What makes people to cheat on each other?

Romania
October 30, 2010 4:39pm CST
What do you think, what is the main reason for partner's cheating on each other? Do they want more action in bed? Or they are "bored" to be only with that particular person? Or they want some adventure in their life? Can you tell me?
3 responses
• United States
31 Oct 10
Only a cheater would know the "right" way to answer this question. Being that I have been that person, I suppose I could give you some insight. What I will tell you is that no matter what the "reason," when you are in a relationship with a person, cheating is NEVER right, unless of course you happen have an open relationship and it has been discussed and agreed upon by both people. With that being said, when most people cheat I do not think it's a lack of self-respect on the cheaters part, in fact, I think they respect themselves enough to feel they deserve or need more than what they are getting in the relationship they are in. I'm not saying it's right by all means, but it happens. Many times you can communicate needs and wants to a partner but they just don't give. Instead of "manning" up and telling them you want to split, you get what you need or want behind their backs. Like I said before though, it's not right to hurt someone that loves and trusts you. It's best to just communicate with them. If they are not making you happy then you should end it before looking elsewhere. :)
• Romania
31 Oct 10
Couldn't agree more with you, you said it perfectly. I also think that communication is the solution, and a person cannot be so selfish not to give the partner what he/she needs if he/she isn't able to provide.
• United States
30 Oct 10
This is a tough one to answer my friend as sometimes there are no real answers for the action. It can be a combination of things, however my personal opinion is that they have no respect for themselves. Someone who doesn't respect themselves enough would certainly not respect their partners. Who really knows the answer to this outside perhaps that is it is just wrong.
• Romania
31 Oct 10
I think that this is a question of respect only when the couple hasn't agreed upon an open relationship. When you tell your partner that you are going to cheat on him/her and he/she agrees then it cannot be said that this is a lack of respect. I know couples where there is an agreement that they can cheat on each other but they still don't do it. So I think that it has other reasons, mostly physical ones. What do you think? Am I right or not?
• United States
1 Nov 10
Well if you are speaking of an open relationship now then and the couple agree and then when one of them says they are going to cheat then I suppose the other person cannot be upset as the initial agreement was to be open. Not too sure about open relationships as I am not one to ever agree to one, but bless those who do. As when I am in a relationship I will never agree to be in an open type one as I never share.
• Philippines
3 Nov 10
well it could be attributed to alot of reasons and discontentment is one of them. if a partner isnt getting enough or doesnt love and respect you enough then cheating is more likely to be the resort. especially if a person knows he can get away with it then its fine.