Will you marry me?

@shibham (16977)
India
October 29, 2010 4:28am CST
Hi everyone... WILL YOU MARRY ME?... According to me, this is the hardest sentence in the world to express or pronounce. If i am in a love then i have to think thousands time before saying her this sentence. I don't dare to see her reactions after hearing this from me. If she accepts then okay but there are chances to get refused, misunderstood, even slapped. Who wish to receive a slap from a girl. right? So i think my marriage will be an arranged marriage not love marriage because i am not able to say "will you marry me?" What do you think about this sentence, is not it hardest? Have you ever said it to someone? What was the result? Please share. Thanks in advance.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
29 Oct 10
Hello Shiby. And what exactly is so hard about that? It's only words you know. Even if you mean it from your heart, they won't bit. Hell, i hope not. Give it a try. Go stand in front of your mirror and say them. Just be careful the mirror don't answer you, okay. TATA.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Hi saphie.. Even it's also hard to me to say a girl..I like you face 2 face. hahaha. your hops are sometimes wrong. No need of a mirror. i have said it many times, when i play drama. Being a villain, i also raped girls many times... so it;s to easy to say will you marry me in a drama. But in real.. noooooooooo.... never.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
29 Oct 10
Oh come on Shiby. Just try it. It won't hurt, i promise.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
No never.. i am not again to listen you.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
29 Oct 10
I haven't tried that one !!! Do u really have someone in your mind? or just got this sentence from any movies? I always see this sentence in most of the romantic movies and guess this might be happening actually around me.. But i don't find anybody interested in me and i haven't got the time to use it !!! Why do Girls slap you, if u are asking her for a marriage proposal ? If u are in Love, ask your parents to talk with the Girl's parents and get married. If u are gonna have fun with it, then try somebody, but it needs a lot of workmanship in Love, u have to find the perfect girl for u and u have to make her to look into u and u both have to fall in Love and finally ask her' Will u marry me' ? and she will accept it and u can marry her, but it will take more time and u will have fun too !!
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
29 Oct 10
Let me stay in Peace and Marry the Girl whom my parents tell to Marry !!! I'm not a good looking guy to attract any girl and ask her will you marry me !!!! I will get an answer like " Why do u talk so funny? Have u ever seen your face in front of a mirror once?" So, it's better i keep quiet and stay calm and wait for my parents to get the fish for me.. I like to have some self respect and maintain some dignity ..
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Hi guna.. Why you have not tried? No, i have not anyone in my mind still now. No, not from a movie, just raised in my mind. hahaha.. we are in the same boat brother. No tense dude, time is not ever. not a devdas forever. need to wait... haha. Just ask? you may get the answer. Be careful. No, i am not in love. Let the perfect time to come.... Thanks for staying here. Have a nice day.
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@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
29 Oct 10
Sorry.
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• Singapore
29 Oct 10
Hi shi... I thought you are proposing to someone on this site....hehe.... Actually, my husband never say this sentence to me, we just discuss our marriage naturally, deciding on the date, venue and friends to invite etc. He is not that type to act romantically and will specially arrange something just to propose. I know you have been talking about your arranged marriage for quite some time, any progress? Even though yours may be an arranged marriage, you will still need some level of understanding with your girlfriend before you can marry her right?
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Hi moon... No, no no... why you think so? Any reason? Good, perhaps both of you had great intimacy before get married. right? If there are lots of understandings and meetings, then it's quot easy to express. I know. Hahaha.. no chance to marry someone within one year. Next 13 december is my sister's marriage ceremony. I have no girlfriend moon. So i think i have no time to love and will be ready for an arrange marriage. haha. Have a nice day.
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• Singapore
29 Oct 10
heehee, just joking with you, you know how I like to joke right? I don't really know how does your arranged marriages work, is your sister's one arranged too?
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
heehee, i know. I also don't how it will work? my sister marriage is a love marriage but their love lasted only one month then we arranged the date. After the confirmation of that their love continues still today on the back ground of an arrange marriage.
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• Philippines
29 Oct 10
Probably, it's kinda hard to say since the words spell a lot of duties and responsibilities too. It's not just about the wedding bells, the cake, and the number of guests, but it's truly about building your own family, which is a very serious matter. I have never asked my girlfriend to marry me, I'm preparing much for that big day.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Hi nero... Yes, you are right. After swearing it you are bound to take all those responsibilities and duties which are about to come. So it's not simple to say in a single breath. Hope you preparation will bring colors very soon. All the best. Have a nice day.
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• Philippines
29 Oct 10
I do hope so. I have too many plans for my future family. Thank you.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
You are welcome..
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@jharia20 (365)
• Philippines
29 Oct 10
That is the hardest and most difficult words to utter for person who are damn serious about their life. But to the brat and people who are not serious well i think they can say that easily. I haven't utter that words because it is awkward that it will come from the mouth of a girl right? but once my ex tell it to me. i didn't believe it. why?because we are to young to tackle about that matter. be careful in saying that words, because that can change the future
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Hi jharia... Really it's too hard and that's why i started this discussion to know your views. Easy to say if you are not aware about future, if you think deeply, then too hard. You are true sometimes it does not suit for girls. Anyway, you are too young now or when he said it to you? Have a great day always.
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@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 10
Oh very hard question to say to some one, there are chances that you get refuse. But you can only ask such a question from a person who loves you and who cares about you. In this situation it is OK, at least if there is refusal, you ll not get any slap but if you ask any of your class fellow, then there could be chances of slaps and with this some dishes of shoes and purse and every thing she finds. So be careful of the person to whom you are going to ask such a risky question. Be prepared for any reaction. And choose the place by your self, if you select a place consisting of every thing that she can pick up and can throw at you, then it ll be very difficult to manage, in my view, any play ground or part, is good, but make sure that near by there would not be any tree. Any how it was just kidding I think, select a girl, take your time with her, understand each other, care each other and go a head, tell her about your love and care for her, and definitely you ll not get refused, I am sure, if she loves you, she ll accept it... Mine was perfect, I did the same, started with writing a letter during school time, it was ignored, but I didnot put this thing back, give her a gift, she took it, then I came near to her during trips, when I thought it is now time, I spoke this difficult word and got.... rejected again,.... now I dun want to do it again but I think I have to make it third time....
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Hi saqi.. Good advice. But i never dare to say this as i hesitate a lot. Reading your story i would like to advise same that choose the place by yourself so that u never get hurt more. hahaha.. If she accepted your gift, then definitely there is a positive chance for the first time. Best of luck for the third time dude. Be happy always.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
22 Nov 10
this may sound strange but I said that sentence to my husband I knew he would say yes, not 100% sure but I knew the odds were in my favor It wasn't that hard to say because I knew what he would say and in my 20s I jumped into a lot of things without thinking arranged marriage hmmm I am not into that, but each person is different I guess
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@shibham (16977)
• India
23 Nov 10
Hi littlemel... oh... you have done a great job then, very brave friend. Perhaps you have not misstepped at that 20s. Yes, arrange marriage is not so common now a days... i know that. Have a nice day.
@chaitra001 (3278)
• Bangalore, India
29 Oct 10
Hi brother.. again you are confusing us.. I think you really got my sister in law and you are indirectly telling us LOL.. Ok now serious well I know though the words seem simple its difficult to express to your love.. Well I have not tried it but my husband asked me this 4 years back and I could see his face was full tensed and waiting for my answer.. Later after our marraige he said me that how hard he took courage to express his love towards me..
• Bangalore, India
30 Oct 10
Hi brother.. You too confused .. I am searching till now but dint got any one yet..
@shibham (16977)
• India
30 Oct 10
Hi chaitra.. hahaha... where as i am confused how i can make you clear? haha.. No, no... i told you to search, right na? So you have the evidence that what your hubby suffered before saying it to you. He better knew that you are about to accept yet he was tensed. Thats why i say that it is too hard to utter this sentence. Have a nice day.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
31 Oct 10
For me that words is not hard to express for the I love to be partner forever.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
2 Nov 10
But you know there are men really afraid to express their feelings and hardly express what they think put them into responsibility
@shibham (16977)
• India
4 Nov 10
Exactly. Lol.
@shibham (16977)
• India
1 Nov 10
Hi aerous... very nice to you. There are some brave men too, me not the same. hehe. Have a nice day.
• Pamplona, Spain
31 Oct 10
Hiya shibs, Well you have got me there too. I have been asked that before yes quite a few times and of course I did not want to marry them at that time either. I did not feel that good about it but they came with these kind of surprises right out of the blue. Most of them were totally unexpected I can tell you. Overwhelmed that was how I felt at the time. I also turned another last one down and never looked back. What a misery he would have made of my life. I think that I was so lucky for that inner voice that kept telling me no again and again. I later found out that I was right. So I did the right thing although I won myself enemies for this whole lifetime and I really don´t care anymore. Sometimes I see some of my Family the Women getting married and I think no don´t do that not with him and I have been right too. I would love to have them here sometimes and hug them but they make their own choices I cannot interfere with that. So who is this mystery Lady then? Ha you cannot tell I know but she must be someone very special. In time you will know someone I know it I feel sure of it. At this time you feel confused I think sort of cannot see the Forest for all the trees. Did I take up the last offer yes he is still here with me too I was very sure about that one although I don´t even know why myself. Actually I never felt like slapping them in the Face it was just that I did not feel right in that kind of relationship getting married is a big thing still. All the time on this Earth is what you have so don´t rush my Friend no rushing take it easy. At the time I was getting to know my present Husband everyone I knew was getting Married with Big Houses lots of Money the whole lot. Everyone it seemed was so in love this alone can make you feel out of sorts but then I was true to myself and thought no more of it. I just let if flow around me I could do no other. Take care now.
@shibham (16977)
• India
22 Nov 10
Hi angel... I am not too much attached with that lady and i don't think that she is the right one. Anyway rays are still here as you have said. Let time to come. Take care now.
@shibham (16977)
• India
1 Nov 10
Hi angel... Well, she is on my imagination and i have not found that right girl for me. Its true that if i once find her still i cant manage myself to say that sentence. It will take a long time before uttering that sentence. Many times, it seems easy to express if you neglect the coming responsibilities to that relation. I have seen some teenager guys from my locality don't hesitate to say it and the girl also easily accept but the future life of them are too bitter. In that circumstance Quarrel takes place on their married life and no hope and enjoyment are there. So i hesitate as it's hard to find out the right one for me. Its not a shirt that once i feel awkward i can reject. Its a life time combination and thats why its need to be sincere a lot before saying it. Have a nice day and take care too.
• Pamplona, Spain
21 Nov 10
Hiya Shibs, Pretty sure of myself that when you meet "the right one" you will be able to find all the right words for everything to do with "that Lady". I know you will. You don´t feel like that now but you will be pretty sure of it. Sometimes we can do things we think we are not capable of doing but you can wait and see. However I won´t make a prediction as to when but it will be soon I think.
• Philippines
21 Jan 11
When my boyfriend told me that many many years ago, I couldn't help laughing. It was supposed to be a serious talk but when he finally said those words I was starting to giggle. Many women would cry a tear of joy upon hearing this from someone they really care about but it became a funny scenario for me.
@shibham (16977)
• India
22 Jan 11
Oh... you laughed. i think he was pretty much sure that he will not rejected. Lucky guy anyway. I don't think that i will meet someone who will tear with joy. Anyway, so you are married with him? Have a great time.
@shibham (16977)
• India
25 Jan 11
4 beautiful kids. Nice that. Can we see their photos.
• Philippines
23 Jan 11
Yes I am married to him now and we have 4 beautiful kids. Well the woman won't have to shed tears of joy with you, a mere "yes" would be enough. ^_^
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
12 Nov 10
So you are afraid of commitment, is that so? because if you love that someone you're ready to risk. I think if you are really in love to her then you will be afraid to loose her.. so the answer is you must take the risk of saying it than sitting in the corner doing nothing till you regret.
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@shibham (16977)
• India
12 Nov 10
Hi baby... No, i am not afraid of commitment but i just hesitate to say it. I have a doubt all the time that if i am refused then its a matter where i think that i am insulted. Have a nice day.
29 Oct 10
These are hard words to say as although your relationship maybe strong, you never know what the other person may say or do. If the relationship is that good then maybe your lucky enough to get a yes, if they have to think about it or say no then it can cause problems with your relationship. Not the easiest of words at all.
@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Hi craigy// very true, without a strong relationship you can't utter a single word like "marriage". Thanks that you have the same tune with me..Not the easiest of words at all. Have a nice day.
@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Be careful. It's risky, you know. All the best.
29 Oct 10
So very hard, i have said them once before, and she said yes, it lasted 6 months. If there is to be a next time i intend to be very careful. lol
• Vietnam
29 Oct 10
Yes, i will! :)) Interesting discussion SHIBHAM. I imagine that i must be very difficult. And anyone who is asked for this question must be very happy. Wow, i'm waiting for that special sentence who could say to me. ^^ But i wonder why you will not be able to say that sentence. U can't choose someone who will marry with? Someone control you and will arrange it for you?
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@shibham (16977)
• India
29 Oct 10
Hi rose.. thanks for your interest. ohh you are waiting.... don't say publicly, you may be proposed at any moment. hahaha. joking.. Perhaps i am not able to find the right girl for me still today. may be i will able after some days or months or years... hehehe. I think my parents will do that for me as they know that i have no girl friend to marry. lol. Take care.
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@thedaddym (1731)
• United States
23 Jan 11
Well, I would certainly hope that a woman would not smack a man for asking her to marry him. That would make her very insensitive in my opinion. I think if you find a girl that you love and you know that she loves you it will not be as hard as you think to ask her to marry you. Of course there is reason to be scared, but if it is the right girl and she loves you then all should go well. I asked my wife to marry me on her birthday after we dated for 7 months. We were engaged for 4 years though. I knew I loved her the first moment I talked to her. Of course I needed to know she loved me too just as much and she did. Of course she said yes when I asked her to marry me.
@shibham (16977)
• India
25 Jan 11
yeah you are right. I think a girl never wish to utter this sentence first than the guy but if they are involved with each other fro years then the girl may proceed. But here she should be sure that her proposal will bring color. I think you are happy enough with your wife. Long live friend and what can i wish for you from far long away. Take care.
• Philippines
30 Oct 10
I guess its really hard to say if you're not really sure. I have tons of male friends and they say its hard because most men are commitment freaks. Being loyal to just one girl is one thing but taking it to the next level is kind of scary, they say. But according to my married friends, once you've found that one person worth giving up your freedom, its all good. Nerve wrecking but the feeling is great.
@shibham (16977)
• India
30 Oct 10
Hi yellowhipon.... Sometimes it seems too hard although you are sure in that relationship. Yes, you have found the right point there. Easy to say if you don't think deeply about future or what is going to happen next after acceptance. Feeling is great, i agree. Have a nice day.
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@bingchen (1119)
• China
30 Oct 10
i think that the result is too hardest.nobody speak to me like that.i think that he would be sad and give hime a slap and let him clear what he said.
@shibham (16977)
• India
30 Oct 10
Hi Bingchen.... After a long while i have seen you here. Any problem? Anyway, it seems that you are angry enough in real life. So who will dare to say you Will you marry me? Have a great day.
@asendud (318)
• Indonesia
2 Nov 10
but i think that's not so hard, i have girl friend and that's not hard because i always open to my girl. so it was easy to say, but to doing it that's the hard part. u must had a money, a lot of money, and to be a parent.. yeah that the hard part.
@shibham (16977)
• India
5 Nov 10
Hi asendud... All are not same friend. some are more powerful than another one. I think both of you are too close to each other, so you can handle it easily. Money, well. I think it is a part to survive. Have a nice day.
• India
30 Oct 10
It can be hard.. But.., Its were your life begins. Don't hesitate to begin your life, if you feel you are doing the right thing. Cheers :)
@shibham (16977)
• India
1 Nov 10
Hi friend...... Very right. The life begins with that sentence. I agree. Thanks and have a nice day.
• China
30 Oct 10
hello friend. i have ever said to someone but they don't refuse me just said that naytime is ok . you must know that this is just a joke. the last time i said to is my gf . and she don't laugh for this.and just answer me that . anytime is ok if you like . but you must give me a kiss. lol. this is what my feeling for this.
@shibham (16977)
• India
30 Oct 10
Hi friend.. next time... anytime.... its all joke as you have said. What would you feel if you say it to someone seriously and get a funny reply. Perhaps this happened to you. Am i right? Anyway, better luck for the next time. lol Have a nice day.