receiver,and the sincerity and genuineness,of the compliment one offers, are crucial,in making it a sincere one or a fake.
@aaronfyzeon (1919)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
You are absolutely right! Compliments from other people aside from your friends or relatives can really make the person more enthusiastic in doing what he is doing and achieve great results. We should really be bold enough to show our gladness or admiration to the things that is deserving to have our compliments. Thank you for the nice response. Enjoy the rest of the week.
@frontvisions101 (16043)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
It's true. That's why most of the time i just say 'nice' or 'nice one' to someone who just did a job well done. You have to come out just right. It can't be too subtle or exaggerated or it will be perceived as fake.
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@aaronfyzeon (1919)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Absolutely true, exaggeration can make it like a sarcasm. Thank you for the nice response.
@hushi22 (4927)
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27 Oct 10
when we give them sincerely and the person to be given is worth it then we should. sometimes we need to say it out loud but there are times we need to keep them ourselves. for instance, i know some people who do good in their jobs but because they know they are so good they tend to boast. whenever i know they are doing great i just keep it myself. but to those who are so shy and withdrawn i tend to say it out loud to improve them and encourage even more.
@concept001 (436)
• India
26 Oct 10
Yes you are absolutely correct. Sometimes if we really want to give compliment the other person may think that you are simply doing formality. So, I think twice before giving even genuine compliments. I have had past experiences where I felt embarrassed after giving compliments. So, nowadays I am very careful with this
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@aaronfyzeon (1919)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
Thank you so much. It is good that you really are weary of how you deliver your compliments because it can really be misunderstood as a sarcasm if you did it the way you shouldn't be.
