Have you ever been attacked critically by the admin of any social site?

@zandi458 (28124)
Malaysia
November 2, 2010 1:36pm CST
This doesn't happen to many social sites but this particular social site that functions similar to mylot has the most sarcastic admin and moderator. The only difference here is their admin also participate in posting discussions. I happen to respond to one of the admin discussion and was shocked to be told off at point blank that I have offended her with my response. When I replied to her comments I told her that we are entitled to our own opinion and if my response doesn't auger well with her then she has all the rights to ignore my response or rather delete my response as is normally done in mylot without further ado. But this moderator did not stop without adding her sarcastic remarks. And one of my discussions was also being remarked by another moderator 'And why are you asking that?' I find it weird as a public forum, that the moderator acted unprofessionally and should not be overly critical on their members. As far as I can remember mylot admin has never questioned anyone on their topics of discussion and never interfere in what we write here. We are at liberty to voice our views in our responses and never been told off. Any infringement of the guidelines deserved to be deleted without publicly criticizing the OP or the responders. The professionalism shown by mylot admin should be applauded. Have you ever experienced such a situation where you have been attacked critically by the site admin?
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@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
3 Nov 10
Yes I was told off by a female moderator once and I told her to keep her site where the sun doesn't shine. I would not want part on it ant way!
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Great answer which I think will make her think deeply to be more diplomacy next time.
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• United States
2 Nov 10
I have not encountered as such, but know that if I did I would have to opt out of the site as I am a firm believer that no one, absolutely no one will ever on any online site take me out of my character. As I have far more problems in my off-line life to truly allow anyone to get that upset where it is going to interrupt my brain from my normal life. I certainly would not remain at a site where admin themselves were so professional as basically they call the shots and after all your hard efforts it is easy for them to hit the ban button and well there goes your efforts, earnings and blood pressure.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
My random response to the moderator"s discussion asking for good ways to teach kids to be reliable was It is our duty as parents to instill good moral teaching to kids from young to be obedient, reliable so they grow up to be useful citizen of a nation. From young they should be taught to be god fearing and the rest will be easy to mold them. She thought this response was offensive to her as an atheist.
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@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
NO, I dont remember that I have been attacked critically by any social site, I am using different social networking and other sites to share my ideas and to connect with my friends and family but I was never attacked like this Have a nice time...:)
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
I am also into few social sites and most of the admin are friendly and doesn't interfere with members of their site. This one site is something odd. The moderator will just say something rude if she doesn't agree to any of the responses.
@saqi78 (1402)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
I think the same, the problem is with moderator, actually I have seen this, when ever there is a new person, in any profession, s/he ll show his/her presence and for that they can do or give any comment, so I think the moderator is only showing his presence, just ignore this type of people Be happy and be the reason of happiness in others life....:)
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• South Africa
26 Nov 10
I did have one experience like that some time ago and I left that site and so did several of my referrals to, you should post the name of the site here and see if others have had the same prob you can mention the site without posting the full http so as not to get this discussion banned, its good to tell others I think.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 10
I think I have written the site name in one of my comments in this discussion. Anywhere, I am still with that site but not very active as I am here. It is FunAdvice.
@Memnon (2172)
7 Nov 10
It does seem odd for admin to criticise members for expressing their views! I do belong to another site where moderators have been known to mistakenly cancel members accounts, and hide behind anonymity to deny responsibility: leaving the stranded member to somehow prove that they had not done so themselves, and struggle to recover their rewards.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 10
I think that the owners are not honest and try to do monkey tricks to avoid paying their members.
@Dday50627 (359)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Hello dear Lady. Hugssss... It would seem that there is a fine line that administrators need to walk. they are there to "moderate." thier purpose is not to impose their own persnal thoughts to discussins but to be sure that no discussion gets out of hand or goes against any of their rules. In so involving themselves in discussions, they leave a door open that has a sign on it saying "We Are NOT an unbiase site and you do NOT have the freedom of speech which is entitled to you." In this alone, they place themselves and the site in jeapordy of losing the very means that keep this site open... their contributors. Unless a rule has been broken or something has been written that may bring harm to the site, then moderators should simply "observe." I myself was called out at another site in a very terribly rude way. Not being one to be silent, I vented my disappointment and my anger directly at the administartor. She then fired back at mean which only infuriated me further. Rather than act the part of the moderator, she fueled the fire inside of me. The result? I, a contributor of over 39 articles that had one 53 awards for my articles, simply left the site, taking with me before I left, copies of everything I had contributed to the site, never ever to return. Far too numerous are social sites and paying writing sites for me to ever worry that I have left one because of abuse. Simply said, their loss, not mine. I hope that you are able to come to some peace concerning your issue here. I have never recieved a single payment from this site here and do not even know what the payout threshold is. I only know that thus far I have no issues with anyone here. I am sorry that you have, sweet lady. Continue your writings as they are inspireing and you DO have a following of your words and questions. I am one of your greatest fans and think the world of you. always know I never miss what you write but choose carefully those that I respond to, Hugsssssss for you. Always, Darrel
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Hi Darrel, these administrators are practising double standard. Their guidelines are quite clear on behavioural conducts yet they are not practising what they preached. I don't think it takes a lot of efforts to be polite but they chose to administer their site with arrogance which irritates and annoys others. Administrators should develop good manners and diplomacy to be able to be effective in a social site.
@Pyroo8 (121)
• United States
3 Nov 10
Naw that never happed to me be for wha site was u on anyway and that is messed up that we got these internet Gangstas lolollo
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
It is not good to reveal this site here but if you wish to know I will pm you the name of the site. But you must request me to be your friend first.
• Canada
3 Nov 10
That is pretty crazy stuff. I have never been involved in anything like that before and personally I wouldn't have wasted the time or words going back and forth with her even though your right. I'm a member of a movie forum site and I'm good friends with the owner and all the mods and that's the way it should be. They don't mind my personal opinion on there comments or movies and they have never expressed any type of anger for my own opinion. I think some people just take things way to seriously and to heart like the admin of that site your talking about. Although it's not weird that a owner is posting on his or her own site, it is messed up that they would verbally abuse you over your own opinion. I recommend just spreading your experience like you have here only everywhere and let people know its not worth their time if they can't even freely leave comments without being attacked.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Once their admin take matters too personal others views are seen as useless. Rather than accepting varied views from others, which it should be, they refused to acknowledge others views might be able to fit in with other members. Their high handed approach is so unprofessional for a social site.
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@bunnybon7 (46803)
• Holiday, Florida
2 Nov 10
yes i have. but it wasnt a pay site. it was a site where we interact and the administrater just baraged me with attacks about what i had posted. even though many of the other posters agreed with me and left the site with me. some that didnt want to give up the site, just stayed and emailed me privately that they didnt agree or like the way she sometimes attacked people but still needed the site for certain things. so, that was that.
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@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
2 Nov 10
This is a paying site but showing their supremacy by acting unprofessionally is something that is not welcoming to new members. I am new there and was surprised by the way they handled the site. It is so unfriendly. They instigate other members to join in their ranks to add insult.
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
3 Nov 10
I have never come across such a rude administrator! To publicly criticise someone is not admirable and very unprofessional. We should have the freedom to post whatever we like within the rules and not be questioned as to why….I read in one of your comments what your response was and I am astounded that this moderator would be offended by it. She is an atheist and must be aware that not everybody else. You should have replied that as a God loving person you are offended by HER lack of belief! What an idiot this person is!
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
I wanted to 'teach' her by saying something to that effect but it will create a chain reaction that might favor her since she has the upper-hand. Even keeping my silence after that response, others are trying to add salt to the wound by inciting nonsensical comments. I don't want to prove my points further. It is only a waste of my time interacting with a person who is not open-minded.
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@paula27661 (15898)
• Australia
3 Nov 10
You are probably right, sometimes letting things go can also prove that you are the bigger and better person...
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Am proud and unbending in honest defeat. Let her eat all her pie for now.
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@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Nov 10
If you're talking about MoraChat, I had words with the Admin there after some of the mods complained about me (short responses). He dared to tell me that I had been warned several times in PMs, when in fact it had only been one. We had words and I got banned. Good riddance.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
It is not MoraChat dawn. It is FunAdvice. I quite like that place but since their admin is of one kind, I would rather not be there for a while.
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@dawnald (84213)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Nov 10
I've never heard of that one, but if the Admin is like that, I don't blame you for not wanting to be there.
@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
3 Nov 10
no and thats just not right. if I was on that one I just wouldnt tl to admin any more and just might get out of it unless I was earing good with talking to the other people!
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Being new to that site I am yet to find out the earning possibilities there. But it has a lot of similarities with mylot. Quite established as it has been in operation since 2003.
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@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
3 Nov 10
beign on that long they should know better!
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@Cutie18f (9560)
• Philippines
3 Nov 10
Hmmm....I have learned to forget that. It is not a pleasant experience and it is better left forgotten. I just move on with my life and not make a big issue out of it if we have to stay long in this business.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
As a matter of fact, silence is the best option but exposing the issue clear my chest.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
3 Nov 10
Yes, i have gone through such happenings in a different way. I was once promoted as a support team member for a technical forum, where we give all technical solutions, i was at the top among the support team and provided many solutions to the admin as well as some moderators and to the members of the forums. I was busy with my project for quite a few days and i wasn't able to login, suddenly i was thrown back to a normal members state from the team member state..I asked the admin why i was thrown back, he reported that i was not active for some days, i told some reasons , he replied, if u live up to expectations , u would again be the support team member, i tried and he made me the support team in a short period of time... While i was active , suddenly my star went very low and i was thrown severely back to a junior member stage, i asked him again, what was the reason, he told me to read the rules of the forums, i read it twice, but there was no connection between...I told the admin, i was doing good as a support team, but why was this made, he told not to ask anymore and that time, i went off from the forum.... That is the solution, if somebody among the admin and the moderator group is annoying much, then it's time to quit forums !!!
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
I don't understand why few of the social site admin/moderator are treating their site as their personal property and victimize those who shine or show some credibility. Your case in point is a clear cut that they feel threatened by your presence. Over exerting power in a social networking site is not going to earn them goodwill but will instead create bad image among social active people online. It is puzzling why they are bossing around in a social site if they can't accommodate others views. It only irritate others to watch their actions. Yes, quitting is the best option.
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• Philippines
2 Nov 10
Hello zandi, I believe the only solution there was to leave the site and spread the word on how BAD the admin is.. there's no way i would allow myself to be humiliated. certainly this admin wants to run in his little kingdom on that site putting down on others.. well, admin here has always been professional, and that's why i never leave the site. unlike others when they are free to hate, which is not healthy
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Mylot is where we belong. Even those who were once banned or voluntarily left rejoin mylot as mylot is still the best site around. When the admin of a site show rudeness or are not diplomatic , that will spell disaster sooner or later. I would like to warn others not to support that site if I happen to see people promoting it in mylot. It is only wasting time to be involved in a site where the admin behaves as if others views are unworthy.
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@tuamora (79)
• United States
2 Nov 10
I have gone on other sites, and as a voyeur I would witness some unnecessary abuse. Thus far, I am happy to say that I haven't seen any abuse on this site. I feel rather welcome as a newbie. Even in discussion forums with differing opinions, people are rather courteous to share there views. Thank you myLot for such a great site.
@zandi458 (28124)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 10
Hi tuamora, welcome to mylot. You have landed yourself in the right site. This is not only user friendly site but the admin and members are equally great people
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