your lover gives you freedom to buy anything you want?^^
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
Portugal
October 26, 2010 12:11pm CST
hi guys^^ 
imagine that you and your bf/gf have the same bank account^^ what i agree that they have when are living together or married^^ so imagine that you have the same and you want to buy a pair of shoes and a dress (girls)/parfum and sneakers (boys) or any other thing you like to buy^^ do your lover control in what you use your money or does he give you freedom to buy what you want bcs trusts you?^^ about me if we ever have the same account me and my bf i wont control at all what he buys^^ he can buy anything he wants^^ doesnt matter who uses the money more^^ the money is of both so^^ so i dont mind at all. but me i wouldnt waste it with many things for me^^ once in awhile could buy something but not always buying and buying. so we could save for other things too that could be good for both like romantic vacations^^ 
what about you guys?^^ you have freedom or your lover controls it? please share^^ 
imagine that you and your bf/gf have the same bank account^^ what i agree that they have when are living together or married^^ so imagine that you have the same and you want to buy a pair of shoes and a dress (girls)/parfum and sneakers (boys) or any other thing you like to buy^^ do your lover control in what you use your money or does he give you freedom to buy what you want bcs trusts you?^^ about me if we ever have the same account me and my bf i wont control at all what he buys^^ he can buy anything he wants^^ doesnt matter who uses the money more^^ the money is of both so^^ so i dont mind at all. but me i wouldnt waste it with many things for me^^ once in awhile could buy something but not always buying and buying. so we could save for other things too that could be good for both like romantic vacations^^
what about you guys?^^ you have freedom or your lover controls it? please share^^ 2 people like this
10 responses
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
26 Oct 10
Well, me and my bf have separate accounts, he has his and I have mine, and we split the bills and rents and food etc. And after that, we can both do whatever we want with the amount that remains. So we never fight about money, and since we like different things, it works pretty well for us. We do both save though, and the savings accounts are mutual, but we never touch them, so I guess we have a mututal account too though.
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@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
thats nice^^ you and him have separate accounts so each of you can buy anything you want^^ and also one with savings from the both^^ thats good^^ i just meant that is important to at least have one account that is for both^^ also is good that you dont touch that money bcs if one of you ever got unemployed what i wish that doesnt happen, you could use that money then^^
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
i understand you^^ but i rather trust him and we both have the same account^^ i feel better that way^^ i wouldnt feel ok if each of us had his own. if we are together the money is of both^^ doesnt make sense to have separate accounts^^ maybe before you got hurt bcs of that but i wish someday you find a guy you can trust again^^ and that he is sweet and both are happy to have the same account^^ thanks for your advise^^
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
27 Oct 10
This kind of freedom might come at a price. You should take care when letting another know they can buy anything they want. they just might do that!@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
yes sure^^ thats true^^ but if you have a bf and live with him or marry a guy doesnt make sense to have separate accounts^^ you are together so makes all the sense that both have the same account^^ that way can have a better life^^ and about if buy many things is ok as long as dont forget that i also need it^^ even if is only a bit^^ anyway i trust my bf^^ so if we had a joint account would be ok^^
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
you mean that for now you can buy anything you want but when you marry you cant anymore? why? what is the difference? if you have the same account is bcs you love each other and both can use the money. so there is no problem in buy any you want married or not^^ sure no one will want to spend all money like that. we need also to think about our bf but if your bf dont give you freedom to use the money maybe you should talk with him.
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
but if he would have to give you back then it wasnt the same account. better to have separate ones then. if you have the same account is bcs the money is of both so no one has to give it back. if you think this way maybe you better dont have the same account. or he might get angry if you ever ask the money back. if you have the same account is bcs love each other and trust each other.
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
27 Oct 10
i would love to have a joint account with my boyfriend.
he makes good money.
but i can tell you this. it won't happen.
i wouldnt even want it to happen unless we are married.
i want my own money, he has his own money.
and after the wedding date then we can share accounts for bills and the kids.
wow, i'm speaking ahead of myself.
we don't have any kids now. but later after the wedding lol.
anyway good luck with everything.
but imagine everything that could go wrong if the two of you break up. who money is who?
I'm just speaking logically. but i really don't hope anything bad on you and your bf. from your dicsussions. you sound so much in love with him.
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
i dont have a joint account with him now^^ bcs we live very far away^^ we didnt meet near yet^^ but yes i love him very much really^^ and when we be together i wish that we have a joint account sure^^ if we go to live together^^ about you and your bf is ok that for now you dont have an account together but when marry is good that you have^^ so is better^^ bcs two saving can have a better life than on his own^^ for me doesnt make sense to have separate accounts if you live together or are married^^ anyway if got separated would split the money in half^^ would be better i guess^^ or maybe would ask a bit only to get my new life. and he could keep the rest. thanks for wish me the best^^ wish you the same^^
@joey_matthews (8354)
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26 Oct 10
If the money was from us both i still wouldn't go spending it on myself, but then neither would my wife... she tends to not let me buy anything for her and she won't buy anything herself. I only buy the odd video game for myself but i always look around for the best price. My wife sees things for our kids, but usually asks me before getting anything.
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
i see that you and your wife like to save money^^ and spend it only in necessary things^^ thats cute that she uses it in your kids^^ and you sometimes buy games to you^^ thats fine^^ we also need money to buy things that please us and not only for save and save^^ anyway she asks you before buy something? thats sweet of her but you should tell her that she doesnt need to^^ the money is of both so you should tell her that she doesnt need to ask you^^ and can buy anything^^ im sure he will be happier^^
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
26 Oct 10
hello again cat,
If my bf will give me all the freedom to buy everything i want i would surely buy everything that i want.
But,since it's a joint account it means i have my share of savings too.
Then,i will never spent my money for unnecessary things.
I would rather save it for something special,like a travel package for me and my bf
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
26 Oct 10
ahah if he gave you freedom for that you would buy really anything?^^ ahah 
but sure i agree that you try not to spend too much and save it for something special with your bf^^ is more sweet and more romantic ahah^^ im sure he would love your surprise^^ he would see that you rather use it with the both of you than with you only^^ and would love you even more^^
but sure i agree that you try not to spend too much and save it for something special with your bf^^ is more sweet and more romantic ahah^^ im sure he would love your surprise^^ he would see that you rather use it with the both of you than with you only^^ and would love you even more^^ 1 person likes this
@hushi22 (4928)
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26 Oct 10
hahaha. what a coincedent. my bf put some cash inside the parcel he sent me and he told me to buy all the stuff i want and i must not save the money because he knows i am very stingy. hmmm....to be honest, right now i just think of buying a guitar but not for me, but for him.
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
27 Oct 10
ahah so cute^^ so this answer was meant for you really^^ he is too sweet saying that you can buy anything you want^^ yes maybe you like to save money but also you shouldnt save that that much^^ is good that sometimes we buy things for ourselves too^^ we work so we deserve some happiness sometimes^^ anyway about buy a guitar for him^^ you can buy it when he comes back and offer that^^ im sure he will be too happy^^ but for now buy something for you^^ thats what will make him happy^^ bcs see you happy i guess is the best thing for him^^
he is too sweet saying that you can buy anything you want^^ yes maybe you like to save money but also you shouldnt save that that much^^ is good that sometimes we buy things for ourselves too^^ we work so we deserve some happiness sometimes^^ anyway about buy a guitar for him^^ you can buy it when he comes back and offer that^^ im sure he will be too happy^^ but for now buy something for you^^ thats what will make him happy^^ bcs see you happy i guess is the best thing for him^^ 
@mustafarox (453)
• India
27 Oct 10
Well though I don't tell my girlfriend to spent limitedly but I always have check on what she buys as she uses my debit card to buy things and I don't mind spending money on her as I earn money for her and if I don't spend it on her then whom will I spend it on and she has a really bad habit that if she sees something new in the market and which is really stylish and none of her friends have it she will force me to buy it for her no matter it is costly but if she wants it thats it she should get it...
