Family member that can not handle children

This is exactly what happened to my family. My sister is facing marital problems so she moved to my mom's house. My younger brother and his two kids and wife is also staying with my mom. When my sister's children come over to be with their mother, my brother will find something to irritate them so they will leave the house. Battle of words will fill the air between my brother and sister which will make the old lady confused and keep to herself in her room whenever she hears raised voices in the living room. I really don't understand why such trivial matters happen out of nothing. I am surprise to see my brother's unbecoming behavior of not able to accept other members of the family in our family home.

Sounds like your brother needs a swift kick AND to grow up. Too bad your Mom takes this "stuff" and doesn't throw him out on his ear. Have you told your Mom about your decision? She needs to know why the kids won't be coming over.

There is no reason for anyone to talk to your children like that. My brother was living with us and tried to do the same thing and I put him in his place the first time. He won't be allowed to be here if he would continue that. My daughter is a good girl overall and I do not appreciate him being rude to her. If I were you, I would tell my brother off and ask him to never speak to my child like that again.

I would not do that. This can be a lesson for your son on how not to act. He will meet plenty of people like your brother in his life and he should know how to deal with them. Maybe he could use his uncle as an experiment--try hugging him or saying something nice and see the reaction. Or ignore him and see if he shuts up. As long as there is no physical violence and you can assure him that his uncle has some mental problems, I don't see the harm in using it to teach him some valuable life lessons.

you need to talk with your brother about this. explain you realise hes having a tough time of things but these are just children. even if he cant handle children. he should just either go to another room or at least explain to them in a decent manner hes not up to having them around right now. he should see and explain to them that its not them. its his nervous condition which he obviously has

Very bad, in any form, beating a child is just cruelty, he is just a wicked person, the little guy was not asking any thing for just a phone number, I dont know why your brother did like this. And you mom should have to say any thing to your brother when he was slapping your child. Yeah, it is better to keep your children away from him, this is best solution, otherwise they may take effect of it and they may got some kind of hate in their minds for their uncle, but it is better to keep them away...:)

I don't really have this problem, although my parents tend to spoil my children far too much that they come home sometimes expecting us to give them all the money in the world and it simple doesn't work like that. I told my parents that I wouldn't allow them to have them on Fridays if they didn't start to discipline them as it was really starting to change their behaviour. My brothers good with them, though that's when his wife will allow him to play "uncle" and generally they only see him when they're at my parents. I hope you find out what's wrong with your brother, you have a go back at him.

haha =D It's kinda normal and common for man to dislike children? And as far as i know, most man really cant handle children.. haha =D It's not that we dislike or hate them for being a kid, it's their continuous disturbance that irritates us. On top of that, it has got to be their crying and shouting etc, which boils our blood boil.. hehe Maybe your brother happens to be in a bad mood that day, and thus your son has to take the consequences. Being at the wrong place at the wrong time.

In most other countries family helps each other out when it comes to child rearing. Africans believe it takes a whole village to raise a child. Does your brother act that way to his own children too?

how terrible,what a miserable so and so your brother sounds,why is he living at home anyway,by the sounds of it he's old enough to have moved out by now

It is so sad when there are people that are supposed to be parents but that don't really know how to be a parent. My sister-in-law is pretty much this way, she sends her kids to daycare full time even though she only works part time so that she won't have to deal with them. If that isn't really enough, she also rarely does anything with them unless it is something that makes her look good. I'm hesitant to take my children to my mother's house at times because of the fact tha she lives there as well. However, my brother and my sister and mom are very good to the kids.

Hiya jugs, Nasty situation that. After all your Son only went on a small Errand. What a way to talk to him after all he is supposed to be his Uncle too is he not? I would have felt annoyed too. A grown up Person should not be taking his own bad moods out on others especially when they are very young Children and most of all being Family as well. Maybe he has calmed down now and offered you an explanation or not. Well whatever I hope he says he is sorry at the very least.

Both brother and mom have to be spoken to, together in the same room, with no children around. "My children are never to be abused again. If I hear it's happening, my children will no longer come to this house". You can't control your mom unfortunately.

Oh, that was so rude of your brother to snap at your child and he had no rights to do that anyway. I would never allow anyone to shout at my daughter. If they do, they know that they have crossed the limits and would have to answer to me. And I make sure that I teach them the lesson of their life if anybody behaved badly with my child! I think you should have given him an earful and told him in clear terms that he is not welcome if he continues like this.

If that family member cannot handle children then they should have never had children to begin with.

You are right some people are just not good with children. Your brother just might be feeling bad about having to move back home. and was in a bad mood that day. I would not take that out on your children. Children love their grandparents and you shouldn't make your mother come over just because your brother isn't being nice. you should talk to your brotha and tell him not to speak to your children that way.

It sounds like there might be a little more than just the "not being able to handle children" going on in your brother's head. He could have something similar to bipolar or other mental disorder (mind you, I am not calling him crazy) as this is becoming more and more common as it is getting easier to diagnose. If he snaps at the mere presence of a child, I'd say he needs to seek some professional help.

Oh dear. That sounds like the child went through some misery there. I remember as a child there were one or two folks who just did not seem to like kids very much. Some of us kids did our best to stay well out of there way but as you know kids can be mischievous so some of our peers took to teasing or being rude to these people. It is bad when its your own sibling who turns on your child though. I can just imagine how sparks would fly if any of my siblings were rude to my kids. I am very protective of my nieces and nephews so imagine how much more I would be protective of my own kids. I hope your brother gets over his hang-ups soon so that he can enjoy his kids and nephews/nieces and they too can enjoy some quality time with him.

I don’t blame you for being upset because if anyone snapped at my daughter like that I would have quite a lot to say to that person! Your brother is probably not a ‘children’ person which is fine because not everybody is but there is no excuse for either not spending time with your kids or speaking rudely to your own nephew! I would be angry too!

that's good for you i would do the same thing in your place well maybe more i over react sometimes. your child is your child